I Am in Need of Advice.....

If it were me I would leave. From what I have read from you it will only get worse. He sees he can push it & one day he will go to far. I know it seems hard but I know you can do this. It is better to raise him on your own with your famiy's help rather than be abused & threatened with violence. Your son sees & hears these things, he knows you are scared & he will either grow up to think thats the way it is everywhere or he will turn out just like him. I too was in an abusive realtionship, I stayed because he broke my spirit, had me believe I couldn't do it on my own ( I have no family to turn to) But I saw my son acting like him & I didn't want my daughter to think thats what a man does to people he loves. We all deserve better, YOU deserve better. Get out of it now, whether you leave town or not, he is not good for you or your son. He needs help with his anger & if he has resentment over the fact that you stay home to care for a child who calls him daddy, can you imagine what it will be like when you have a child together? It's hard for a man to see a child & think of them as thier own.He needs help, he needs to see someone about his anger & his resentment. But this is how it starts. I grew up with it, watched it with every man my mom dated & married. Ask your family for help. Keep us updated, I am worried yet very hopeful for you & I would like to know how things are for you.Keep your chin up too - my kids are alot happier now, and I found someone who doesn't lash out at me or take his anger out on me. There are wonderful men out there & when you least expect it you'll meet one.

First of all, you need to leave him for the sake of your son. He doesnt need to see all of that, even if you do send him to your moms. Then maybe you could work something out with your mom as far as her watching your son so you can get a job and save some money up to get you and your son a safe and happy place for the two of you. Even if you have to move in with your mom for awhile so you can save up. No one deserves to be treated like that, especially with a child in the house. Maybe if you leave for awhile your fiance will realize he needs to change for the sake of his family and he will get help. Sometimes losing something/someone, makes you realize how much it/they meant to you.

Hi,
I really think you should have left him, and still should. It must be hard to be a single parent but it is doable and the reward is great. You will fall in love with a guy who loves you back and appreciates you. I hate to think your son is witnessing this type of behavior.
The thing is, your guy could change, but chances are he won't. Today was your son't toy, tomorrow could be your son he hits. Please do not allow that to happen. Pack your son and yourself and leave. Your mom has been helping you out, she still will until you get on your feet.
Good luck
V.

You need to leave. The tragic part as others pointed out will come if he turns the violence towards your son. Even if he hasn't physically abused him, you are both emotionally harming your son. You may think you send him over to your Mom's in time, but trust me - he's picking up on this. One day your son will think it's okay to mistreat you (and disrespect other women), too. Stop this before it gets worse.
Is your son enrolled in daycare? PK is a free program, offered at many daycares, etc... many schools have PreK. You have options. This will allow you to go back to work. It's hard to leave your child and go to work, I know, I'm doing it. However your self-respect and your son's best interests are worth it.
Good luck.

You need to leave him. I am 28yrs old I have 3 kids. Like you my oldest was not my ex's son. I did have 2 girls with this guy. I stayed with him for 6yrs. The biggest mistake I could have ever done. The only good that came out of it was my girls..

He was my childhood sweetheart we knew each other since 4th grade. He moved away and I had my son. When my son was about 1yr old we found each other again. So we thought hay it is ment for us to be together. It was the worst 6yrs of my life. He had me to the point where I thought that I couldn't get any better then him..
When I finnally kick him out. I had to deal with my son. Being that he was the oldest he heard and saw alot of what happen between my ex and I. It was the worset feeling in the world, to know that you are the reason that your child feels that way he does or acts bad because of what he saw.
My son is better now and I learned that I will not let that happen ever again to any of my kids....
Don't stay with him because he is making the money or because of the kids. Because all you are doing is hurting the kids and your self, because it WILL NOT get any better....