Sister Drama - Hamilton,OH

Oh Lordy...the Shower Drama. I am telling you that happend at my shower and then it just happened again at my friends shower. Everyone want to throw the shower but noone want to do the work.
Personally I would cut through all the BS and throw your OWN shower and invite all of them. You can tell your MIL that you are having a sister family issue and think that if she threw the shower it would cause more stress on you than it would help. But tell her she can help plan the shower with you. If you sister gets mad, well then that is her choice. i would tell her you decided to do your own shower becaue everyone was getting you all stressed out. Sadley you should not have to throw your own shower, but to save some heartship down the road, that is what I would do.
If you dont like that idea, you can just confront (nicely) to your sister and say "hey I heard that because you are mad at me you dont want to do the shower..is it true?" see what she says. if she says yes then just tell her that MIL is going to do it.
Oh I HATE it when something nice and fun turns into a soap opera. Good luck. Its got to be frustrating for you. Hang in there though.

I agree with Momof4. Ask your MIL to call and tell her she will throw the shower. You guys will make up at a later date and you should enjoy your shower!

Tell your sister that your MIL is now throwing your shower. You don't need anything more for her to be angry about yet you deserve the shower.

can you ask MIL to call your sister & let her tell her she would like to have one if sis isn't

I would tell your sister about this and not let her find out from your MIL. Even if it's an email or text. Just let her know your MIL is going to have a shower for you and you hope to see her there. Good luck to you. Enjoy your shower :)

I would call your sis and tel l her look, this is not worth fighting over.....you would love for her to give you a shower, but if she doesn't want to, that's fine. Then tell her that your MIL has offered, but you didn't want to hurt her feelings.......and you might say you would like her to do it instead if you feel you must.

If your sister is still being a pain, thank her and tell her that you are going to let the MIL do it......

Don't let these negative nellies get you down......let them go their own way and you enjoy that upcoming baby girl.

If you weren't expecting, I'd say give it a little time and see things work out. However, that is not the case and obviously plans need to be made. I would definitely be up front with her, so as not to "fuel the fire" by her finding out later which will just make her angry. Either give her a call or write a short note explaining that your MIL wants to give you a shower and you thought it might be simpler since the two of you haven't yet worked out your emotions.

Just call her, tell her you're sorry she's so upset with you and that your MIL is going to take over the shower planning from here. You'd love for her to come, and your MIL would be happy to have her help if she changes her mind about not wanting to be a part of it.

Talk to your sister. Tell her that you understand that the two of you are in a disagreement right now and that it's okay that she does't want to throw you a shower. Also be honest that you did not ask your MIL for a shower, but she has offered, so the pressure is off of your sister. Then walk away & enjoy the shower!! :)

If I were you I would call the sister that's mad at you and tell her if you're not giving me a shower my MIL would like to......it's not worth fighting over.....and if she doesn't want to participate then that's her choice! She shouldn't punish you for a stupid argument!

OH THAT SUCKS. I had family drama with my first with my mom as the party planner. Was I supposed to just let my mom get away with it because she's my mom? Ugh. Anyway. I had a friend who stepped in and threw me a "friend" shower. I let my mom do the "family" shower. It was less dramatic. If you are still speaking to your sister then just talk to her about it. Tell her you don't want to inconvenience her with a whole big party would she like to split them up and have your husband's family with the MIL party and your family at hers? Then you invite your friends to the MIL party so that they don't have to witness drama. Perhaps you can rally another sibling to do your bidding? Or, tell the sibling or friend to offer your sister help so that the focus isn't on her? Babies are happy occasions don't let this family drama ruin it.
You could also bite the bullet and apologize even if you think she's wrong. Opinions are like (insert bad word) everybody has them.

Your sister and you will eventually make up over this disagreement; after all, you are family and you love and care about one another. That being said, you will show your sister that you care and love her by being open and honest with her. Do not let her find out about your baby shower via your mother-in-law, that will just cause more hurt feelings between the two of you. You need to tell her yourself that your mother-in-law has offered to do the shower, since your sister has decided not to go through with hosting it for you. Tell her you love her and you hope that she will come to the shower as it won't be the same without her there. Perhaps that talk will give perfect opportunity for you both to also clear the air and make up over the disagreement. You can always say, "let's agree to disagree and move forward instead of holding hurt feelings against one another." I hope that helps. Life is too short to hold grudges - you both need to let things go and move forward with your sisterhood.