Ready to Give up on Motherhood.

Wow S.,
Thank you for your honesty. You probably feel all alone and that you're the only one going through this. Let me just say that this is quite normal to be overwhelmed as a new mommy. I PROMISE, it will get better. :) I think most of us can relate to being "mentally,emotionally, and physically drained." I know I certainly was at the end of my rope too. It took my son and I 15 weeks to get breastfeeding down and he didn't sleep through the night until he was one year old. (Don't be discouraged). I think the hardest part of being a new mom is to not get wrapped up in expectations or comparisons of what "should be", especially when other moms say what their kids are doing. Each child is different. The reality is that babies don't generally sleep on our schedule
(or through the night); it takes a long time to adjust to each other. (Adults don't sleep through the night either; we just don't remember waking up). Here are some ideas that may help:
1) Ask someone for help--you may feel like you have to do this all on your own; but if you need someone to watch your cranky baby a few hours so you can sleep, do it. We all need help; this is the time to ask for it!
2) I highly recommend watching "The Happiest Baby"--it's a video on helping fussy babies rest and I wished I'd had it with my first child (It made life much easier with number 2,) I also recommend "wearing" your baby. I suggest Moby Wrap. Go to mobywrap.com or mobywear.com (I can't remember which) This really helps a baby rest when they're close to your heart. I was able to take naps too with the baby in my wrap next to me.
3) Find a pediatric chiropractor; a lot of babies go through some sort of trauma in birth and this can them a lot of issues, from neck and back pain to locked jaws to digestive issues. They don't need a ton of "work". (My chiro used her pinky fingers to adjust my 2nd child); but it makes a HUGE difference in their development and comfort level.
4) Since you had a c-section, you've probably had to be on pain meds. It is very likely that your son may have gotten addicted to the meds and may be having withdrawls. (This happened to a friend of mine). Some women's breastmilk metabolizes faster and some babies get more drugs than you suspect. Find some red raspberry leaf (bulk section of your local health food store) and make tea out of it. GUZZLE this down everyday. (I drank a good gallon everyday. My friend who also had a c-section said this helped her immensely.) It's a blood cleanser and will help get toxins, meds, and hormones flushed out of your system and the baby's and help manage your post-partem depression.
Don't forget to take care of yourself. Get fresh air or a manicure and don't be too h*** o* yourself. Babies are both a blessing and a ton of work. You can do it! This is just a season and "this too shall pass."
Peace and Grace to you S..
J.

Hi S., my last daughter doesn't sleep much either. It's easier now that she is 6 mos old but still hard at times. How I personally got through it was to have her in the Snuggly or whichever carrier you prefer. Sometimes (not all) I would be able to pull her out and put her in the swing to continue sleeping. Other times I would just leave her in there no matter what I was doing. Hang in there, we are all pulling for you. Please let your personal physician know what is going on so you can get help before you feel like there is no hope. We ALL feel like that at some point about something in motherhood. I wish I would have known about this site when I had my first daughter, I could have saved a lot of tears. Hugs to you!!!

Hi Stephanie–
I was recently talking with my midwife and her assistant about a friend with a baby who was discontent and spitting up alot (and who is breastfed) and was sharing the story about when my daughter (12) was a baby and how fussy she was and how LITTLE SLEEP she seemed to need ... sometimes only 5 hours total per day. My midwife's assistant is Gina. She is also a lactation consultant and said that this was totally consistant with baby's whose digestive systems can't handle lactose yet—Even through breast milk. She said that after a while, baby's digestive system will likely develop the enzymes needed, but for now it's best to cut back on dairy products while nursing. I shared this info with my friend who had the fussy, spitting up baby, and 2 weeks later, she is thrilled with how happy and content her baby is. I only wish I would have known this when I was dealing with my daughter and her sleep(less) issues 12 years ago!! She seemed so uncomfortable.
Anyway, this could be an easy fix ... and a non drug-related one.
Good Luck and feel free to email me at ____@____.com for Gina's information if this interests you ... she is in Pueblo West.

I have a baby who is 12 months old. He has yet to sleep through the night. He is having his adenoids and tonsils out in hopes to help. I know how it feels. He was up every 3 hours to eat until he was 7 months old and every 4 from then until now. I have found the different stages of exhaustion. There is the head ache tired, the bleary eyes tired, the dry eye tired, and the my eyes won't quit leaking tired. Hang in there. The first few months are really the worst as your body is getting back into normal hormonal levels. I think I cried for the first 3 months myself. My husband would take the kids during the weekend and I just slept the entire time...One time I went to lay down for 10 minutes before church. My husband woke me up when they came back after church was over. Best mother's day I had in a long time!

I also agree that if you can afford to quit your job, I would just on the hopes of getting more sleep. You need to take care of yourself. Sleep on weekends to help with the week days. It is ruff, but when they start smiling at you and are happy...and in a few years...you will be grateful for that little guy!

S., I know what you are talking about. After giving birth to a premature daughter at 29 mos 4 days, weighing 1 lb 12 oz, I got a blodclot after the cesarean (I rather have a cesarean without anestetics) and drove back and forth to the hospital twice a day for 8 weeks. I thought when I got home with the baby that everything was behind me, until we found out that the hospital staff had gotten this little miss used to being up at night and sleeping during the day. I was furious. My husband (active duty military) and I took turns every night to walk with this child, sleep with her on our chests, rock her and trying everything to get her back to sleep. She was usually awake for 4-6 hours every night. As she got older she started to sleep more, but she did not sleep through the night until she was 4 1/2 years old. That night I woke up and got up to check on her, because I thought something was wrong and when I found her sleeping I put my hand in front of her mouth to make sure she was breathing. There is an end to what you are going through and I hope and pray that you will be soon through this.

Does your part time job keep you sane or would you be better off trying to catch sleep during the day? I had a 5 year old at home that I was homeschooling and I was able to take every opportunity to take a nap. The 5 yr old would pretend to be my nurse and I slept until the baby cried for food etc. (I had a very behaved 5 yr old, that never got in trouble while I slept). Taking my 5 yr old to school and picking her up would have been crazier than homeschooling her. I made it and so did my husband, without any support groups to depend on or relatives nearby. If you have family or a support group of any kind, Ask for help! Trust me if you only get to sleep through one night a week, you will be in heaven. Gather friends, family and anyone that you trust that is willing to help you and set up a schedule with them to help you out. We all think we have to be Super-Moms and do everything on our own, but the real Super-Mom is the one that know when to ask for help and be grateful when receiving it. Don't feel guilty, your time will come to repay the service rendered. Good Luck!

First of all, I just want you to know that you are not alone. If you are in the Denver area, I would be glad to help you. I am a mother of six young kids and recently widowed. I also had difficult pregnancies and a c-section that kept me in the hospital for 17 days after. Then had a preemie with special needs. So, I completely understand how hard it can be to be a mom. You should talk to your Pediatrican and your OB. I would like to know what baby slept through the night at 2 weeks or even 2 months would be pushing it. I don't believe it for a minute, so don't let this bother you. Breastfeeding is tiring in itself. If you are tired and not eating or drinking your milk production will slow down. So you also need to try and eat and drink fluids. By the time I got to my last 2 kids, I was exhausted from the nursing. Formula feed babies don't eat as often and sleep longer. You are doing a great job keeping up with the breastfeedings. Also, most BF babies don't sleep through the night at 3 months. Sleeping through the night meaning 6-7 hrs. How long has you little darling been crying, has this been something since birth or something new? Maybe reflux, or just gas. Keep a journal of what you eat, maybe something doesn't agree with him from your diet. Try Mylacon drops, or the generic are just as good. Is he spitting up a lot after feeding? Might be relux, keep his head upright, elevate his mattress by putting something under his mattress. If your husband will help you, try pumping and giving him a bottle. It can refrigerate it for, if I remember right, 24 hrs. You can also freeze your milk then just thaw as you need it. This might help you so someone else can help you with feeding. But, sometimes the baby might not take a bottle from
you. That is why I suggest someone else try first. I hope this helps a little bit. Please, call your doc. Remember, it isn't the babies fault he is crying, this is just his way of communicating with you he needs you. If things ever become overbearing, please call the Children's Hospital help line. You can alway come back to Mamasource and I'm sure someone will be able to help you through the moment. Best of luck!

Newborns need about 16+ hours of sleep so something is wrong if he is only getting 8 hours. I would talk to your Pediatrician. There is nothing wrong with asking family, friends or anyone to come help you out so you can get some sleep. Now is a good time to pump and have bottles so you can get some rest!!! There is nothing wrong with that at all.
Make sure he isn't fussy due to stomach issues, Mylicon drops were life savers for me with my daughter.
It does get easier, promise. But ask for help! If your husband is oblivious then it is truly time to give your son a bottle and make him responsible for feedings at night!!! There is something going on, maybe not bad if your son isn't sleeping during the day. Make sure he is getting enough at feedings too which bottles can help you measure that. He may not be getting full enough to sleep during the day and is restless. You can let your baby scream for a minute or two and put him in a quiet room, darkened room during the day, turn on a music box and see if you cannot get him to sleep by himself.
Good luck, hang in there! HUGS! We all have been there.

I hope I can help you. I would wrap my son up tight in a blanket with his arms to his side. It is like he was still in the womb so he felt secure. I hope this helps with him crying when you lay him down. Oh also don't hold him all the time. It is good for him to cry though. If you feel yourself losing it just put him in his crib and walk away and take a breather until you regain yourself.

As far as him not sleeping all night try pumping some milk and having that ready for during the night. Also does he have a pacifier that he likes? It might be a sucking issue with him. His sucking needs aren't getting fulfilled. When you put him to bed and he is up in a couple of hours then try the pacifier before the milk. But I would definately wrap him up tight so it feels like he is still in the womb.

Hope this helps you out and good luck. :-)

S., i know what you are going through. My daughter is 15 months and sleep through the night but it wasn't always like that. i too had a c-section and i nursed my daughter for the first year and my daughter ate every 2 to 3 hours and NEVER missed a feeding so i know all about no sleep. What i found to help me and her get some sleep is this. I always started her out in her crib at night and i got a sleep positioner. It holds your baby in nice and snug while they are in their crib so it still feels like they are being held. You can get one at walmart or kmart or any baby store. Then in about 3 hours when she woke up i would nurse her in bed with me and i would fall sleep while she ate. She would too and so i could get about 3 hours sleep before she woke up again. I didn't want her to get into the habit of sleeping with me and she didn't. As she got older she started sleeping for longer periods of time. By the time she was 6 or 7 months she was only waking up 1 to 2 times a night and by the time she was 11 months she sleep from 7:30 to 7:30. Believe me i know how hard it can be. I thought my baby was the worst sleeper ever. I was so tired one day that i just cried to my sister and told her to never become a mother because it is the worst thing you can do. Of course now i love being a mommy and my daughter is such a joy. But the first few months are SO HARD. Please email me if you ever need any more help. And remember This too shall pass.

My daughter didn't start sleeping through the night solidly until 4-5 months, I feel your pain. We alternated her naps between the bouncer seat and the swing, both cranked up because she absolutely loved the motion. And whenever it was possibly my husband took her for a ride in the car. She would fall asleep immediately. And on nights when I was just too tired to do the up and down with her eating, I brought her to bed and laid sideways so she could nurse. We'd both fall asleep and when she was hungry everything was already available to her.

I also agree with the other moms, get a sitter. Your parents, his parents, siblings, anyone. You just need a moment to take a shower, bath or nap. Just shut your door and go to sleep. Don't feel guilty cause most mommmy's can't do it all by themselves. Just take that moment, your baby will thank you and so will your husband.

Good luck and hang in there! :)

I agree on trying to eliminate foods from your diet to try to see if anything you are eating is causing him enough discomfort that hes not sleeping.

My first didnt sleep through the night until she was 2 and my second is sleeping better than her older sister ever did but still not sleeping through the night at 1 year.

My youngest had the worst sleep habits when she was a newborn. I finally realized that she was reacting to dairy. Anytime I had soft dairy like soft cheese, milk, ice cream, she would have a bad reaction and would just scream and scream and not sleep. It was really hard because at the time my husband was deployed and with another toddler in the house, zombie mommie was just not a fun person to be around.

It took about 2 weeks after I cut the dairy out of my diet before she started sleeping better. Not well, but better. Now she sleeps for 5-7 hour stretches at a time and its wonderful!

I would also recommend if you havent tried it yet, is co-sleeping. Especially if you are breastfeeding its so the way to go. I tell everyone that I breastfeed cause I'm lazy. I co-sleep cause I'm lazy. When you are breastfeeding and your baby is sleeping with you at night and wakes up hungry, roll over, pull up your shirt, make sure he latches and then go back to sleep. Breastfed babys do not need to be burped most of the time so it was great in those early sleepless days to co-sleep.

Also if you havent tried babywearing yet, I would highly recommend it. It is a total Godsend and so incredibily helpful at calming a fussy baby. Maybe you wont be able to sleep while wearing him but he maybe able to sleep better cuddled next to you, hearing your heart beat. Try a ring sling since hes a newborn or a pouch. You can find some resources here www.babycottonbottoms.com. Shes a local colorado springs business and you can go to her warehouse and get fitted before you buy.

Also I would also like to second talking to your doctor about the way you are feeling. I went through a pretty hefty bought of Post Partum Depression after I had my second. Its very common and can be amplified by not getting any sleep and a fussy baby. They put me on Zoloft and it helped so much I cant even tell you. Even though I still wasnt getting much sleep I felt like a person again and was able to be a better mother to my two girls.

I hope that some of my long-windedness helped you. But just so you know that you arent alone. As moms, we all go through this.

HTHs

I have a family member and not one of her 4 children slept much. They sleep "normally" now and there are no adverse affects. Do you have any help? When your baby sleeps you should be sleeping everything else can wait. If your working part-time are you pumping? If so why can't someone else takeover feedings so you can sleep? Ask for help.

Hang in there. I don't have any family up here and have found it hard not to have any help too. If I could help by giving you a break sometime I'd be willing to. If you'd like to meet I set up a email address just for you to contact me at. ____@____.com. I did not deal well with my second child, so I really do understand and I know it seems too far away now, but it does get better! We survived and are now at 9 months (and I have a 2 1/2 year old) I have a wonderful mommy friend that helped me thru. Please let me know if I can help!

Hey S., I know you have gotten a lot of responses, but wanted to let you know, I thought I was reading my life story when I read this!! I to had to have an emergency c-section. I had VERY bad back problems afterward and my daughter was constipated, had acid reflux, and she was cholicy. I also ended up getting a uterus infection and had to spend an extra week in the hospital. I went back to work full time 6 weeks after having my baby. I swear I didn't get ANY sleep for like 8 months after I had her. Oh yeah, when she was 7 months old I found out I was pregnant with #2. I thought by this time I was doomed never to sleep again. But there is light at the end of the tunnel. I did not breast feed because I was out of it so long after the surgery that she got hungry and they gave her a bottle so she would not latch on after that. I ended up switching formula which helped. I got her on medicine for her acid reflux, and that seemed to help too. I would rock her to sleep in the recliner, and once she fell asleep, I would just recline back and go to sleep. Wasn't very comfortable, but neither was staying up all night. By about 8 months she had pretty much grown out of it. Then came teething, but that's a whole different story. I hated it when people told me it would get better, but guess what, it will. Also, I learned that sometimes you should just put them in the crib and let them cry while you either go outside for some fresh air, or go to a different room where you can't hear them, even just for a couple minutes. It seems like the more stressed out you are the more your baby acts up. Good luck, and when hubby gets home, give baby to him, and go take a nap. Take care girl, and I know how you feel!!

Hello, I'm also a new mommy with a 2 month old. I agree with the others that it's wise to see if someone else can watch your baby so you can rest. Have you tried pumping and feeding from a bottle? Some babies won't take a bottle but my baby took it just fine. It is easier because other people can feed the baby... so you can have someone else watch him or even ask your husband to get up in the night every once in a while. From what I understand, it's not uncommon for babies to not sleep through the night until they are at least 4 months old. Have you talked to the doctor about your babies lack of sleep? Babies that are 3 months old usually get at least 12 hours of sleep, so maybe see if the doctor thinks there is a problem. Most of all, just hang in there! I know it's hard but everyone keeps telling me it gets better! You're so strong for getting through the c-section recovery while dealing with these issues with your baby. Keep going!

S. it just kills me to hear your desperation, but there is hope. First let me say that I am a postpartum doula, I would love to try to work with and your family to find some peace and sanity, if your interested. Also here's a few thoughts...sleeping through the night is a relative term, most people who say their baby does so, may just not be aware that their baby wakes throughout the night because they do not fuss. Sleeping in blocks of 4-6 hours at that age is normal. Breastfeeding babies process breast milk faster b/c it's easier to digest then formula, therefore they nurse more often than formula babies. At this age it is also not uncommon for them to be going through a growth spurt which can cause additional nursing time. Check out Dr. Sears books and/or website for more info about sleep & development.

My friend and I both (but separately, before we even met) sometimes had to just put our babies in the swing. I did it with my first to help him switch his days and nights, because like you, I had a c-section and a hard recovery (it's harder on you when you've been in labor before your surgery than if it's scheduled). I didn't want me or him to become dependent on the swing, but golly, girl, you're desperate! Your baby isn't getting enough sleep, either. My friend used to leave her babies in the swing all night. I don't thin I was ever that desperate, but maybe you are!
Another thing that helped when my son just wouldn't sleep was to lay down with him on my chest in the middle of my queen-sized bed. He wouldn't roll off the bed (but sometimes I'd move him off of me to lay beside me), and we'd both get some rest. That way you don't have to put him down, which wakes him up. I never slept really well with my babies in bed with me, but it's better than none!
I also used to nurse my sons to sleep, laying on my side in bed. We'd both doze off, and it was exactly what I needed.
Is there someone who could come over to hold the baby for you during the day sometime? Just for an hour or two while you nap?
And have you asked your pediatrician about your baby not getting nearly the amount of sleep that he should? Maybe he/she can help.
Good luck. I hope something helps so you can feel like a human again!

I really like what Julia had to say. She is right on! Also, though it's been a few years, I know how you feel because this is how my first baby was. She was colicy, fussy, didn't sleep for long stretches of time, but it did get better, and I learned how to adjust to her needs and still take care of myself. (I'm so glad my most difficult baby was my first because the next three have been much easier! Totally different temperaments and personalities.)

We also found that co-sleeping with our babies was the best way for all of us to get good sleep. Anyway, be sure you get out, with or without baby, and talk to other moms who can empathize. Another thought is that perhaps working part time right now is too much. Being a mommy is a full time job, and your baby is letting you know how much he needs you. In the long run, it is all worth it. Hang in there, and check in again to let us know how you're doing.

S.,
My son is almost 10 months old and it is still very very rare for him to sleep through the night. It will happen I promise. My suggestion is get a swing one that swings side to side and front to back. Cuddle him down in that turn it on and walk away. That is what I did with my son. He would watch the mobile and the motion rocked him to sleep. Then I could get a short nap or get some things done that I needed to do. Hope this helps.

First and foremost I want to sent much love and hugs your way! GREAT job on breastfeeding and continuing to do so through all of this! I too had a c-section and a tough recovery so I can feel your frusturation. I assure you it will get better.
Formula might help him sleep longet becasue the protiens are bigger and take longer for him to digest, however it does not contain lots of the good stuff that mommy milk does. Kids breast fed for thousands of years before formula was invented so I encourage you to keep on trucking becasue nothing is better.
As for sleeping.....there are a few tricks you can try. Here is what worked for us:
1. Happiest Baby On The Block-your little guy is not to old to start benefiting from Dr. Karps methods.
2. Infant Massage-You can take a class at most local hospitals (Boulder, All Exepla's, Rose)
3. Try putting a fan in his room for ambient noise or you can buy a noise maker at Target or Babies R Us.
4. Bed sharing-My daughter is 4 1/2 mo. and now sleeps in her own bed, but when I had jury duty for 2 weeks when she was 5 weeks I had her sleep with us becasuse she slept longer and I needed sleep
5. Swing-Often my daughter takes naps in her swing. It is ok to do that so you can get some rest and be able to think clearly again! If your son can't sleep without it I think it is okay to slowly wean him of that in a few months after you feel back to your old self. It's for your sanity.
6. Bedtime routine-ours includes a massage
7. Let him sleep on his side.

I hope you find something that works for you and the little guy. It will get better I promise!

If you can pump yourself empty and let someone else deal with the feeding even if it just for one night. You will probably wake up full and ready to feed him, but you will be rested.

Do what you need to to keep your sanity. You will be a better mother for it. If you need a break or some help, let me know. I am a SAHM of 1 and can make time so you can be the best mommy you can.

Good Luck!
____@____.com

I felt the same way, I have a 2 and a half year old and an 11 month old. My 11 month old gets up 3 times a night and my dghtr didnt start sleeping thorough the night until she was 2. The doctor told me to put him in his crib and let him cry and go in there every 15 minutes to reassure him everything is ok and eventually he will fall asleep. It doesnt work. I give him a bath and put him in his car seat with a warm bottle and rock him.. that works I also sometimes have to go on car rides. You can try it, I say whatever works to get you some sleep. Maybe it is time to switch to a bottle now

Having a baby is life changing--in both good and bad ways. Sometimes when a mom uses a baby sling (babyholder.com) the baby becomes more content and actually sleeps. You can then leave the baby in the sling, lean back in the recliner and nap, or leave the baby in the sling, set him in a baby chair, and gently back out of the sling. My babies do not nap well, and the sling was a great tool for us. Many babies sleep best on their mother--in your arms while you read a book, in the crook of your arm while you nap laying on the bed, etc. This is normal, though in our culture we assume babies will be independent so we're disappointed when they aren't. If you wait until your baby is in a deep sleep (20 minutes after falling asleep), you may be able to put him down, but you may not! That's normal. A book I love is Parenting the High Need Child and Fussy Baby by Dr. Sears. Even if your baby isn't fussy, it has the best parenting tools in it. Another wonderful, smaller book is 25 Things Every New Mother Should Know by Sears. Find a breastfeeding support group through your hospital or La Leche League (llli.org) and surround yourself with mothers you can vent to and who can support you during this time. Good luck.

Dear S.,
I see yopu have already recieved a lot of responses. You may already have this situation well in hand, but I wanted to respond because I know what your going through. I am a mom of six year old twins. They were born c-section and had very low birth weights. I also breast fed and the twins were not sleeping through the night by three month either. It becomes so draining and seems to consume your whole life. I promise there is light at the end of this tunnel. What finnally worked for me was adding formula a couple times during the day and a rice bottle before bed. It is kind of controversial and every mom has to do what they feel comfortable with, but it worked for us. We would add a small amount of rice formula to the bottle and slightly enlarged the hole in the bottle that we used only for the feeding right before bed (the rice bottle). I used a pin to slightly enlarge the hole in the nipple. Not every baby will take both the bottle and the breast, but after some perseverance both of my twins did. When you do this be really careful to monitor how much milk comes out when your baby starts drinking from it. You will know right away if he's getting too much, also make sure he's able to get it out. It may take a few tries but for us it was well worth the effort. The other thing we finally had to do was let the kids cry until they would go back to sleep at night. It was one of the hardest things I have ever done as a mother. I felt so guilty, until it worked and they finally were on a schedule. I'm sure you have read many parenting books and may already have this in your library. We used the book "Babywise". I didn't agree with everything in the book, but the schedule was a life saver for me. The best news is your baby will soon be past this first exhausting stage. It is an eternity while your going through it, but I promise you will experience the Hallmark moments we all dream of when were pregnant, and they are not that far away. I hope so much that this helps and both you and your little one are able to start sleeping!
Sincerely wishing you sweet dreams,
K.

S.-
All I can tell you is to hang in there-it will get better! Get some help...family, friends, husband or whoever so you can rest! My son didn't sleep through the night until 4 months, but that only lasted about a month, and he was back to waking 3-4 times per night off/on until 10 months. He had severe reflux and nursed every 2-2 1/2 hours so I slept on average 2-3 hours/day for the first few months. I'm sure you hate to hear this, but you WILL make it, and it WILL get better. If your son is crying when you lay him down, it's okay to sleep in the rocker with him for a while, provided that he is safe and secure (ie on a boppy)-I did this many nights just to get some sleep. Also, see if you can let him scream for a little while. Sometimes it is only 15 minutes or less and he will be out. Another option is a co-sleeper so he is close to you. I do recommend talking to your pediatrician and your ob...maybe some PPD?? If you have any question that you may have PPD, PLEASE TALK TO SOMEONE. Otherwise, it does get better and the little baby boy will the be greatest joy in your life! And remember that you are NOT alone in this situation. I'm sure you will get hundreds of responses from women that are/were in the same boat as you!! Good luck!

I did not read the other responses so this may be repetitive. I am the Mom to two kiddos, one who began sleeping throught the night at 8 months and the second who did not sleep throught the night until 18 months. My second started sleeping throught the night as soon as we took him off of all dairy and all gluten. I would suggest a radical elimination diet give it the full two weeks to see if there is a change and then very slowl add back foods--definitely stay away from dairy, soy, gluten, maybe eggs and corn--start with organic or natural chicken and veggies--it is hard but soooooooo worth it when it helps them sleep.

S.- The book "On Becoming Babywise" saved my sanity. I too had an emergency c-section after labor and pushing with my son and really was wiped out for the first few weeks after bringing him home. His godmother called me one day and asked how I was and I just lost it. I was hysterical crying and felt just as I am sure you are feeling now! Kim asked if I had gotten the book yet, which I hadn't. I sent my mom to the store that day and started reading it and immediately implemented the program. Landon was 3 weeks old at the time and was sleeping 6 hours at a time by 8 weeks and all night by 12 weeks. When my daughter was born, I started her right away (1 week or so) and she slept through the night at 8 weeks. I, still got up and pumped, but I didn't need to worry about her waking.
I have recommended this to many of my friends, some have had a hard time following it, as it does take some discipline on your part- sometimes you just need to let him cry!!! But those who were able to stick with it- and get baby trained to work with mom's schedule and not mom working with baby's schedule- have had the same great results as I had.
You will feel much better once baby is sleeping and you can get some much needed rest. Hang in there! Send Daddy to the bookstore today:) Good luck- hope this helps!

herbs: sleepy time herb tea, camamile, " Kids Herbs" tinctures
try drinking them your self or gentel doses of tea or homiopathic for baby

So far my response lines up with the others. Go to the doctor and talk to him about Post Pardum Deppression. Next get a sitter! Wether it is a family or a friend get one or a day care! Take a nap when baby is with sitter! Or a bath! Or read! Enjoy your timeout and do NOT feel guilty about it. My oldest did not sleep for the first year of her life. Instead she screamed! The doctor's couldn't find anything wrong with her and kept telling me some babies cry. I lived with my in-laws at the time and they hated the baby crying and would tell me to keep her quiet. I was 3 seconds away from bailing on motherhood when my 14 yr old SIL came to the rescue. She would hold the baby in a comfortable position and walk for an hour so I could get a shower or a nap or even food. I felt so guilty that a 14 yr old could get my child to be quiet but not me. I was certain my baby hated me. I went to a doctor and was put on antidpressants. But the biggest help was when my SIL took the baby and let me rest. My youngest did the same thing for 6 months of her life and it was such a relief when family came over and rocked her so I could rest. As it was said before be a super-mom by getting help.