How to Make Husband's 40Th Special

i like the idea of co-celebrating early with his family while you are on the trip. Is it bad of me to hope HIs mommy will deal and pay for alot of it? There wishing anyways.
Could you pick 2 of his best fun friends and invite them over for cake and cocktails?

My hubby's 40th is coming up to and i could have written this, We have a wedding, a baby shower, five other birthdays plus mother's day and I just don't really like big parties anyways. so i'm looking for some alternatives myself. I totally hear you, that it isn't exactly equal when it comes to mine either.
Hope you can come up with something easy.

What about a romantic dinner? You could give him a fancy IOU for Vegas when finances allow it?

Have you seen those dinner and theater places or Mystery Dinner's ? They are kinda neat. broadway theater....maybe there is a concert he will like that is going to be in your area eventually and you can just wrap the tickets ? does it have to be celebrated on that month ?
Someone just planned a PF Changs meal for their husband and got a private room in the restaurant and invited everyone for a surprise. The meal was on them.

Since he would like to go to Vegas, why not bring Vegas to him. Rent a conference room at a hotel or some hall that is free, have each person at the party bring a cover dish (tell them what the menu is and let them select what they can bring), take your digital camera or anyone who has one and take pics. Go to the party store and decorate the hall like Vegas, have your guests pretend like there are dollar/coin machines (be creative) in the room, maybe bingo or some other game that mimicks what he would want in Vegas and have fun with it. After it is done, use one of the pics, upload to Shutterfly and make him a photo gift with his name or favorite saying on it, and present it to him.

A woman I work with, her son, just turned 40 last weekend & his wife threw a surprise party. They rented a Knights of Columbus Hall (not the nicest halls, but cheap), had most of the guests bring a dish (salads, meatballs, dips…), and ordered pizzas. They were able to purchase a keg from the hall and they bought all the decorations. Maybe you could do something like this without breaking the bank? And the mess is not at your house. Use disposable everything, so it ALL goes right in the trash before you leave.

Or rent a room at a local bar….maybe one that has things like pool, darts and video golf. This way people can have an activity or just hang out. I would order the food or munchies for people and MAYBE buy everyone a round of drinks…after that, they are on their own for drinks.

Know anyone in the Limo business? Maybe you can rent a limo and do dinner and drinks with friends and no one has to drive? That's always fun, but the Limo can be pricey.

Last thought…find something special to do in Sequoia for just the two of you. Arrange for your mother in law to watch your daughter and surprise him with a night out on the town. With just the 2 of you, it should not cost that much. Having said this, I have no idea where Sequoia is or what there may be to do around there, but hopefully you can find something.

Do you usually make a big deal of his birthday? My husband is one of those men who could care less. If yours is like mine, I would make a cake and have the kids decorate it and maybe have the family go to his favorite restaurant (or get take-out since you'll just be getting back from a trip). Maybe you can give him an IOU on the Vegas trip for when things settle down; I suppose you could even make the reservation so that you can give him the details on his birthday. Or what about a helicopter or hot air balloon ride? Although I have no idea how much those cost...

Seems like your putting everything before your husband's big 40. If he wants to go to Vegas, I say make that happen. You sound like a controlling spouse who tells people what they DON'T want.

I would also get with family and plan a Pre-celebration on the family vacation.

Do you think you might be wanting to get back at him because he doesn't fuss over you? Seems like you have a pretty good lifestyle. Men don't always GET IT, so I have learned it pays to advertise. I want something special, I want flowers and candy (from SEES CANDY only).....I let it me known.

Blessings.....

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Seems like your putting everything before your husband's big 40. If he wants to go to Vegas, I say make that happen. You sound like a controlling spouse who lets people what they DON'T want.

I would also get with family and plan a Pre-celebration on the family vacation.

Do you think you might be wanting to get back at him because he doesn't fuss over you? Seems like you have a pretty good lifestyle. Men don't always GET IT, so I have learned it pays to advertise. I want something special, I want flowers and candy (from SEES CANDY only).....I let it me known.

Blessings.....