I had twin boys, I breastfed them till they were 1 year old... they are 2 years old now...but I have a problem being intimate with my husband I don't like him to touch my breast I want to make love to him but I don't want him to touch or kiss my breast...What should I do??
Thank you so much for your help to all of you!!! I really appreciated your honest answers...I talked to my husband the way I feel and He is helping me to overcome all my body issues...It's been great so far. Yes! is very hard to see how your body changes after birth, I went thru 6 IVF failures and my 7th I got my twin boys, so I'm very thankful to God for this beautiful blessings! So now is my turn for me and my husband to enjoy, so I will continue to work on my situation together with my husband and I know everything will be fine...Thank you all!
Just talk to him about it. My nipples are super sensitive and I can't stand it when they are touched a certain way. When I'm PMSing they are extra sensitive. I just mention to hubby before hanky panky that they are super sensitive and to steer clear of them. I think he likes the challenge of going all around them being very gentle with them.
Just tell him.
Hon, the nerves wired weird after the twins. When you touch my breasts I feel like throwing up. Maybe it will go away, but for now? It's like taking a cold shower. Can we just get some pretty lingerie and lock the girls away for awhile? I really don't want to throw up on you.
(or sub nausea for whatever you're feeling.. See below)
Nerves rewriting after nursing is common. Some get more sensitive (direct line to god), some less (um, my nose feels sexier when stroked), some wire to a kind of nauseous feeling (pardon me while I puke), some trigger needing to pee (accident 'need'), some become painful (whaddaya think you're DOING???). The weird wiring is fairly rare (nausea, peeing, pain), but it does happen. Most commonly, women lose sensation (part of why breast lifts are common. When you have a direct line to god, ya don't wanna mess with that!).
Have you tried talking to him about it? We all have issues that we must work through. You will need his help to overcome these feelings. I'm nursing my second child, and I've never felt weird about my husband touching them. But he has also always been very accepting of my nursing relationship, and he makes me feel comfortable with all of it.
So many things change after kids. You may have to force yourself to overcome this. Like when we don't feel like being affectionate at all but we do because the hubby needs it. Good luck.
Try to ease back into things slowly. I know that when I nursed, I felt as though my body was not my own anymore! Explain how you feel to your husband, and hopefully he will understand.
I would just tell your husband. I have never really enjoyed my husband touching my breasts during sex and he knows it. He doesn't love it, mind you, but he respects my wishes. I like it sometimes and I just tell him and it's all good!
As long as you are still interested in everything else, I really don't think your husband will care all that much. Be open and honest, he'll be okay!
I think it is normal and you just need to give your self time. He will understand. Best way is the open communication..... wear a bra or something sexy for him to view but not touch. :0)
It is not easy to get past, but you can do it. Ease back into it slowly, its the only way to replace thoughts of your kids instead of your hubby. I have nursed both of my children and successfully switched back to letting my husband touch me there again. Its weird at first, yes...but keep trying.
It's hard for your body to go from a breeding feeding machine to feeling sexy and confident again. Just talk to him and be honest so he doesn't feel rejected. Men can be so sensitive that way!!
Talk to the doctor about this. It is something you need to actually work on and figure out. This has gone on too long and it is affecting your marriage. It isn't really fair to your husband to put this part of you off limits to him.
Please go get some help.
Dawn
