Getting Rid of Binkies - Belton,MO

I had one that I took it away from and he went right to the thumb and that's so much harder to break. Your daughter is young to take it anyway in my opinion. If it was me I would wait to take it and then when she can understand more of that it's because she is a 'big girl' then it works better.

I took my daughter away from hers before she was ready. She started sucking her fingers and to this day has bone damage and her teeth are so out of line that breaking her jaw and wiring it shut is the only way to fix it.

I think if a child wants a binky or needs to suck that they will substitute something for it. So I think working the way up to doing this is the better way to handle it.

If she wants it then try to discourage her. But don't make it the focus of her world because she will only focus on it more.

The more her life is focused on not getting what she wants the more she will be wanting it.

I think just trying to distract her and if it works good, if she is getting upset then you are not accomplishing anything positive. She will stop at some point.

Here is what worked for us:

If my son really wanted his paci, he was allowed to climb into bed and lie quietly and suck on it. I think we began doing this around 23 months of age. The paci had to stay in bed, but if he felt he needed it, he could go and get it. But he had to put it down in order to get out of bed. For the first couple of days, he spent a lot of time in bed, but as life outside of bed became interesting, he asked for "quiet time" less and less often, and then he was asking for it every couple of days. I think he just needed to know he could have it - he didn't actually need to have it. After another month or two, we were able to remove the paci from the bed except at bedtime and naptime.

I am not saying this will work for you, since every child is different, but I will add that when I finally took the paci away from my son (about two months before he turned three), there was absolutely no fuss, no problems sleeping, nothing of the issues I had expected. It was a wonderfully easy transition. I'm hoping the same will apply to my daughter!

My daughter was in the back seat of the car one day, rolling down the electric window when ever we would stop at a light. At one of the lights she had the window down and in her words said 'i am gonna throw my pacie away' I told her if you do it will be gone forever.... The light turned green, she threw it out the window and that was that, never to be seen again....
I would cold turkey it. Substitute it with a blankie or sutffed animal. Good luck

Usually, cold turkey is best. But every child is different. Slowly weaning your daughter may be the better option. I would try "only when you are in bed" and stick to it like glue. Make sure you reinforce this by when she does start screaming for it, to put her in bed with her binkie. If after a couple of days, things don't improve at all, it may just be time to do it the hard way. Best of luck to you and your husband.

Cold Turkey is best especially when they are having major withdrawls. You will be giving mixed signals if you give it back to her. Just be prepared for little sleep for a week or two.

go see a dentist and if they say its ok dont take it away to many things going on in brain development to take it away so i think.

i am a montessori teacher for 20 years

http://www.zerotothree.org/child-development/brain-develo...

thank you for being a mom who cares.

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We weaned both of our girl between 20 and 22 months, and we started by just keeping the paci for nap and bed time. We didn't let it leave the crib, so she didn't see it or think about it at other times.

When we weaned totally, we used the snip it slowly method. We cut a tiny whole in the end for two days (so it sucks air), then we snipped a bigger piece off the end, and so on. We would say it's broken. They would still try it and want to hold it, but eventually they didn't care anymore. We tossed them in about two weeks with no problems.

Try offering a sippy with water if she wants the paci during the day. Sometimes it's soothing during teething times too, so she may be a tad fussier due to cutting teeth.

Much like "LivToykyo", I only gave it to my twins if they were in their crib. This was at around 30 months. They could only have it when it was nap or bedtime and if they really cried for it, I would give it to them in their crib but they couldn't get out of the crib unless they gave it up. Then when they got used to this rule I started telling them that they don't need it anymore for sleep. This is currently happening and they will be 3 in a few weeks. Last week I started telling them this. I also said that the Easter bunny would bring more candy if they threw their paci's away. Well, it didn't quite work out how I would have liked (they didn't throw it away yet) but we are getting close.

It's weird though, I would have thought they would want it more at night than during nap time, but it was the other way around. Three nights ago, one of the boys didn't ask for it at nighttime but the other one did. I noticed that in the past that same son didn't ask for it, but because the other one did, I automatically gave it to both. I caught myself and now only give it to them if they each ask for it. So, in the last 3 days they haven't asked for it at night and just this afternoon they didn't ask for it at nap. So I've hidden it for now and I'm just going to wait it out. If they don't ask for it for tonight or tomorrow at nap, then I'm just going to throw it away. I'm hoping this will work for me. If not, I think I'm going to try the snipping off the top plan. Anyway, Good luck! : )

I found it was a fight until we just threw them all away! Then like magic two days later they never asked for them again. When we "cut down" to nap and bed only it was a constant battle and stress. I was so worried about thumb sucking starting up if I did it too early but honestly neither child ever did. I finally figured out that I just had to take it away. I was terrified I would never sleep again. The kids got over it so quickly I could only laugh at myself for dragging the process out! The first two nights I just tired my kids out during the day so they were nice and tired. And honestly they barely made any big deal about it. I explained ahead of time that they were all going away and that they were big girls now and I bought them a cool toy in exchange for all the binkies. I was expecting weeks of sleepless torture and screaming! Didn't happen! I think having them around but not giving it to them all day was way more stressful for them because it's that toddler control struggle. When they were just gone the fight for control was over.
Also when we cut down to nap and bedtime we sewed a short ribbon onto their pillows and tied the paci onto it. So Paci was attached to the bed and stayed there.

I did what you are doing and we are one week out binky free! it was hard, at first we did the binky at nap/bedtime only then I stopped the nap binky, and was wondering how I was possibly going to stop the night binky, then she bit a whole in her binky and I told her that morning oh that is dangerous now we have to throw this away because its broken! her reply was NO! I explained again and told her yes we have to throw it away...well she asked for it and I kept telling her "You don't need it anymore" and that it was broken and thrown away. When I tell her that she does not need it I do it in a firm, loving, gentle kind of way reassuring her that she really does not need it to sleep, I hold her and give her lots of hugs while telling her too, she does great falling asleep without it, but she does chew on anything and everything she can put in her mouth now, her clothes, shoes, barettes, her hand I really have to watch her carefully! good Luck on your quest!

I told my son that the binky fairy was coming on Friday and would leave him a big boy surprise if he left them for her to pick up. We talked about it every day and that wed he didn't take one at nap! The next day he wanted it at nap, but I didn't want him to since he didn't need it the day before so I cut the tip off and it was broken so he threw it away. He choose to keep them at night until that Friday and then we put them in a bag on the front porch for the fairy, the next am he found out she left him a tool bench!! He talks all the time about what a big boy he is and talked about his binkies for a couple days but not much. He hasn't mentioned them for a few months now and is actually went much smoother than I thought it would! He was 30 months when I did this. Be positive and really talk it up...we also got him a book called it's time to give up the pacifier, I think that helped too! Good luck!

In my opinion and experience you need to go cold turkey. With my son we talked about it with him for a few days. We told him that he didn't need it anymore and that our friends new baby needed them. So we wrapped them up to be "delivered" to the new baby. And the night we took them away we gave him a pillow pet. You might find another lovey she can hold instead of her binky. And stay strong. You will likely have a night or 2 of rough cries at bedtime/naptime. But it will begin to fade. When my son would see another kid with one, he would ask for his and we would talk about how baby joe had them now.
One other piece of advice we got when we were looking to take away the binky is to either snip off the tops or poke holes in them so there is no sucking sensation. Still give them to her, but when they don't work, they are no good and your child will stop using them. We knew we needed to go cold turkey instead, but this is a better option for some. Good luck! Stay strong! It is so nice to have a paci free child!!!!