S.H. asks from Memphis, TN on October 01, 2006
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I have a 4 year old daughter and i'm 9 months preganant i'm due Oct 4. I have been putting myself down because I dont spend time with my daughter like I use to my pregnancy has been hard and i'm scared that I won't give the attention she needs when her baby sister arrives. And plus i'm wanting to go back to work and school after 8 weeks how can I get over feeling like i'm going to neglect my children?
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Well I had my daughter on October 13, 2006 and it has been going gud thanks everyone
J.S. answers from Little Rock on October 01, 2006
i'm 24 with my 3rd on the way married 6 yrs and work as a nurse 2 days a week. you will adapt and learn to balance everything. make sure you give your 4 yr. old a lot of attention esp. when the baby comes. try having some time for just the two of you if you can get you boyfriend to watch the baby or just play with her alone with the baby naps. but also, you must make a little time for yourself in order to be the best mom you can be. for now, take care of yourself, and just plan small things with your daughter. if you know you're doing your best, you shouldn't feel like you're neglecting her. good luck.
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D.B. answers from Memphis on October 09, 2006
Hi Mrs.S., my name is D. and I know how you feel. I have a 2 year old she will be 3 in Dec. But I am also in school taking up CNT thats dealing with computers. Ever since I started school and I work full time and now I feel like I don't speed enough time with her. But its best that you go head and do the school thing while they are young. Because in the long run it will pay off and as they grow up they would have understood why you really couldn't spend no time with them. And on the weekend you can take them to the park, out to eat, or even to the mall. It is hard but you can do it. And remember ONLT THE STRONG WILL SURVIVE!!!
J. answers from Memphis on October 02, 2006
What you are feeling is so normal! I am a mother of two boys, 2 1/2 and 11 months. I am also a full time student and a full time employee at a hospital and a full-time wife! It is so hard to be away from my children so much. You just have to keep telling yourself "short-term pain for long-term gain!" In the end you will be benefitting your family and making yourself feel fulfillment by doing what you need to do in order to provide for your family and feel proud of yourself. I am not going to tell you it's easy, because it is not easy at all. But you can do it! Just take any offered support and spend as much time with your kids as is allowed! Once you get back into a routine or schedule, it will get easier! I can't believe that I have the time to sit here and write to you, but the point is that you make time for things that matter in your life!!
S.J. answers from Memphis on October 05, 2006
Know that you are doing what you have to create a better life for you babies. If you didn't know, now you know. Take care and be blessed.
L.H. answers from Memphis on October 02, 2006
HELLO MS STEPHAINE, MY NAME IS RENEA.YOU DON'T HAVE TO FEEL BAD SWEETIE WE ALL THINK THAT IS WHAT WE ARE DOING TO OUR OTHER CHILDREN WHEN WE ARE WAITING ON ANOTHER ONE! JUST LET YOUR LITTLE GIRL HELP YOU OUT WHEN YOU COME HOME! THAT MAKES HER FEEL LIKE YOU ARE STILL THERE FOR HER AND SHE IS GETTING TO BE A BIG SISTER TOO!THAT WAY YOU ARE STILL SPENDING TIME WITH HER TOO!IT JUST SEEMS TO WORK OUT FOR BOTH OF YOU!I HOPE THIS HELPS YOU AND CONGRAT'S ON THE NEW BABY! GOOD LUCK! YOUR MAMASOURCE FRIEND, RENEA H.