30 Yr Old with a 21 Yr Old

Stay with him, age shouldn't matter. I agree that you shouldn't rush into things though, especially since you have children. Take things slow and enjoy your growing relationship!

I don't know Demi.......ask Ashtin!! Good for you!

Um, I guess I don't see a problem here! If everyone is happy, what does age matter? Good luck to you!

Chronological age does not matter as much as emotional maturity. I'd say to enjoy the relationship and what it has to offer, but to exercise restraint when it comes to melding him into your family. What's the hurry? What will change or more importantly, what will you lose if you take your time? What's most important is the emotional welfare of your children and yourself, if he cannot wait for that, then I'd say he doesn't have his priorities right.

Also, I'd ask you, or anyone else, is partnering with someone in a model nuclear family that important for you now? Are you happy as a single mother at present? Can you keep this as a relationship that you have with him, with the kids knowing him as your friend or S.O., without any further movement forward?

My only concern would be the financial capacity and emotional growth of someone at 21 and their readiness to enter into an already established, mature household.

I know I seem like a wet blanket, but I'm a realist. Enjoy what you have with him now, but I'd recommend not to hurry on big committments with him.

Age? who cares? When you introduce him to someone do you say.. Hi this is John and he's only 21, is that ok? Don't worry about it. My husband is six years younger than me and if you ask our friends, he is the older one lol. Enjoy your time together :)

You can be happy. I wouldn't break up with him just based on the age difference since you're both legal adults. Since you have two young children AND because you've only known him for 6 months, I wouldn't move in with him until you're certain you want to marry him... and try not to think in terms of partnering with him "for the rest of your life" just yet. Be happy, be in love, but be cautious.

I have some friends who have been married for around 15 years. They are still very happy together. He is 12 years younger than she is. It can work. Don't worry about the age. Also, my husband is 16 years older than I am. I know it't not the same as a girl being older than the guy, but just wanted to let you know that age doesn't matter. If you love each other, that is what counts.

No, you should be with whom ever makes you happy. Would you question it if he was 9 years older? Sounds like a good guy. Be Happy!

Hi there! I just wanted to reassure you that age truly is just a number. My parents divorced when I was young, and my mom started dating when I was a teenager. She was 35 and fell in love - he was 23. He never acted 23 - he looked/acted older than he was. She married that man and he became my step-dad, and the only real dad I've ever really had. He's only 10 years older than ME, but it's never been awkward or felt weird, he just fit right in with the family and became part of it. We don't even think about the age thing until someone mentions it. It's hard enough to find someone you are truly compatible with and who you love and loves you - don't let the age difference bother you, that's my opinion! Good luck - take care!
peace, J.

Love is what matters he is older than 18 so he is legal to date..It's really hard to find someone to love and accept you and your kids as a package so go for it...

Ashton and Demi worked it out so can you!!