Divorce and Custody - Glendale,AZ

L.,

My heart goes out to you. Hang in there for the sake of your beautiful baby girl and yourself. I recently went through a divorce and my attorney was very knowledgeable about custody, child support etc. His name is Patrick McGill - ###-###-####. It took me almost a year to get divorced as I was married to an attorney who challenged me on everything, even custody. He was never even around - the big reason why they want joint custody is because it will reduce the amount of child support they have to pay.

Good luck and stay strong. You will make it and will be better off and so will your daughter.

L.

I went to Burton & Leather for my divorce/custody fiasco...They were great at helping me get what I wanted, sole custody of MY daughter. They had him signa consent decree giving up his reight to joint custody, so she lived with me and I was the one to make decisions regarding her life. Didn't matter to him though, he fell off the map and I raised her myself. She's now adopted by my hubby. He's been the only daddy she's ever known. Good things can come out of the bad. Stay strong, you have power as the MOM! Good luck my dear....I'll say a prayer for you and your baby girl. Congrats on your new bundle of joy!!!

You might just end up with shared visitation, like he has the baby on the weekend. It will be up to the courts at that point, get a good lawyer. Most likely you will not lose her to him unless there is tons of evidence that you are a horrible mom, I doubt that is the case. Remember custody and visitation have nothing to do with child support so you should never use your child like a item at the store and say things like you don't pay so you can't see her. This might not be happening now, but I am not sure what "your terms" are. You will really have to give up what you want for the sake of your child. This situation is going to suck really bad, so you have to take the high road even though it is not fair so your child can lead a normal stress free life.

Hi L.,
I'm so sorry to hear that you're having to go thru this. Especially so soon after the baby was born. Well my dear, please remember as you're going thru the custody, and divorce, that your baby comes first. If your ex-soon to be ex..is not abusive, and does love your baby, even though he was wrong in not going with you to the doctors while you were pregnant; if he loves that little girl and wants to be part of her life, then try and make it possible for him to do so. I know you're concerned with losing her, but you are not a bad parent,nor abusive or neglectful, so you are not going to have to worry about losing your baby girl to him. I know some men will want the joint custody for less child support, if he is an honest person, and a loving one to that child, then try to make things work out between you two. Sometimes parents can be better friends than being married. I hope things work out for you and especially for your little girl because she'll need both of you. :-) Best wishes,G.