Do All Women Go Through This?

Updated on December 07, 2007
S.G. asks from Pico Rivera, CA
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Does anyone else out there get totaly freakin super sensitive and tired right before and during their period. Geez I can't stand this sensitive thing. Any little thing makes me cry. Heck sometimes I cry for no reason at all. It's been 13 years since I had a baby. I was only pregnant 6 months and we had such a traumatic experiance any sensitivity I had I linked to the trauma. I just want to know if this is normal. Am I like super hyper sensitive? Maybe I've got some hidden issues I need to deal with. And if this is the way I am now how will I be when I'm pregnant? Geez I can't even stand myself as it is sometimes.

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Thanks for the support. I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one. I did start therapy recently and to tell the truth it's a little scary. Understanding things about my past has enlightened my life but at the same time made me a little sad. I just know that I have to continue going bec. I want to be the best mom I can be. I am definitely interested in any natural means of controlling these crazy emotions. I can imagine that exercise is one of them.

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N.F.

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im not super sensitive but this past year i have started getting totally wiped out right before my period...like I cant even keep my eyes open tired..so im assuming its normal.

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S.D.

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A few questions...How long has this been happening? Are you on any type of birth control pills?

When you go in for your annual pap smear, or even before if it's that bothersome, ask your gynecologist to listen to your symptoms. It sounds like classic PMS. If it lasts all month long, it could be PMDD. It's also a sign of pregnancy, so it's hard to distinguish sometimes. If you're trying, take a pregnancy test. I get the same way, I'll cry during commercials or get my feelings hurt easily on the days leading up to my cycle. Since I know that's all it is, I just sort of "blow it off." If you can't "blow it off" and your doctor approves it, the newer birth control pill called Yaz, is supposed to help with all these symptoms, but only if you're not trying to get pregnant. One last question, if you don't mind my asking, is how old are you?
Glad to hear the therapy is working too. It's a great idea to work through symptoms from the inside out. You could have a little post traumatic stress disorder is you're associating feelings back to the difficult pregnancy.

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S.C.

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Dear S.,
I did not have a traumatic pregnancy, and I am very sorry to hear that you did, but I will tell you that me and hormones are the worst combination that could ever occur in a human being. I use the copper IUD now after having my first child (2year old girl) because I was a head spinning emotional psycho while i was pregnant, and it may be a wives tale, but I've heard that when you are pregnant with a girl it's worse, because she is carrying and developing the same hormones that we as women already have, so it's like doubling up on the dose! And yes, when I get my period, I am very emotional, I am hyper sensitive, anything my husband says or doesn't say hurts my feelings and i do end up in his arms crying like a child more often then not. And yes, it is the week before as well as during my period. I think this may be normal for many women...
I can't take birth control pills obviously because of this realization, so if you are on them, I would suggest lookng into the copper IUD, it produces zero hormones and is 99.5% effective. It's inserted in less than two minutes, without any pain or discomfort and can be taken out in the same way. They also say that women who have used it (it lasts for 10 years) have the exact same statistical rate of getting pregnant after removal. So think about what hormones you might be taking that could possibly contribute to this phenomenon, and then make sure you give yourself a break for feeling this way, and expect it! Let your husband know he should expect it as well, and if it helps, keep your cycle charted on a calendar so that you know exactly when to expect it and don't get it confused with depression or some other disorder that it could mirror. Anyway, please don't feel like you're the only one. My pregnancy was a very healthy, easy and happy one, but my emotions and the hormones going through my body turned me into someone that I not only didn't know, but was totally ashamed to be. I had to forgive myself for the things I did and ways that I acted and reacted during that time, knowing that the hormones were most likely the culprit. I nursed my daughter for 15 months and can honestly say, that i knew the day almost exactly that my bodies hormones went back to pre-pregnancy...it was like I woke up one day and felt like myself again, instead of feeling like this unstable ticking time bomb! Doctors often say that it can take up to 2 years for a womans hormones to return to normal after birth, especially if you are nursing. So even though your son is 13, you deal with a lot, having a special needs child, and it probably brings you back to the trauma of the pregnancy and possible underlying feeilngs of guilt for his condition. LET THAT GO!!!
I am sure you are a wonderful mother and your challenges are ten fold the challenges of other parents, whom feel pushed to their mental and emotional limits with children that don't have special needs. So take it easy, one day at a time, and know that the best thing is that you can recognize what's going on and are not mistaking it for something else.

I wish you and your family the very best!

Kindest Regards,

S.

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B.H.

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Congratulations you are human!

I too am super sensitive, I watched High School Musical 2 the other day with my daughters and cried almost through the entire thing.
It's okay to be sensitive. It is part of the joys of being a women. As for the tiredness and such around your cycle, I used to curl up in a fetal position and cry like a baby for about 24 hours before my perieod hit, some was pain, some was emotions. I started on a nutritonal supprt program, got my serotonin levels in check and haven't had one of those days for almost 2 years. Contact me if you want to know more about it.

In the meantime, enjoy being one of this universes special gifts. Enjoy every moment that you can feel deeply, love fully and dream endlessly...many people don't have that blessing. You are truly blessed.

B.
www.HeyYouGetReal.com

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S.M.

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Hi S.-It sounds like you have been through a trying experience. And the stress of raising an autistic child who also has mild retardation makes day to day living stressful. Trauma can affect you for years to come. At some point it sort of defines you. I would suggest talking to a therapist just to get everything out there. You can also learn ways to cope and get through the hard times. You could also find a support group for preemie babies, autism and mental retardation and speak with other women who are going through the same thing. Good luck to you and I wish you the best :)

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M.W.

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Hey S.!

YES!!! I am the same way! My husband and I fight so bad because of my mood swings! :( There is the PMS pill! I would check it out! :)

Good Luck S.!

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V.H.

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Hi S.,

I don't think that there is anything abnormal about being super sensitive. We sensitive people are the balance to those who are less than sensitive - or those who lack sensitivity completely (and there are alot). Life is difficult enough when things are running smoothly but can be even more stressing when you have to "handle" more than the average parent has to handle. I am very sensitive too and it seems to me that its my sensitivity that allows me to be compassionate and caring to those around me even when they don't always deserve that side of me. I also find that I feel so much better when I do just sit down and cry for the heck of it. Don't let anyone tell you that you are "just being sensitive." It doesn't matter how we react, the important part is that it is better to react to something in a "sensitive manner" rather than through anger or aggression. Well, Take care.

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R.S.

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I am the same way, I will cry at corny commercials on TV or random stuff I read etc. It might help to seek out counseling w/the trauma you had but I think the sensitivity thing is pretty normal for many (but not all) women. Great to be a girl huh! :)

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