Appropriate? Not Appropriate?

No, You are not over reacting 1) he is exploiting your son. And 2 worse -it is so very not Ok to have your sons photo with all that info on it.I would tell him he is endangering your son & you expect him to respond immediately for your son's safety. Go check and if he hasn't cooperated tell him that he's giving you no choice but to contact CPS and you will take it to family court mediation if you must.

At school all children are taught now adays that they NEVER give out personal info over the internet OR share photos with people they do not know.I would also complain to the dating service about their policy.The police even have bumper stickers on their vehicles that say " What About the internet?"

Take Care,

R.

You are definitely not over reacting! I agree with you, it is not safe in this day and age to 'advertise' children in any form (even innocent forms like you ex has done). He should be protecting his son! Also, he should NOT use his little boy in the dating world. I really hope this is resolved in your sons favor quickly.
Good Luck,
D. in Rocklin

The best thing you can do is calmly talk this over with your ex. Perhaps he was thinking he wanted to be upfront with anyone new, that he is a father and is involved in his son's life? He probably did not think what he was doing was a problem (is he normally reasonable and rational in other situations?), so he'd probably be open to your concerns. Good luck!

K.

Hi A.,
I do not think you're overreacting at all. If some child molester can figure out from your ex's profile what your son looks like and where to find him (and, yes, there are female sex offenders, so even if only women see his info, it's still a problem), then your husband needs to remove all info identifying your son. Definitely let your ex know that you're concerned about having strangers being able to identify and find your son. I don't see his sharing details of what they did on vacation to be much of a problem, but I have not read what he said, obviously, so it's hard to say.
K.

I totally agree that your Ex should not be posting pictures of your child for public use. Most guys seem to think that women are looking for a man who is a loving father and loves kids. I believe this is what he is going for but exposing your son like that is wrong, expecially when he still has a mother in the picture.

You need to let your ex know that you DO NOT want pictures of your son exploited on the web for his person use to get a woman. If you have full say in your son's life too than he has to abide by your wishes. Especially if he didn't get your permission to use the photos in the first place.

Absolutely Inappropriate. The online dating service is for your EX not your 6-yr. old. After a meaningful relationship has developed then introduce children, not before. Initially, just mentioning that one has children is enough.
I believe you have reason for concern and ARE NOT overreacting. I would ask that his online dating photos not include your children and I would also ask that no specific information regarding the children be revealed in his profile.

It sounds like the problem has already been solved. Your ex removed the photos as you requested. Often men and women think differently about these things. It seems to me that he just wasn't educated about posting kids pictures on the internet and now he IS. Don't follow his inappropriate behavior by being inappropriate yourself and making him look like an idiot. The fact that he respected your wishes says alot. Sometimes the best advice is hard to take because it makes us look at what we have been doing wrong, but people that can admit that they have handled things wrong are the ones that can have the happiest lives because they can move forward.
Sounds resonable to me. Don't make a federal case out of it. He sounds like a good guy. Maybe you should revisit why you are not raising your son with him as a family. If you can work that issue out so easily it sounds like you are good at problem solving together except that you seem to want to beat him up about mistakes he has made. Try a little forgiveness, it goes a long way because we all screw up once in a while.
Hugs to you,
A.

Yes, I totally agree that it is INAPPROPRIATE for your EX to post photos of your son. However, and unfortunately, it is not crime for him to do that. What you could suggest to him is not to do it, since there are a lot of pedofiles out there who have this crazy notion for pictures of young kids.

D.

I'm sorry that you stumbled upon this situation; what a weird coincidence. To reassure you a bit (and you probably already know...), eHarmony is a very controlled environment and VERY few people are going to see these pictures; they're simply not available to the general public in any way. I've seen pics of kids on Match (back before I was remarried) so, while inappropriate, not uncommon.

There are going to be lots and lots of things about the way your ex conducts himself that you disagree with. Since there's pretty much nothing you can do to control what he does, I suggest trying to accept the fact that there's not a lot you can do. I would let him know about this funny coincidence and let him know that it's simply a bad idea to post pictures of your (plural) son on the web, but don't waste a lot of cycles getting agitated about it. There is very little real risk in the situation, and my guess is that if you stay calm about it, he'll respond by feeling a bit sheepish and removing the pictures.

Totally inappropriate to publicly post photos of young children online.

Not appropriate! Yikes! if you can ask your ex how he would feel if you did this and posted pics too. Then remind him men would be looking at your profile and would he like men looking at pics of your son too. Yikes!
I hope you can convince him to take the pics off! He also sounds pretty desparate to have pics of his son on a profile of himself.
My thoughts and prayers go out to you!
A.

I can't imagine what that would feel like; not sure if that would bother me or not. I know for sure it would bother me if he had dumped me.

Hopefully you have a good relationship with him and you can just ask him nicely to omit your child from his dating. I think it's not relevant whether you're overreacting or not, it's your feeling and it's not too much to ask of him.
Anyway if he's dating he should really be keeping the kid out of it for a long time anyway, so he shouldn't be luring women with the kid.