17 Mo Old Bangs Her Head off Things

Hi, H.! It sounds to me like your daughter can't communicate the very complex things going through her mind, so she gets frustrated! My kids would act out by hitting others, and I've heard of many cases where kids would hurt themselves in frustration. This doesn't make it okay, but there is some things you can do.

I really liked the suggestion of sign language. It's easy to teach (try Signing Time videos, especially the ones about emotions), and at her age she will pick it up rather quickly. Also ask her questions when she does this... "Are you feeling mad? (or whatever you think she may be feeling...)" If she says no, try figuring out by asking questions what it is she's feeling or wanting. Then you can say something along the lines of "I understand that you wanted to play with that toy. It must be very frustrating for you. But we don't hurt ourselves. Instead, say 'I'm mad.' Can you say that?"

This is basically how I worked with my kids to get them to stop hitting. I hope it works for you, too!

The sign language is good advice. However, there may be another issue: speech/communication difficulties. Does your 17-month daughter use language appropriate for her age? Is she delayed in any way? My son banged his head as well. We taught him sign language & it helped some, but did not completely stop the head banging. He was only somewhat interested in using the sign language. Not until he received Speech Therapy (he was diagnosed with Speech delay & possible auditory processing disorder) did the head banging dissappear almost completely. Other behaviors also lessened - biting his older sister, shoving, etc., because he really learned to use his words. Testing is free in TX (for speech delay) through the state & so is treatment until age 3. After that, if your child is still behind, she can receive treatment from your local school district. Don't watch & wait like we did. We thought our son was only a little behind...well, he's making progress, he's 4.5yrs old, but speech-wise, he's about a YEAR behind. I firmly believe he will catch-up eventually, but I think it's going to take awhile. It would not take quite so long had we got him in for testing sooner. I don't remember the state phone # to call, but I bet your pediatrician's office has it. Give 'em a call & ask. Good luck.

This is normal for little ones. They actually are learning sound and rhythm. I would get her a CD player and have her listen to music and get her some musical toys like a drum or rattle. You can even make these. I would just watch her and make sure she isn't doing it too hard or on something that could hurt her like the corner of a door or fire place. Have a great day!

B.
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Ouch!!! I am curious to see the advice.

I had an extended family member who did this when he was a baby (about 40 yrs ago). I wish I knew more about it, but he is an adult today, very professional and has a laid back personality. I hope this may help with your peace of mind.

My 2 year old cousin does this BUT his mom and dad have suffered from anger issues for several years! Although they do not act out in anger in front of the child, he has the same issues you are dealing with in your child. This is how they have "solved" it. They taught him sign language! They felt that he became frustrated because he was unable to communicate his wants and needs! They also invested in picture flash cards with pics of foods, clothing, activities, etc. and used those to help him build vocabulay. Try it......you never know! Good luck!