Advice on 11 Yr Old Victim

My little sister was molested as a child (by the baby sitters boyfriend) I remember my mom being so upset and just numb of what happened to her little girl, in time it got better and now after therapy and talking about it the pain has eased and we now go on with our lives (I'm still very protective of her though)--I would let her know that you are there for her to talk to, cry to, or even yell out some fustrations. Tell her anything she needs you will do it--no questions asked!! If you have the money I would buy her and her daughter a ticket to come visit you, to get out of that place and plan some fun stuff to do---sometimes to spend some time away from there and do fun things puts you mind at ease and gives you a break of all the craziness and just be "normal" for alittle bit, if you don't have the money then start saving or ask family to help gather some money to fund a trip for them or fund money for them to even go see there own family if they live far away from them so they can be close to people they love in this time of need--I would however suggest to get therapy to talk about it because that really helped my family, I really blamed myself because I was suppose to be home at a certain time for the babysitter to drop her off at the house but I was at a friends house and I lost track of time and didn't make it home in time so the babysitter took my sister to the boyfriends house because I was not home--sometimes to this day I blame myself but therapy really helped me. If you haven't done it already I would send flowers to both of them (what 11 year don't like flowers) and a card. Do happy things for them. They will really appreciate it. I hope I helped and I'm sorry this happened to someone so close to you---I know its hard!!

I wouldn't push the issue and allow her to talk to you about it if she wants to. If you are that close just be there for her and don't make her feel that she has to talk about it. The parents should be getting her counceling. Some people feel like they need to talk a lot to feel better some don't.

My child was 3 and molested by a family member, she only talked to me and her therapist about it. She made a few comments to her father but she was very young and I think that is why.

that is a very difficult situation and i am sorry that she had to go thru that as a victim myself I know how hard it is to cope. Unforunately, I fear the only way to show your love and help is to just talk and hope she talks back. I am not sure how her parents are dealing with it but therapy helped me alot. its a chance to open up to someone you know won't judge or blame you. again i am very sorry.

Just be there for her.When she is ready she will talk to you.I would'nt bring it up.Let her come to you.