My 5 year old poopy in his pants almost on a daily basis. When I ask him why he does that his response is usually "I was to busy ..." I've tried everything I know to do to get him to poopy in the potty. Any suggestions or advise would be greatly needed. I can understand a toddler doing this but he will be 6 by the end of the year, I think he should be way past this?
Thank you all, it sounds like what y'all are saying was in the back of my mind that there may be something wrong. I'm going to get him to the Dr. Again thank you for all your input and will let you know what we find out.
Tell him that if he will make it to the potty ya'll will do something he really likes...go to park or MickeyD's. Even go so far to ask what he might like to do.Once you get him going pretty often you will have to back off the reward and explain that this is where big boys go.
have you tried having him clean his own mess up? hve hi dump the poopy into the toilet, then have him (with your help, of course) hand wash his poopy underwear, then go put them in the dirty clothes. After a few times of doing this, i'm sure he'll look at it differently. i hope this is of use to you.
My 4 year old was having the same problem and her doctor and I discussed sending her to a gasto, but first I wanted to see if she could control it. My husband and I told her that she would get a quarter every time she went poopy in the potty and we really praised her. We went 10 days with no accident. Now, occassionally she still waits to long, but she is doing much better. If this doesn't work then I would definitely suggest going to your doctor.
Good Luck
K.
My younger brother pee'd the bed till he was in late teens and just up and stopped but ur son could not just be able to control it, like my brother. Just have him checked out by a ped. and he/she should point you in the right direction..w/e that may be.
I worked for Child Protective Services in another state for several years. (Just recently quit when I was pregnant with my son) As such I have worked with many foster children. My suggestion is that if the child is not seeing a therapist (maybe play therapist because of his age) than he should be. Frequently, children begin to poop themselves as a response to trauma or lives that they feel are out of control. Controling your bowel movements is sometimes the only thing a child has control of in their lives. First, I would have him checked by a peds for any physical problems. If there is no physical problem, then most likely it is an indicator of some emotional issues ( although not always). Hope that helps.
First and foremost, make sure there is nothing physically wrong with him. Have your pediatrician check him out. If he sails through all of that...when he does BM in his pants, just calmly tell him it is ok and have him clean it up himself. Put a plastic trash can in the bathroom where he drops his soiled clothes, and let him clean himself. Make sure he gets NO attention. Just calmly tell him to deal with it and you keep doing whatever it is you were doing.
I noticed on your profile that it says you are foster parents. Encopresis (pooping in pants) is common in children with emotional issues. It's a sort of control issue, and ownership. Just don't let it be an issue. He poops, he changes and he resumes his play! No yelling, no crankiness, no fussing...
J. -
Just went through this with my nephew - same age. He didn't want to stop playing xbox (or jumping on the trampoline or whatever he was doing) long enough to go to the bathroom. My sister tried several tactics, but these 2 finally seemed to work - 1) if he went the whole day without pooping in his pants, she gave him a dollar at bedtime, 2) if he pooped in his pants during that day, the next day - whatever activity he had been doing like playing xbox - was off limits. So - he gets a reward or he loses a privilege. After a few days this worked. Make sure you clearly explain to him the rewards/consequences. Good Luck!
I am not sure what to do, but my exhusband had this same, "I am too busy to go to the potty" syndrome. My MIL said he finally got embarrassed about it when someone said he stinks!
M.
My son will be 12 years old this month and does the same thing. I finally got his Ped. Dr to refer him to a gastro dr and come to find out he is blocked on both sides of his bowls. They have been treating him now for 2 months. One is not blocked as bad now but the other remains blocked. The Dr said that being blocked causes him to have the accidents because he really doesn't feel it happening until it is to late. He goes back next week and if he is still blocked, they are going to run a tube down his nose into his bowls to clear him out. My son has done this since he was 3. I would definetly demand to go to a gastro dr and have him checked. It took me years to convience his ped dr to refer him. I would get started now. Good luck and you will be in my prayers.
Please keep me updated and let me know how it goes.
