Men Having Dirty Magazines....

Magazines are just that, magazines. If you are secure in your relationship you should have no problem at all with your man looking at them. If you are not secure in your relationship, then no magazine, whether present or not, is going to change that.
To be honest I read Playboy. I laugh at the skin and bones girls. I walk through the mall and point out beautiful girls and will ask my man "what about her?" and he'll be honest and say "too skinny, too big, not enough chest, flat ass", he's totally honest about it. One time with my ex I even acted like his sister and went up to a girl trying to recruit for him. He got the number, and we laughed our butts off afterwards. That's what keeps things spicy.

Pictures are just pictures and to me if a woman has a problem with just a few drops of color on a piece of paper, there is more hiding behind the issue.

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Personally I think it is nasty. I have been with two men my whole life. I am 33. Neither one of them that I am aware of had dirty magazines around when I was with them. I am married to the second and he still does not have them, lets face it they have us!!!
And why do I say it is nasty, well recently my sister just had another child, she has a 4 year old and now a new born with the same jerk. Anyway, for the first few weeks after my sister had her second child, I was bringing her first to day care every morning. Every morning, my nephew and I would play a game of hide and seek, he would unlock the door when he knew it was me and would go hide. Well each morning, he would hide on his father's side of the bed, the best place to hide in a small apartment. Anyway, there is plain site were dirty magazines. I was disgusted. Mostly I guess because they were so accessible to my nephew his son!!!! And I guess secondly because he thinks he needs them for whatever reason. And trust me I don't think he does cause my sister gives out way more then I do!!!

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Hi M.,

I am the first one to say the human body, male or female, is a beautiful part of life, however have you seen for yourself some of these photos that are protrayed in these magazines? Just like the woman that asked about her husband watching xxx videos. Frankly I am sick and tired of the way woman are being portrayed by these medias. There is a difference in a picture of a beautiful naked woman and the "smut" that they but in these magazines. It's no wonder all of these famous young woman and getting in to trouble with addiction these days, look at what images they have to portray, I wonder if they do it for the money and fame , one day, and then realize that did not want that type attention. Sorry, I don't mean to go off about this, but as a woman with 2 daughters and 2 20 month old granddaughters, I think this world better change it's ways, or the woman of America will be in trouble.

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I don't see it as a problem, and as the other's said, as long as the kids can't find them! That's the big issue. My man doesn't have the magazines, he has the dirty movies...sometimes I really hate them, but it's in men's nature to be curious about other women. That's why there are so many successful strip clubs! I feel as long as you are the only one he is sleeping with "for real" then there's nothing to worry about. I had to "train" my fiance, to not leave the DVDs in the DVD player!

I don't see a problem with it as long as they can't be found by a child. That's just too much to explain. And as long as you are getting plenty of affection from your man. Sometimes looking at them together can be a turn on. Especially if your man wants to be with you and you aren't in the mood, and can't figure out why. My husband doesn't have magazines, but looks at the free stuff online every now and then. I don't mind as long as he's doing it while I'm right here. He has never been sneaky about it.

The way I look at it, is, I would have no part of it. I know he loves me, I know he is attracted to me and maybe looking at mens mags does not really mean anything but if it does not mean anything then get rid of them. I, and this is only my opinion, lol, but I would feel disrespected. I'm secure and I'm not secure, just like anyone else, but I don't want my husband looking at other women naked, simple as that. But I do buy playgirl all the time, great mag, and I "read it for the articles", kidding, bad joke,lol.

I only put up with a few. I'm not in the mood as often as he is and feel it's an extra stimulation for him (I agree about the similarity of the turn on of a good romance novel-let's face it women-we can use our minds, but our boys need the pictures LOL). If the "boy's magazines" start to pile up though, I start to weed away at the pile (don't need a stack of magazines to draw my son's attention if found)until they can be stored discreetly. (I was around 12-15yrs old and found my dad actually had a subscription-it blew my mind away!)

It all depends on the personalitys,respect,trust and open comunication. Being with someone who treats you in a way that you feel good about yourself should remove doubts of thier feelings.it will make you feel more confident and important to him.and in your relationship.now on the other hand if he compares you to what he is reading or the women in a negative form.that can be a real problem to your feelings,and selfesteem or confidence.the other things to consider are. Each ones beliefs they bring into the mix,what they were taught as a child,thier church,parents,and the back ground they came from.open disscusions are important for working through these things and compromises can work well also.

I don't mind that my bf has that type of stuff.Everyone needs to fantasize.It just makes things more interesting.

As long as the kids don't get a hold of them, I don't see a problem with it. Anything to spruce up a relationship, as long as there is respect already present.

My fiancee has them lying around and i know he only uses them when i say no not it the mood don't have time or too tired so it doesn't bother me at all.

I'll tell you this, when my (now) husband and i lived together just before the wedding, we were having livingroom furnitur delivered form dunk and bright. The delivery men showed up and i was home alone, they started to remove the old couch, and as they moved it out of the way---there it was some dirty magazine. They turned and looked at me and asked if i wanted to leave it there! I was sooo embarased, got on the phone and told my husband he was in big trouble. I don't like them in the house, due to the kids. But men are men and my husband has told me it has no reflect on me. As long as i don't see them they don't get thrown out. Never let the airbrushed women in those mags affect your self asteam. I just say im better in other ways!