im a student who has to be gone alot and my girlfreind does the same should i take the next two semesters off of school to tend to my child i know the first year is the most important (just a little advice needed)
Is there a way to stagger your time or study online for part of it? That way someone can be with your little one that isn't daycare. Talk to your school and see if they have some support. Many students have families, so there may be something to help that you're not aware of. Good luck!
Yes, the first year is important, but so is your education.
I second the part-time student angle. Once you take a break from school, it will be that much more difficult to get back in the mindset.
You don't have a lot of details here.
I have 2 kids.
My Husband, while working a FULL time job... ALSO went to school at a university.
MANY students nowadays, are non-traditional students. ie: they are married or have kids or also work full time.
It can be done... IF you want to dedicate yourself to it and be responsible.
While my Husband was a student, he was busy... 24/7, seven days a week. Day and night. School, and keeping up your grades and projects and homework and studying, takes a lot of time. AND yes, you have a child.
It is not.... only the 1st year that is important for a child and parent... it is EVERY YEAR, that they are a child, that is important.
So, if you take off of school for this 1st year, then what? Next year and every year, is important for a child.
And if you take off of school, then will you... go back and finish and actually get your degree?
Going to school, takes a lot of commitment. And especially if you have a child. And are your working???? You have a child to raise.
Some parents, do not finish school and nor get their degree. Because, they have a child or children. And simply do not find the time or have the ability to finish.
CONGRATULATIONS on being a Dad, I wish you luck whatever you decide
Can you be a part time student?
Are you working full time as well?
Could you and his mom take turns one goes to school day and one goes at night and keep him with you that way?
Does your school offer a nice daycare?
So much to think about....
Redefine "has to be gone a lot".
Being in school only REQUIRES being gone for the time your bum is physically in the chair in class. All the EXTRAS are just that. Ditch the study groups, library studying, pub crawls, potlucks, SBOs, widely scheduled classes (morning class, 4 hour break, evening class) that you stay on campus for the whole day, extracurriculars, etc.
That leaves MOST students with being gone 10-15 hours a week including commute.
A HECKUVA lot less time than even a part time job.
Now... Babies sleep a LOT. Its in pieces, but they do sleep. When do you study? During the 12-18 hours a day they're sleeping. You only need 7-9 hours of sleep, that's 3-11 hours of studying. Every day.
Its the DREAM "work at home / set your own hours" job.
After you figure out how to study during morning & afternoon naps, and after bedtime at night?
Then add in the occasional study group/ club/ extracurricular / SBO/ etc.
Just make sure Mom has that opportunity as well.
What worked well for my ex & I while we were both in school back when was he got Saturday, and I got Sunday. Meaning he had our son from wakep until bedtime on Sundat, & I had him Saturday. 1 whole day a week for paper writing, research, study group session, boys/girls nights, whatever. We each had school M-Th. Friday was family day. Sat his. Sun mine.
Other student families work out different schedules. But that was ours.
This will be the EASIEST time.
Working 40+ hours? Then coming home & working again? Or 14 hour days being a SAHP w no break?
1000x harder than skipping a kegger or 21 run, or studying in hour blocks at nap time.
When I had my first child both my husband and i worked full time and attended school. After one semester of this we realized that it was too much for our family. I took a break from school so he could finish his degree and i could focus on the baby. Then when my husband got his degree, I went back to school. This is what worked for us. I think it will be different for each family and you need to think through what will work best for you.
The answer to this question is not simple. We need much more info before we could give advice.
If you stay in school, who would care for your baby? What options do you have for her care?
How sick is the baby's mother? Perhaps she could take the time off and stay home to take care of the baby. This seems more reasonable given her health issues. One of you needs to stay in school so that you can earn more money than minimum wage and be self-sufficient.
Which reminds me is money not a problem? Do you work now. Who is paying for your needs ? Would they or you be able to pay for child care?
If so, it's quite possible that your baby will receive good care from someone else so that you can continue your education. Where are you attending school. Do they have a nursery/child care availble for students?
These are issues that first come to mind to be considered when thinking about dropping school. I suggest that you find a counselor, perhaps at school or your church who can discuss everything that is involved in making this decision.
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