Seeking Moms That Have a Toddler Under the Age of 3 Years Old

Updated on January 01, 2009
V.J. asks from Bedford, TX
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I have a 26 months old son. He is perfect in every way! Recently as 4 weeks ago, when he gets his feelings hurt like when he has has toy or his animal taken away, he starts to cry and proceeds to a continual dull moan that escalates up and down an octave in an everlasting tone. he won't talk during it, but even after the tears are gone, he continues while playing, walking, or sitting on my lap. He is almost self soothing, but will not stop making this noise. It is irritating at times, it doesn't happen with any consistency or happens on a regular basis. Not sure what triggers it, never the same occurrence, but can continue up to 2-3 hours at a time. Can go to sleep and it has stopped. When asked later what happened, he can tell you why or an example like "I was mad at sissy". We have two other children, ages 12 and 13 1/2. Both siblings are very loving towards my toddler and interact with him on a regular basis. My husband is very loving towards their brother as well. We are stumped as to what is causing this and it is driving us crazy! Have any of you experienced any thing like this with one of your children or have any clues as to what he might be doing or what we could do to help him. We have tried scolding him, time out, talking to him, cuddling him, everything. nothing has worked.

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J.D.

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All I can say is that it is probably just a stage. He will get through it and the best thing you can do is ignore it. If it bugs you, just leave the room he is in. It really is something he is doing for himself and should not be punished for it. In fact, the more things you do give him attention for this behavior and lend to it continuing.

As with most things, you just have to remind yourself that you don't see adults with this behavior. This too shall pass.

GL!

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K.K.

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One of my children will continue to whine when the incident is over and we offer her the option of going to her room until she feels better. If she continues, we take her to her room and tell her when she feels better, call us and we will bring her down. That has nipped it. Not sure it is the same thing, but that has worked for us. I want them to be able to sulk if needed, but they can do it in their room once we have made sure all is good and cuddled, etc. just as you said. But when if feels like she is manipulating or wanting attention from it for longer than necessary, up to her room she goes. Amazingly, she recovers quite quickly.

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V.T.

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I agree with Kelly and CH. He is carrying on, either for attention, or maybe he starts and just decides he likes the sound of it so he continues. Regardless, if time out doesn't work, I agree with having him go to his room or away from others until he is done. If it's for attention, he'll stop, if it's just because he likes the noise, then he can do it all he wants without bothering everyone else.

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K.P.

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I have a child much younger than yours and have not dealt with a situation like this, so please take my thought with many grains of salt. The self soothing behavior makes me think of an autistic tendancy.

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C.H.

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It sounds like he is finding his voice. Make his room his special place to moan and groan. He doesnt need to bother the rest of the house with it. Let him be himself in the privacy of his own room.

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R.H.

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when our son carried on, we used the 'distraction' tool that made it difficult or impossible for him to continue...usually his favorite drink or snack would get him to stop long enough to forget why he was doing it in the first place. maybe it can work for your lo too?
HTH!

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