Anyone Ever Use a PI to Catch a Cheating Spouse?

I met a Private Investigator, Karen Hewitt, through a networking group last fall. She handles all kinds of cases and is very caring.

Karen's direct number is ###-###-####, and her office number is ###-###-####. Her email is ____@____.com

Hope that helps!!! Happy Mother's Day ;-)

I know this is extremely personal and makes you feel sick all the time. In my case the shoe was on the other foot. I had 5 affairs and my husband found out and wow did God show me how wonderful of a husband he had given me. The focus turned into what was wrong with me and how to get me help instead of the focus being on the other men and what I had done to him. We were referred to a place called The Road Adventure and he went the first weekend without me because I wasn't ready for someone to tell me what was wrong with me but after he got home I had to go. He was so merciful and had given me such grace in such a bad situation. I then went the next time by myself and saw that it wasn't people pointing fingers like I thought it was. We went through phases 2 and 3 together and renewed our vows there during 2 and let me tell you that having a truly unconditional loving spouse that puts you first and your marriage first and this program saved my marriage. We are stronger now than on our wedding day. I know it hurts but you have to find the strength to take you out of it and realize that for a spouse to do something like that they are broken inside and they need to be fixed. It is in Richardson and it is a lifesaver. There are people there from 18 to 65 from adultery to addiction.

I spent a lot of time as a single woman in the workplace and it's a little scary how many married men hit on their female co-workers. There are always plenty of things going on at home to complain about and many women fall for this one-side view presented. They only know that this guy is a great guy at work, and they start to feel sorry for him having to live with this terrible monster he married. I used to laugh at these guys and tell them I would love to meet their wives because they were probably married to a great woman who is home slaving away for them. Do yourself a favor and instead of wasting money on a PI invite this woman over for dinner. Be as nice, friendly and unsuspecting as you can be. Tell her you just found out she was in town, you know she and your husband have worked together before and you would enjoy seeing her. Let her find out for herself that you are actually a nice person and a loving mother. Let her see that he actually has a good thing going at home. A few things can happen but I have always suspected it must hard to have an affair with a guy once you find out you really like his wife and easy if you don't know her at all. I had my share of co-workers wives treat me badly because they suspected something was going on. It was all in their minds, and if they had really taken the time to get to know me they would have realized that I had more respect for peoples marriage vow than most of the married people I worked with. The best defense is a good offense and believing in yourself. Good luck.

Hi. I am so sorry you are having to deal with these horrible feelings, its an ugly spot you are in, yuck! I will tell you that if one goes as far as seriously considering a private investigator then you have your answer. Your intuition is something you should trust. I am sure there is more that is attributing to your suspicions then just the move coincidence.
Have you asked yourself what would you do with the information found by a PI? Why do you need such proof? Honestly I would confront him about your feelings prior to going behind his back and doing things that route. Now if he assures you nothing is going on and explains things better and you still find he isn't being honest then start your own PI work, phone records, emails, stuff like that. If you do go to him first it may save your marriage because if he isn't cheating and its lots of coincidence then you haven't broken his trust because you came to him first as opposed to snooping around. If you go the PI route with out talking to him and they find nothing and he finds out, it won't blow over as easy as if you just came to him first. Give him a chance to explain. If you feel he is lying or what not then you may have to dig a little, maybe show up to work randomly to "say hi" and bring him some lunch...check out the vibe at work. Ask him who he goes to lunch with, stuff like that. Get involved with his work life a little more. Remember one thing...it is so much easier to attack and hate the other woman as you don't love her then it is to attack the one you love that is hurting you but the person you should be angry and hurt by is your husband (if he is cheating that is). I am not saying she does not have any fault but that is her problem and she is pathetic, your husband is the one you need to direct all your anger and hurt at. Don't give the man any satisfaction by fighting with the other woman over him. I hope that makes sense. I truly hope he isn't cheating and there is coincidence that he can prove. boy what a relieve that would be! My husbands job just moved us here to the DFW last month! So many emotions are going on with our family and us but so far good ones. We moved from all our family and all our friends so its quite an adjustment. Does you hubby work very long hours and go on business trips? I wish you the very best :)

Instead of paying a ton of money to a PI, why don't you pay a friend a small fee to follow him around? Make sure he won't recognize your friend's car, and you will have the same results with a huge discount. Your friend won't have a fancy PI type of camera to snap photos, but at least your friend will be able to tell you where your husband is. Also, check his cell phone's call history. Best of luck to you in this extremely painful time.

Hey there,
Always go with your gut! Hopefully its not right but at least this way there aren't any regrets. THe PI's name is Steve Hall. He is based out of Austin but comes up here frequently. He is very experienced with these types of case. He would like to have some work up here as he will be moving soon. His number is ###-###-####.
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I'm sorry you have to go through this and I know how hard it is having gone through it myself recently. Its been six month since I found out my husband has been unfaithful to me in our eleven years of marriage and we also moved away from family. My advice to you is that if your instincts tell you that something is going on then there probably is. You might want to confront him just so he knows that you are aware of what is going on. Dont let him know you suspect his "work mate" but just mention your suspicions and see if he has anything to say. I also like Mary J's advice. The other woman needs to know that you are a wonderful wife and mom and she needs to get to know the people she could potentially hurting.
I will be praying for you and I hope your worries are in vain.

My friend hired a PI and he was expensive. I know he charged an hourly rate and a lot of it is following him around. So I think she ended up paying $2000-2500 and he even felt so bad for her that he gave her some hours for free. It was a really bad deal. He gave her a video for her in case she needed it in court. Also-in Texas not sure if you know this or not but you do have the right to sue her. So that could really scare her. Not that you would do that but just so you know you do have that right. Anyway, she got his name out of the yellow pages and I think she called several and asked certain types of questions. She really liked the guy and thought he was very professional. She can't remember what his name was since it was several years ago and to be honest I think she blocked it out. Good luck!!!

I know this is scary and very emotional but it will make you stronger. One thing her lawyer did tell her to is keep a log. Of hours leaving and coming. She played like nothing was wrong and she would go through his email, phone, and make copies. She was watching credit card receipts, and the bank statements. She had a file very large that when she did file he pretty much just gave her what she wanted.

I am sorry I don't have a PI but wanted to say I think you are smart to know he won't admit it and smart to find out on your own. I am sorry you are going through this and wish you the best of luck.

Before hiring a PI, which is extremely expensive, I believe you should talk with your husband. I know it's hard, but if there is so little trust that you cannot ask him about it, you have major marriage issue to work on. Good luck!

I know how bad it feels to have a cheating spouse. I am an upfront kind of person, so I would call him on the carpet before involving a PI. Also, if there is any hope of salvaging your marriage, the two of you need to talk. More secrets may just make things worse. I don't think you want to end up playing a game of cat and mouse. Be honest about how you feel and put everything out on the table and under the light. I truly believe you will feel better about how things turn out if you are upfront and honest. Good luck. I'll be praying for your family.

Let him know how you're feeling...men are sloppy so it will come out if it's happening - phone records, emails, something. Do you see anything there? How is he with you? Interested, not interest? Distant...are things different? Think about www.sosinc.org as it saves lives and marriages...before being done. Good luck. I would think a PI would just drag it out and charge you a lot of money.

Someone else mentioned it. Cheaters, the TV show, is based in DFW in case you didn't know. I don't recommend going that route personally, but FYI.

I don't think you should call him on it if you know he's going to deny it. And, if he knows you are on to him he'll do things to hide it better.

I'd definitely hire a PI and find out what is going on. I would also talk to a PI and find out their cost before you hire them. It would definitely be to your advantage to have proof of an affair if you are headed for a divorce. It would give you some proof to ensure you get what you need to support yourself and children.

I have had a similar experience. My husband worked with a young lady who did have a crush on him. She would send cookies and candy to my kids. She would send gifts to my kids. She actually sent a plate of Christmas treats with a card addressed to "Allen and kids" ... not me. I kept telling him that she had a thing for him and he didn't believe me. Finally, she gave him a rather expensive Christmas gift. He brought it home and showed me. I told him he needed to return it. Thankfully, he gave it back to her saying it was inappropriate. He later had her re-assigned so their jobs had nothing to do with one another. She was just so blatant about it and I'd met the girl. SO, if your gut tells you more is going on, listen to your gut.

I am so sorry for you as I can imagine how you feel. Best of luck.