Second Time Infertility

Hi L.,

I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. It took me 3 yrs of infertility treatments before I had my first child. My situation was different. Most of it turned out to be due to my hubby. He had to have surgery with a Urologist. I have a close friend that has a similar situation you are going through. She would get PG then not carry more than a couple wks. I believe it was due to low Progesterone level. I recommend to go to a Infertility Specialist if you havn't seen one yet. Also a very helpful book to check is Taking Charge of your Fertility.
Best of luck & hang in there-

L.,

I am sorry to hear about your fertility trouble and your frustration. I too have fertility problems so I understand what you are going through. If you have been trying for 3 years to get pregnant there is no reason to wait another 6 months before taking the Clomid. I would find a second opinion if I were you. I have wonderful OB/GYN in Libertyville and another in Kenosha, who were great treating my problems and thanks to them I have 2 wonderful and healthy children and one on the way.
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Good Luck!
J. M

L. - I had to go through fertility treatments for my daughter and my current pregnancy. When we originally tried getting pregnant I feel I waited to long before seeing a fertility specialist. Six months is a long time to wait in see I would definitly see a specialist to get their opinion.

I have to agree with the others - there's no reason to wait another 6 months to start Clomid - get a 2nd opinion. I conceived easy with my first child (2 weeks after going off the pill for 2 years) and used Clomid to help with the 2nd. Your doctor has obviously gone through all testing with you - has your partner been tested as well? Once my physician knew that we were both "working with all cylinders" and had been trying for almost 2 years, we proceeded with the Clomid. My medical history is extrememly complicated and my physician was unwilling to "wait and see" any longer. Her name is Dr. Virginia Kelly out of TRE Medical in Downers Grove (office building attached to Good Sam Hospital).

L.,

I was 34 when the doctor finally had me try Clomid. She also did an IUI ( interuterine insemination). This worked the first time. Has the doctor suggested doing that. It is a clinical way of getting pregnant, but it worked.

For my second pregnancy at 38,I was put on Clomid again ( no IUI) , but this time I had twins.

Good luck.

L.

Dear L.,

It took me a long time to get pregnant the first time. I went to see a doctor on the recomendation of a friend of mine. He was the best doctor ever. He is very successful. He kept me sane, and was as aggressive as I needed him to be. Waiting 6 more months would not be acceptable to me.

My docs name is Dr. Aaron Lifchez he is at fertility centers of illinois in Oakbrook (there are other locations at well). Number is ###-###-####. This doctor also took into consideration that my insurance didn't pay for any of my treatments or medication.

One more piece of advice. Take a vacation from everything. Go somewhere with your husband (even if it is just a weekend at home or close by without your child). Relax, don't think about getting pregnant just focus on enjoying yourself, being a couple and feeling "normal" again. I know that when I was going through infertility, I was in crisis mode. I was so stressed, which made my husband stress. I was h*ll bent. It wasn't good for me, or my relationship with my husband, or our situation. It may be just what the doctor ordered.

You might want to switch doctors. If you have been trying for over a year, then you are a candidate for fertility treatments. I went through fertility testing/treatments in 2005 and got pregnant in January 2006 using a combination of clomid and inter-uterin insemination. My little girl is now 5 months old. My fertility doctor is located in Orland Park, but I think there are other offices in the Chicago area. If you are interested, I can send you the contact information. It seems like you are unhappy with your doctor's choice to keep waiting it out. It might be time for you to explore your options. whatever you choose, I wish you luck!

L.,
I feel your pain, and in my mind, i wouldn't wait 6 months. I am going through the same as you -- only i had to go throguh fertility treatments for my first child also. I pray that you don't have to go through what I have in terms of fertility treatments, but I would certainly get a second opinion.
A.

Thank G-d no experience with this but what about going for a second opinion? If age is not on your side why should you have to wait 6 months? That sounds like too long already. U have been trying for a while. Go get second opinions or third until they put you on something or get the ball rolling sooner. I would hate for you to wait and then not have luck merely because of age. If nothing is wrong then you should be getting pregnant. Clearly something is wrong and the doctors need to be more aggressive so that you can have a healthy happy baby --soon. I wish you all the luck and may G-d grant you your wishes for a child very soon.

Hi L.,
I'm also sorry to hear about your troubles. You are not alone, I'm going through secondary infertility as well and am 38. I will probably have to have surgery to remove a bad tube, and am hoping the remaining one is OK. All this stuff is scary and it makes it worse when you hear the clock ticking in the background. I really know how you feel! I don't have experiece w Clomid yet, but I agree w the other moms, there's no need to wait 6 mos. I would go get a 2nd opinion from one of the docs they recommended and start fresh. I have heard of a wonderful fertility doc named Kaplan in Lincoln Park, let me know if you need me to track down his number. I know several people who went to him and had success. I'm thinking about trying relaxation techniques and possibly accupuncture too, might be a good idea. Best of luck, keep us posted!
E.

Hi L.,

I would get a second opinion also, just to put your mind at ease. My DH and I went to see Dr. Wood-Molo at Rush after a miscarriage and 9-mths of trying with Clomid. After various tests, I also had surgery and then tried IUI with Clomid and it worked on the 2nd try! I can't say enough great things about Dr. Wood-Molo :)

Once pregnant, I was also put on Prometrium as my progesterone levels were very low, and it could have been the issue with the first pregnancy.
I would also suggest accupuncture. If you are interested, I have a referral of someone that specializes in women's health issues including fertility. She was referred to me by Dr. Wood-Molo.
We used the ovulation kits, and I also charted my basal temperature each morning. We even had fertility candles and fertility figures in our bedroom - we were open to everything!! :)
Good luck - and don't give up!!! I am now 39 yrs old, and after our 3-yr "baby adventure" am the proud mother of a 9-wk old little boy :)

A.

Contact Homefirst Health Services www.homefirst.com
They will probably suggest an all natural Progesterone cream. It's worked for many women!

All the best!