Crybaby on Are Hands?

Yes i have the same delima and if it is while at home i send her to room. And she has learned that the crying wont work or that she does not want to be their. I am still working on store thing cause it dont always work to not buy item if they are not behaven. If she does i usually do. Which is still needing a little work cause she runs off.

By joking around, do you mean with each other or are you teasing her? If you are teasing her, stop. You may think its funny and "just a joke" but honestly, parental teasing really hurts because not every kid gets it.

I may be being oversensitive, but the fact that you are asking if you have a "crybaby" on your hands to me is harsh. Calling your own kid a crybaby isn't helping. If it's just a word in the question, that's one thing, but if this is what you call her, stop and think - words hurt.

If she cries when she doesn't get her way, send her to her room and tell her she can join you when she has calmed down. We do this when my son gets whiny and it works.

No more joking about it. Tell her "You must be tired, honey. You need to go to your room and rest." And make her go to her room. You aren't shaming her. You aren't making fun of her. You aren't fussing at her. You are however, giving her a consequence that makes sense. When she says "I'm not tired!" you say, "Well of course you are, or you wouldn't be crying over "x" thing. Go to your room now and rest. You can come out when you aren't tired anymore."

After you do this enough, she will pull herself together.

I have a few thoughts, but they don't all fit together into one unified theory -- they're just thoughts.

1. Temperamentally, she could be the odd one out in your family. For some people, teasing and joking around is the most fun in the world. Things that might sound like harsh insults to an outsider are just part of their sense of humor. But to other people, they ARE harsh insults and they're incredibly hurtful. Please consider the possibility that she just has a sensitive temperament and that your joking around is really hurtful to her.

2. And, my other thought is that kids generally turn on the waterworks when they're tired or hungry. Is she on a growth spurt? Is she getting enough sleep for her age? It amazes me, on a daily basis, how many earth-shattering kid-problems can be solved by food and sleep.

I treat crying like masturbation. It's ok to do it, everybody does it, but you do it in private. If she cries, just send her to her room to do it. Let her know she can come out when she's done.

I think you need to change your own expectations, reactions and behaviors.

Unless they are fake tears for manipulation, she shouldn't be made to feel like she is doing something wrong, or that something is wrong with her. Calling her names like 'crybaby' shows the problem is more with you than with her.

If a kid is crying when you're "joking" then perhaps you're actually being jerks, rather than funny.

"Go cry in your room." Especially if she's crying because she doesn't get her way. We all have learn how to deal with disappointment.

As for crying when you're joking around. Are you being mean? Really look at what you're saying or doing from her point of view. But, there's nothing wrong with issuing an apology if the joking around makes her cry. You didn't intend to make her cry, but we still apologize for accidents. If she's going to carry on after you or whomever has apologized, have her go to her room to settle down. Everyone should be moving on after the apology.

Good luck!

Ignore her when she cries. Just walk away. Your actions are giving her some sort of pay off or she would not be doing it to manipulate you.

If she is truly that tender hearted then she may just have to grow out of it.