I don't find my self very attractive anymore.. but my husband still loves me.. we both have aged.. he has a pot belly but I still love him.. and I have saggy breasts. Recently he told me I should dress up more often..my feeling was oh no.. i have to buy a bigger size to dress up... that makes me feel bad buying bigger.. but Easter I wore a beautiful skirt and top and high heels which I haven't worn in a long time.. Wow my husband couldn't keep his eyes off of me.. it made me feel good and him great. I vowed just then (two days ago) to get in shape.. so he would always keep his eyes on me. I love him, he loves me.. but he would never make fun of me in front of others.. we joke.. with each other. he calls himself the beached whale and I'm the hippo.. not nice.. but we laugh... We both have aged.. but we are now taking walks, I bought more fruit into the house.. and I want to look better.
I would talk to him.. tell him he really hurts you.. see what he says.. you also said he said things in the past to hurt you.. It has to stop.. Go for the manicure, new haircut, even get your makeup done.. (FOR YOU) and call a friend or sister and go out for lunch or dinner.. take your little one too. Then try to get healthy.. FOR YOU not for him.. make yourself feel better about you... someday you'll look back and be happy you made yourself healthy and if he doesn't say things to be nice.. then distance yourself.. also do his friends come over your house? if so.. don't cook. don't make snacks.. and go out when they are around.. don't go out with them.. he can go.. but you shouldn't go.. go out with your little girl.. make it a day.. enjoy yourselves.. don't go with them so they can make fun of you.. it's not right. Try to look good again.. to make you feel good. Do it for YOU. Smile,,, enjoy your little girl.. take long walks with her, run around with her and enjoy her.. shut him out a little.. make him know that until he changes, it's you and your little girl and he is on the outside.. when you start feeling better about who you are and how you look --- you'll be in charge. Take each day.. but enjoy life and love yourself and your little girl. good luck..