Seeking Older Mom's with Empty Nests

R.,
Boy, can I relate!!! "Doing nothing" is so difficult - you never know when you're done - and you can't take any breaks! ;P Truly - Nothing is worse than Boredom!

I'm a pharmacist and at 58, I took 'early retirement' to start my own company, a web-based software development business. I've never been so excited or passionate about anything in my life (with the exception of my own wonderful husband and 3 grown sons, of course!)

Matter of fact, if you've got the time(LOL)..., I could use your opinion on my website! Take a look <www.ontimerx.com&gt; and tell me what you think. We're about to do a total site "make-over" and I need to know what works and what doesn't. Contact me on the Contact Us form if you'd like to share your opinions.

I know lots of people who have started businesses on eBay. I'm thinking of doing that myself, just to start clearing out all the "valuable junk" we've accumulated over the years. I'd hate the thought of any of my sons (or their wives) having to go through all of this stuff - if anything were to happen to us!!! Selling it off now might even prevent some squabbles later - over 'who gets what'. (Wouldn't it be funny if they got in a "bidding war" over some of my things - on eBay!?!?)

Along another line, I'd like to volunteer at the library for the Adult Literacy program - if I had the time. Can't think of a better thing to do than to help someone learn to read so they can enjoy books as much as my family always has. Just wish I had the time <sigh>...

Have you heard this term - "Sandwich Generation"? Anyone who is caring for their aging parents and their younger kids, is 'sandwiched' between generations. Sometimes those caregivers need some help. If you drive, you could run errands for someone who is caught in the middle like that.
For what it's worth.
Good luck,
S.

Where do you live? I'm seeking a new full time sitter for my 17 month old son. I'm not too pleased with the sitter I have now.. I pay her $100/wk while I work Full time.
I'm a single mom who lives in Ft. Pierce but work in Vero Beach. I have no family here in FL. I'm 35.

Lol...I read ur post and it made me laugh simply because I can't wait until I can sit back and say I've done my job as a mother and have free time on my hands. Ahhh to be able to sit back and say "My what a beautiful, independent and successful woman I have nurtured is my goal" CONGRATULATIONS! I am sorry I can't give you any advice however if you get bored I'll be more than happy to bring you mine so you can keep busy...just kidding...lol! Get out and have fun...go on vacation...YOU DESERVE IT! Feel free to send me an e-mail if you need someone to chat with. I get bored as well. xoxo

I don't consider myself an Older babyboomer. I was actually born at the end of the "babyboomer" era. I am 44 and have had the empty nest for almost 4 yrs now. Boy, it doesn't seem that long.
I am a mother of two, married to my high school sweetheart. We are soon to be grandparents. Our son is 23, in the military stationed in Eygpt right now. He has already done two tours of Iraq. Luckily he is still single. Our daughter, 21 is married to her high school sweetheart (the three of them son, dtr and sil) they have known each other since they were 8/9 y/o. Anyway, dtr and sil are expecting their first child end of Feb.

As for me, the first year our son was gone, I was a wreck. Then when our dtr got married, it became worse. I ended up on antidepressants. I had to find something to help besides working. So, I work full time, my hobbies are photography and civil war reenacting. I am trying to find a excerise buddy to help motivate each other. I also read and love to play tourist (go to other florida cities and just be a tourist.

Hope this helps.

I still have a full nest- 4 little ones, but I saw my Mom go through what you are describing and was great to see her find herself again after all those years of being MOM. She is now 58. She got involved in things that interested her- she started out riding her bike around the neighborhood and now participates in 100 mile bikeathons. She also volunteers at Habitat for Humanity and has learned to drywall, tile and some plumbing. I am not suggesting these things are for you, as it depends on your interests, but just look at yourself and things that you enjoyed before MOM took over and get back in touch with you! You and your husband have an opportunity to go out and do things together and grow to another level together. You also have time to help others and that will often bring great rewards.

Change is good, it is all about your perspective! Many blessings to you and your family!

A.