Could You Live in the House Your Parent Passed Away In ?

Not my parents - but my Grandparents. My Grandpa died in my house when I was 7. I was there when he passed and remember it like it was yesterday. When my Grandma passed in 98 I bought the house. It's not creepy to me at all. It's actually a very loving, comforting, safe feeling to be in that house. I grew up in that house practically. My Grandparents watched me every day while my mom was at work before I started school and even after school until I was old enough to stay home alone. I have so many good memories being there and I LOVE that I'm raising my daughter in that house :)

I did for about 5 years. My father died suddenly at home when I was 19. I lived in the house until I was 24. Hard yes, but I really couldn't live anywhere else. My mother and my brother still live in the house and probably will until my mother passes. Most of all his stuff is still there in the attic as well. I don't think my mother can bear to part with it. I think of all the happy memories we had and not the horrible end.

If the passing was peaceful/natural then I could.

Both of my parents passed away five years apart from each other. I was 16 and 21. I wasn't going to sell the house and look for a new one at that age, and I actually found some comfort in it. They were both sick in the home, but actually passed at the Hospital. There are emotional days, but I don't think it revolves around the house as much as they just aren't there. I guess it would depend on the circumstances of how they died. I personally love my house and wouldn't have it any other way. I have to admit, that there were tough times when it came time to change the decor etc....it was hard to let go, but my husband and I have made it our home over the past 16 years and are raising our children in it.

I think I would feel closer to my parents living in the house they passed away in.

yeah, I could. Change out some furniture and youre good to go.

I bought the house i grew up in 2 years ago. My dad passed away in the middle of the living room in 2005, i knelt there that night and cried. 5 feet away from that very spot my mom died in 1989, i watched it, i was 8 but the memory is still quite vivid. I LOVE this house. There are so many other great things about it. My mothers kitchen brings back very many memories of helping her set the table, about pizza night, about sitting on the counter as a baby and licking cookie dough off of a spoon. I was digging in the garden the other day and unearthed an old plant marker. petunias....easily 30 years old, It made me very happy.

My husband was redoing the closet and found etched in the wall under a shelf the initials A.N.G, well it was my room growing up and my initials were A.N.P., i was obviously pretending they were my initials, and the only person I could have been pretending that with was my husband, but back then he was just my crush.

Talk about a sweet look, my husband gave me the sweetest look after he saw that.

I guess my point is, an object, a house, whatever can have the meaning you give it, I could choose to associate this house with the negative aspects of my parents early deaths within it, i could get supersticious i suppose about the events that led up to it, and imagine floating spirits and such. But then i would miss out on changing a diaper in the same spot i had mine changed. Unearthing sweet memories from my garden. Decorating my daughters room that was once mine. Crossing threshholds and living out the good intention that my beloved parents were never able to accomplish.

My husband and I live in his childhood house (it was built for his family). His mom died in it in 1987. Now we just feel like her spirit is still with us.

It could be emotional at first, but you probably also have good memories about the house. You could try it for a while. I guess it might also depend on how long ago that they passed away. If it was fairly recent, then you are probably still emotional to start with and it may effect you emotionally. If it has been awhile since they passed away and you have come to terms with it and no longer become easily emotional, then it may have some effect but you will come to terms with it easier. I still love to visit my grandparents house even though they are both passed away. I have such wonderful memories there and I feel closer to them when I walk within those walls. I do not feel emotional about it anymore. It's just wonderful memories.

I agree with most posters. My Grandpa died at home, and now my Grandma just moved to assisted living, and everyone has to decide what to do with the house. I think it would less emotional for everyone if one of my aunts could just live there, but they all have lives someplace else now.

My mom is worried that a new owner won't care about the house, take care of it, appreciate it etc. A family member would and it would be nicer/better for all of us.

Jessica

Yes. We've done it. Both of my in-laws died in their house. She of a heart attack and he of old age. I don't think it's all that weird.
I'll tell you what's painful, visiting my aunt who shares a yard with the house my grandmother lived in for 70 years. It's really hard to know someone else lives there and not to look up expecting my grandmother to holler for us to come in to eat or bring some tomatoes in from the garden on our way up.
I was there a year ago and for me, it would have felt better knowing one of us in the family lived there.
Selling my in-laws house was harder than living there. It felt like letting them go. Like that's when it finally hit that they were really gone.

That's just me. I'm sentimental about things like that.

At first i would not be able to, but maybe after it sets in a could appreciate it more. That is not the right word but after a while i think i would be ok with it. Would not be so sorrowfull, that you could enjoy it and be closer to them.

I did it at 19 years old. It is up to the individual though.

Yes.
The day after my dad passed away I woke up and sat in the very chair he died in. I guess this shocked my boyfriend, and creeped my brother out, and annoyed my mom (but she only came back to the house to claim it anyways so I cared less).
I am the type that has to have their things around me, and his house would be very easy for me to live in. I would feel very safe, and I do when I go for long visits.
My brother who actually lives in the house has a very hard time with it. He still see's my dad slumped over in his chair every time he walks through the door. I see it has he died where he was most comfortable, my brother doesn't feel the same way. I will tell you though, after a year, he is doing better with it. He is keeping up the house just as my dad would have.

No. It would creep me out~

We have several houses in the family that past family members dies in.
It is comforting to be in those houses and the families that have lived in them have never had a problem with it.

The house is not the person. These people died peacefully in their beloved homes.

We have neighbor who died in an accident in their garage.. His wife witnessed the accident. She sold it and moved.. I do not blame her, I do not think I could have lived there either..

I think it would matter on the person and how they view the situation and the house. My parents are very much still alive, and I love my Dad's house alwas have everything about it , I want it and he knows it so I do not think it would bother me to live in his home. I think it would bring back the memories of all the times we had in it, but some people may not be able too. If they did not have good times or were EXTREMELY close to their parent. Please do not get me wrong we are all close toour parents but some are very attatched. I also think time would be necessary for me to grasp his passing and process that 1st then move in. I think it might be wierd to move right in .

Yes. I wonder if they get this question often in places/cities that have existed for centuries(Greece, Rome, etc). If a building's been around long enough, it's a pretty good bet someone has died in it at some time or another. Think of all the castles in Britain that have passed down through reign after reign of royalty. If they had to build a new castle every time someone died in it (and some were not peaceful deaths at all), there would be no real estate left on the island.

i guess it would depend on how they died...