To Quit or Not to Quit That Is the Question

That is not a lot of extra money for the stress it is causing you. If it were me, I would quit unless they could promise more pay and less 'annoying' disruptions for things they can handle on their own.

Mom, As upset as you are I would not quit a job until you have another to start. In this economy it doesnt make sense to quit. Personally I would go in and ask for a raise since you have added responsibility with the newest building and sound like you did not get a bump in pay for taking that on. If they say no, then cut bk to the 2 bldgs only It sounds like you are being taken advantage of by working harder with no add'l pay. Good luck and hang tough with this.

The way I weigh these situations is that if I have allowed someone to repeatedly cross my boundaries and I'm feeling abused/taken advantage of, then I'm done.

Tell your boss, that while you like to help him out, this last stint, as a VOLUNTEER made you almost quit, so either:

1.) He can pay you for the 3rd building and get them to pay for it.
2.) You will still do the other two, but not the 3rd one.
3.) You will quit altogether.

You might be surprised. The answer is always NO, if you don't ask. Who knows? You might get that roof paid off faster!

I got fed up and quit a job without first trying to get a raise. I then found out they gave raises to all those who asked because they were tired of everyone quitting. Ask. You might be surprised.

When the job stress out weighs the benefits of the extra cashola... it's time to say "g'bye". Give yourself a break. 2k a year is not that much. Give up something like starbucks or soda and you'll still have the 2k at the end of the year ;)

the nice thing is that quitting your side job doesn't mean you're unemployed, you'd just lose a VERY little bit of extra money in return for getting rid of a lot of stress and headaches.
hon, even if they were paying you a reasonable amount, they'd still be taking advantage of you if you can't ever take a vacation or a day off.
but they're not mind-readers. if you agreed to the situation, went along with 'volunteering' for the 3rd building (i can't imagine why you agreed to that ) and haven't been firm when they push the parameters, of course they're going to think it's all okay. you have to tell them, in polite no BS terms, exactly what you will do and be firm that you will do no more than what you have stated. and get it in writing.
if they don't like that, quit the side job. you can EASILY make 2K doing something else in the time it will free up. a side job that won't come with so much stress and baggage.
but don't go to your boss mad. sit down, be calm and be very very professional. have all your ducks laid out in a nice neat row, and present your case concisely and clearly.
good luck!
khairete
S.

If you need the money, and if you have a good boss, perhaps you can let your boss know that the "volunteer" thing isn't working because the people in building #3 are not following through with their support. You should get paid if you are doing all the work. Give him the option to put something in place where they WILL help support you, or you get paid to do the additional building.

$2,000 a year is not a lot of money. How many hours a week do you do the job? I bet when you break that down per hour, you will see how little that really is... tell your boss, you need to get paid for the 3rd building and show him what you are making per hour to do the job. Hopefully that will open his eyes, and you will get paid more, or you will have to leave. My husband has a second job that he enjoys doing, he works about 8 hours a week at it, made about $3000 last year (no deductions) and when we had our taxes done, we asked how much the second job was really adding to our income. He works a lot of overtime at his regular job, and if he didn't have the second job, he would have had about $1000 more back in taxes, so for all the work he did with the second job, it was really only worth $2000, hardly worth it to me.

Sounds like your 'side job' is really just a second job. You are totally being taken advantage of! The little extra money may be nice, but you are being asked to do more work for free. If it were me, I would tell the boss that the if he expects you to do all this extra stuff, then you need more money (you tell them what you want and prepare to barter, but have a fixed idea in your head... always ask for more and expect to barter down from there). If they don't want to do any of that, then they can 'formally' hire someone else.

Sounds like you should at least have an honest discussion with your boss, letting him/her know that you either need more money to continue doing these side jobs, or they need to find someone else to do them. Have a clear picture-on paper- of all your duties, tasks, hours spent, etc. that this side job requires. It sounds like they are taking advantage of you and you are letting them. This does not need to be an emotional issue for you or them. Just be clear, plain speaking, calm, and lay it out for them to consider. Be friendly, but firm. And, also let them know that if you are called on your vacation time, you expect OT pay for those issues. :)

I would hang in there. You had a day off, you were in the right to not answer your phone. If you are really fed up, then work up a resume and send out some applications, but please do not up and quit until you have a new job lined up.

I was laid off for 10m before someone offered me a job.

M.

You're right it's not worth it. However, if you quit your "side job" will that effect your real job. That's whats at stake here.

I would have a chat with your boss, you can approach it one of two ways.
1. Tell him you can't do it any longer as you have other obligations that will require your time.
2. Tell him that you've been spending much more of your time doing the side job then in the past and that if he would like you to continue he's going to have to increase your salary.

Have another job lined up before you quit! You can hang in there talk to your boss and let him know you deserve the time off just like everyone else and that a more comprehensiveness compensation package may be in order too. Good Luck!

Look for a new job every day - search all of the websites (careerbuilder.com, monster.com, hotjobs.com, and my favorite - indeed.com (indeed.com pulls jobs from all of the websites) Get yourself a new job first - then quit - especially since you are a single mom.

I can understand why you would be angry. Seems like they are taking advantage...However, if you want to quit what is your back-up plan? Do you have other employment lined up? You said you're a single mom? Is the father in the picture paying child support? If you quit with no other job do you have savings to live off of or are you looking to live off of welfare?? Many of us don't like our jobs or wish we could stay home but can't. Good idea to have a back-up plan..Maybe you do and just didn't say.

You're in a tough situation. I understand the urge to quit, but it doesn't sound like it would be that easy. If you did quit, it could be they stop paying you the extra but still take advantage of you.
I would take some time to cool off and then really think about it. What is it that is bothering you the most? Is it the coming in on your vacation? Is it that you feel taken advantage of? I have two suggestions, but only you will know if they are feasible for you.
1. Talk to your boss. Tell him that you need him to assign a backup only for when you are on vacation and unavailable. Type up a document with everything your backup needs to know. Then, stop answering your phone when you're on vacation. Let them puzzle it out.
2. Ask for a raise. It sounds like your boss really needs you to do this, so talk to him and tell him that you're frustrated and it's taking more time away from you than you realized/wanted, etc. Asking him for a raise may not make the hassle go away, but it may make you feel better about it when it arises. (especially if you can get the new roof sooner, right?)

The main thing is, don't make any decisions when you are angry. Cool down for a week or two and then talk to your boss about it. It may work out.
Good luck!