Could You Donate an Egg?

Updated on August 11, 2011
T.L. asks from Cuba, MO
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Well could YOU to a needy mother? As long as it is not someone like Octo-Mom.

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T.S.

answers from Philadelphia on

In an ideal world or different life scenario, yes. But in reality, it would be VERY difficult for me knowing that 'part of me' is out there somewhere and that my children have half-siblings out there that they may never know. Just my opinion for my situation. Its a very personal decision for someone to make and no one should be judged for it no matter what they decide.

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answers from Dallas on

NO, never. I wouldn't even consider it a million years...for any amount of money....under any circumstances.

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K.*.

answers from Los Angeles on

Having gone through fertility treatment for my kids, including IVF...not one cycle, but three. I couldn't do it. I have two friends and an aunt ask if I would donate embryos and there is just no way. Knowing how I am, I would think about it waaaay too much and that wouldn't be fair to anyone. I do know people that have no problems doing this...thank goodness for people like that, because I'm just not one of them.

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J.H.

answers from San Antonio on

I can't donate (or at least this is what I was told) because I was born with a birth defect.

I have, however, done two surrogacies. Both were with eggs from an egg donor. God bless the women who donated because if they hadn't, my FIPs (former intended parents) wouldn't have their children right now.

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A.W.

answers from Kalamazoo on

I'm guess I'm opposite to some answers you're getting.
No way i could donate one of my eggs - that's one of my babies with my genes etc......
On the other hand, I could be a surrogate to someone elses embryo - not my egg. I see that as a really precious baby sitting gig :) I am in no way tied genetically to that baby, I would just be taking care of it for awhile so it can grow. Of course I would feel love and closeness to the baby, but it's not "mine", not my child, not my baby........

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B.C.

answers from Norfolk on

No.
First, I'm too old (49).
Second, I'm possessive about my eggs.
I could not be a surrogate either - if I baked the bun in my oven, I'd consider it mine.
I'm sure there are others out there who would be fine with it, but it's not for me.

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H.P.

answers from New York on

Being someone who was told at the age of 21 that I would never have my own children because of the chemotherapy I was receiving, I certainly hope there are women out there willing to donate eggs. I thought for the longest time that I would need an egg donor in order to carry a child. Luckily my body rebounded and I have two healthy children and a third on the way all conceived naturally. I think I would definitely consider anonymous donation but not sure I could give an egg to someone I knew. Tricky question!

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J.B.

answers from Boston on

No. I could to one of my sisters if needed (it's not needed) because to me, my eggs come from the same parents and are in that sense the same as theirs.

But otherwise, I would think of it as one of my children out there who I wasn't raising.

I was a gestational carrier surrogate so I was fine with carrying someone else's pregnancy because the children were not related to me, but I would not have been able to do it if we used my eggs nor would I be able to donate eggs.

I admire anyone who can - I know a few families that were blessed with donor eggs and I know that those families are forever grateful to the generous women who shared their eggs!

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Y.C.

answers from Washington DC on

Sure - I could do that. I don't think I could handle being a surrogate, though.

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A.S.

answers from Iowa City on

Yes I could but only if the child was told the truth of their conception in case they felt the need to meet their genetic "mother". And I would want to know/meet the parent(s) to be so I could gauge their character to some extent.

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S.B.

answers from Redding on

Nope. Sorry. I'm eggless.

I did seriously consider asking my sister to donate one for me, but after years of trying I finally got pregnant the old fashioned way.

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T.C.

answers from Colorado Springs on

No, never. That egg would still result in *MY* child. I couldn't just give away one of my children.

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M.D.

answers from Washington DC on

I go back and forth on this, but today I'd say probably not :(.

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S.L.

answers from New York on

Yes, i think ( if I were young enough) what a gift that would be!

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L.F.

answers from San Francisco on

Honestly, I couldn't for lots of reasons. I wish that I could, but I love my eggs too much to share with anyone else. :) I completely support people who do this though.

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T.H.

answers from Kansas City on

Probably not. It would certainly depend on the situation, but if it were just to donate to a "bank", nope, wouldn't do it. I could probably be a surrogate for the right person, but again, there is no way I'd just sign up for that job, but if a close friend or family member asked, I'd probably consider it.

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S.T.

answers from Kansas City on

I could, I think. I would want it to be someone that I wouldnt see though, because I think I would have a hard time seeing a child that was biologically part of me but not being with me. But when you donate an egg or eggs to someone who you wont see again, then you dont know if she got pregnant or not. I think it would be super easy on the one hand to help someone have a child, but super h*** o* the other because part of you is out there somewhere and you dont know. This is a really good question, I am eager to read other responses.

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K.P.

answers from New York on

Yes- absolutely! My husband & I have talked about this before as we have several friends struggling with infertility. I could not donate to someone I know- would be too weird for me to see "my child" but I would consider it. From what I understand it's a really involved process though - not like the male donation process!

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R.K.

answers from Boston on

I sure would! I would only be able to surrogate for someone Im very close with though because I would want to see that baby all the time.
I know someone that under went fertility treatment and she ended up picking a couple (much like an open adoption) for her unused embryos when it was getting close to the point where they were given 3 options 1. Have the remaining embryos destroyed 2. Donate them for science/medical 3. Give them to a loving couple

Edited: I should add that I've looked into it and from paperwork I've gotten it requires a lot of doctors trips it is something I will look into in more detail next year when my youngest is kindergarten.

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R.A.

answers from Providence on

I probably would if my husband was on board. I would need support from him, and lots of prayers to make sure it was the best decision for all involved.

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M.J.

answers from Dover on

I think I could. I would have a much harder time being a surrogate, but if it was for, say, my sister then I would do it in a heartbeat. I loved being pregnant both times I was & would have had a whole bunch of kids if we could afford it.

I've actually talked about this with my mother before because her older sister was unable to have children & they ended up adopting 2 infants, which is wonderful in & of itself, but this was also back in the early 70's. My mom has also said that she would have been happy to be a surrogate to her sister if there had been such a thing back then.

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A.C.

answers from Savannah on

Yes. That wouldn't be an issue for me at all. I think it'd be wonderful to give someone a chance to experience being pregnant and having a baby to love! That has never come up though, lol....but yeah. If a doctor said mine were "medically sound" or whatever (I have no idea what that's about, or if I'm getting too old or whatever), no problem.

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A.L.

answers from Dallas on

This might actually be a possibility for my sister and yes I would definitely donate an egg to her.

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E.J.

answers from Lincoln on

I wouldn't be able to donate an egg, but I would LOVE to surrogate. I think it's beautiful that people who want babies SO bad are able to find ways to have them. I hope to surrogate someday

A.M.

answers from Kansas City on

Yes...I have thought about this many times over.

My "idol/mentor" lost her child at 25 weeks gestation. I held that little girl in my hands, she was 13 oz, so tiny, so innocent. Had I been old enough at the time I would have said "take one of mine"...

That was the first and only chance at her carrying a child. She has since adopted and raised five other kids, and opened her heart and home to so many more.

Watching her go through what she did, I would gladly do it...however I am not a candidate any longer.

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C.W.

answers from Santa Barbara on

I'm too old now at 45 but I don't see anything wrong with it. My feelings probably come from the fact I adopted (not related to fertility). I sure don't feel it is my unborn child, it's an egg - we are born with a ton of them. More invasive but I equate it to donating blood or bone marrow.

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