I was wondering if anyone knew anything about becoming a surrogate. I had my first child 16 months ago and had a wonderful experience. I loved being pregnant. I am wondering the process for becoming a surrogate mother. Where do I start? Is the use of an attorney critical? How do I connect with a couple in need? I would also welcome any advice about being a surrogate in general? I am not sure I am done having children of my own...I just loved being pregnant and would love to be again...but am not sure I want my children to be so close in age and am not ready to care for another infant just yet. However, since I loved pregnancy, I thought maybe surrogacy would be a prefect alternative for me...and a way to help out another couple in need.
I'm not sure who you contact but I do know that you and your husband will have to be interviewed and couseled. They want to make sure you understand and are emotionally stable to carry this child and then hand it over to someone else.
theony thing i could suggst is to talk toyour doctor about it. mine told me wemon like you are put on a list and called when neded. i would start there. i hope this helps
That is such an awesome thing to do for someone! I loved being pregnant myself and thought that if ever someone I cared about, family or friends, couldn't have a baby themselves I would definitely do it. I just would be afraid afterwards that I would want to keep that baby when it got here. With both of my babies I was in love with them before they were born and could never imagine giving them up, so I would be really careful before you decide you want to go ahead with this. And I would think that having a lawyer would be a good thing to do in case anything comes up. But first I would see if there are family members or friends or friends of friends who are having difficulties conceiving, as I think this would be best to do for someone you know a little. I say go ahead with it if you are completely sure you can give a baby up, but I guarantee it won't be easy, but I absolutely think you are a wonderful person for being so unselfish as to want to give someone the gift of parenthood!
Wow how brave of you.. I loved being pregnant also but I also love holding the baby after, I personally could not just give that baby away that grew in me for 9 months. Your husband will have to be involved in this also. I have heard that if the husband says no that there is no way that it is aproved. Have you talked to your husband about this? How about your children they will have to understand that even though mommy is going to have a baby that the baby is not comming home to live with them.
The best of luck for you
I have had the exact same feelings. I have two children and loved being pregnant both times. I researched surrogacy on the web and found some very helpful information. This is a highly emotionally involved process, for all people involved - you, your husband, your child, the other parents, etc. It is wonderful that you are considering it, but you should definitely continue communicating with everyone involved; perhaps seeking a counselor who has had experience with this in the past and/or more informed surrogacy agencies.
