D.T. asks from Riverbank, CA on January 27, 2011
Myspace - Riverbank,CA
my husband is addicted to myspace.. and online chatting...as soon as he wakes up staight to his account. he lost his phone and was disturbed because he lost a day without myspace...he was online during out childrens photo session for halloween. we don't talk anymore....worried about our relationship. i ask how his friends are with children and he said they are not on line that much anymore hmmmm i wonder why???!!!
R.N. answers from Phoenix on January 27, 2011
This doesn't sound good at all. Both my husband and i are pretty much on the same page with the myspace/facebook thing. I used to have one but he was extremely uncomfortable with it. (his ex wife was really into it too and that had a huge part in the deterioration of thier marriage) After lots of arguements and fights that we didn't need to have i decided to get rid of mine. That was 2 years ago. I haven't looked back for a second. Not only am i more in tune with what i am surrounded by right now, but i don't have that lingering temptation to talk to an old buddy. Staying off that keeps us closer. Just my opinion but really its just an unecessary distraction. You need to talk to him, let him know your concerns, not just that it occupies so much of his time but you feel like he's replacing conversations and time he could be spending with his family with that stuff. Its just noise. If it gets too loud then you can't hear the stuff thats truely important. Good Luck!
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P.W. answers from Dallas on January 27, 2011
I agree with Sandy. Instead of criticizing him tell him you miss his attention. It's time for a date night.
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S.L. answers from New York on January 27, 2011
I hope you can get him to go to counseling. You and your kids need him, just keep stressing that the family NEEDS him, not just his paycheck or his occasional lawn mowing, bug killing, etc but his day to day reading and playing with the kids
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A.H. answers from San Francisco on January 28, 2011
I agree that it sounds like a problem. Do you think so too or does it just annoy you? Have you approached your husband in this way-- i.e. telling him that the time he spends online is a problem? Or maybe, more constructively, you can say "I need you to stop spending so much time on MySpace. I need 100% of your attention regularly and so do the children."
I also noticed you posted about going back to school and seeking a new career. Are you worried about your marriage? If so, I strongly urge you to consider counseling. You may not necessarily feel you are "in crisis" but counseling can still be very helpful and give you tools to talk difficult things through.
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