Does Anyone Know the Process of a Military Divorce?

I would visit the JAG office for some pointers. Since you have not been married for 10 years you are not entitled to any of his retirement. Child support and alimony are topics that should be considered if you did not work or have not worked during the marriage. Where will you live? If on base/post you will have to move off on the economy once the marriage is over. The child will get an ID card and will be able to use the medical facilities but that will be spelled out in your JAG visit.

Military marriage is a difficult lifestyle but one that is necessary. I wish you well.

the other S.
Retired Military Wife

M.,

Welcome to mamapedia.

A military divorce is much like a civilian divorce. You hire a lawyer and figure child support and such out. Being military doesn't have a thing to do with it. TO be honest. If he's cheating? Then you must have proof and he can be court martialed. Which would end his career. DO NOT make any claims you cannot substantiate.

You haven't been married to him long enough to get ANY of his retirement.
HE as the AD member can go to the JAG and get help.
You MIGHT be able to go to JAG. I didn't. I lived in Germany when I divorced my ex-husband.

Did someone tell you that the military does it differently? Sorry. They were pulling your leg. The military has no bearing on your marriage.

Make sure you have exhausted all avenues before you divorce. Life isn't easy. EVERY marriage has ups and downs.

a lawyer would probably be a good place to start, no?
khairete
S.

If you haven't secured legal representation, do so now. If your spouse hasn't been to the base legal services office to obtain counsel, you should go there right away, today. Unless things have changed since my husband was active duty, they will represent you IF they are not already representing your spouse. Priority is not given to the military member - it is given to the spouse who gets there first. Even if they are representing your spouse already, base legal should be able to give you good general information and possibly even a list of lawyers who might be helpful to you in this situation.

Suzanne W. also has good information for you below.

I'm so sorry you are going through this.

In my case, there were no conflicts or questions of custody or financial support, so I just did the regular divorce filing, and did not involve an attorney. It cost me about $300. The fact that he was in the military didn't have any bearing on our divorce.

That was a long time ago, so maybe things have changed.

You can start by talking to legal. They will not represent you in the divorce but they will meet with you and discuss your rights and what you need to do to protect those rights.