Need Help with Newborn

L.~it sounds to me like your new born may have acid reflux. My daughter had that really bad. I would stick with the Goodstart first of all because it is gentler by ask your doctor about a soy formula because of the lactose. Second if it acid reflux your baby may need to be put on liquid zantac which also burns going down but helps the baby.
As for your toddler~it will be okay to put the infant down for a little bit and let her cry. She will scream like she is being hurt but she will fall asleep. If she doesn't after five minutes then pick her up for a few and try it again. I work in a day care so I go through a lot of these issues there and at home with my own two.
Good luck I hope it helps!

Definitely check into baby carriers, there are so many choices out there from slings to wraps. In regards to the formula, call your doctor to see if you need to switch to a soy based formula or if you need acid reducers. My baby boy wasn't a very good burper at first but he got the hang of it. One good way to get the baby to burp is to sit her on your knee and slowly bend her over. It worked sometimes with my lil guy when he was having a hard time burping.

I agree with Diane B - wear you baby! Get a baby sling or wrap, she'll be snuggled close to you and you'll have your hands free to chase your son around! I love my Ergo, but it's definitely more expensive than most carriers. Still, you can go to their website for more info on babywearing. www.ergobabycarrier.com

Or search the internet for "infant carrier" or "baby wearing" - you'll get lots and lots of options. Some brief info - babies who are worn cry less, have less colic, and grow up with higher self-esteem than their non-carried counterparts.

Also, when you have to put her down, swaddle her. It will make her feel secure and less vulnerable.

"Wear" your baby! There are all sorts of really cool carriers for babies now. The one I wish was around when my kiddos were babies looks like a really really long piece of fabric and it wraps around your body and the baby's held tight, right in front of you. I think there are ways to "wear" the baby on your back, like some cultures do all the time.

Baby stays attached to you, and learns to trust in Mommy, not crying alone.

You CANNOT spoil an infant! Not by holding too much, not anything! FOOD spoils, not babies!

Since the baby is having trouble with formula, is there anyway you can get her to breastfeed? She's only a few weeks old; it's not too late.

http://www.llli.org/NB/NBrelactation.html

I second the suggestion of a baby carrier:

http://thebabywearer.com

It gets easier... I have a 21 month old and a 3month old. the first week with 2 kids was reallyhard... then it got easier,,, and easier.. It was wonderful when the baby started holding up his head... aslos newborns cry alot... (some more than others) but after a couple ofmonths they cry less...

I held the baby almost constantly when he was first born.. butnow at 3 months he likes to get down on the play mat and bat at his toys.. and at 4 months he can sit in the exersaucer.

I know it is hard now.. but hand in there... it gets better... will the baby go in a snuglli carrier?? that way you can hold the baby and still do things for your older child.

L. O