Trying to conceive...Please Help!

Updated on August 30, 2013
Z.E. asks from Plano, TX
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I have been charting my basal body temp and cervical mucus. I have read almost ever article possible and I am so confused about what just happened!
-I have irregular periods (which I know doesn't help or make things easier)
On August 1st by temp was 96.30 F and August 2nd it went up to 97.72 ( I thought I ovulated on the 1st)
I was planning on trying this weekend. My CM has been watery since the 19th...I was sure ovulation was getting near because breast tenderness started on the 25th. I had a bit of pain in my right ovary yesterday, not as strong as my usual cramps.
BUT all of a sudden a few minutes ago........I started my period! I just don't understand. Is there something I'm missing?
Is it possible to ovulate in the beginning of a month and start your period at the end of it? Is CM watery right before your period?
I checked again shortly after and I am no longer bleeding, instead CM is a little bit stretchy and a bit thicker.

Please help me understand.
What. Is. Going. On?

Can I still ovulate even with mid-cycle bleeding?

Thanks so much in advance, Moms!

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So What Happened?

I haven't gone to my doctor yet. I was going to go after. But this will be our actual first time trying so there's no chance I'm pregnant. I'm just confused.

We are using a known donor and trying at home insemination.

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D.P.

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I read the title of this thread and my first thought was.. 'Ok, fine, I'll send my husband over." lol

I have zero know-how regarding this issue but I wish you the best. Sending baby dust ˚°•°•°˚°•˚°•°•°˚°•ßåߥ ˚°•°•°˚°•˚°•°•°˚°•

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C..

answers from Detroit on

Have you talked to your doctor? Maybe for some reason you are not ovulating every month.
How long have you been trying?
Never had what you described before I started my period.
Also, have you taken a test to make sure you aren't already pregnant?

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M.S.

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Use an ovulation predictor kit. It's much easier and it works.

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D.P.

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My advice...stop trying so hard and overthinking everything. I tried and tried for my first one and it seemed like it took forever. We decided to have a second but figured we were in no rush and to just let it happen if it was going to...and Boom! Pregnant right away. You are stressing yourself out and it's affecting your ability to get pregnant...If it's meant to be it will be!

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H.W.

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You may have had some midcycle bleeding. It happens, even to the best of us! The pain you felt is sometimes called 'mittelshmerz' (which means mid-cycle pain) and is common.

As for the rest of it, the only things I can suggest are working with a specialist if you are concerned about fertility issues and Dr.Toni Weschler's book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility". I will say that the more fertile cervical mucous is compared to 'egg white' or more mucous, not watery. What you wrote at the end about the cm being thicker and stretchy is exactly what you want to see.

Good luck!

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C.S.

answers from Las Vegas on

Yes, I opened this because your subject line too. I just thought...you're asking a bunch of women to help you conceive?

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L.S.

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Hey -
Ignore all the snippy comments. These are women who obviously have never had trouble conceiving. My recommendations to you are:
1. Give up on the basal temperature. I found it very hard to understand (you are supposed to take your temperature the minute you wake up and before you get out of bed and start moving). I often found that I forgot to take my temperature before I had leaped out of bed.
2. Get a test ovulation kit and start using it. It is much like a pregnany test kit where the line shows you when you are actually ovulating. However, with your sporatic periods, this might be difficult. Typically, a woman ovulates somewhere between her 9 and 12th day from the START of her period. However, I actually ovulated on my 18th day. Those test kits only have a few strips in them, so when I started testing on the 9th day, I went through a whole kit before I ever got to the 18th day. I tracked my period/ovulation cycle for about 4 months before I was confident about the day that I was ovulating. THEN I tried to conceive. I actually conceived on the first try (with a donor) for the first pregnancy.
3. For the 2nd pregnancy, I worked with a fertility specialist and he said that the 18th day of ovulating is too late in the cycle and that it was a miracle that I had a baby the first time. So, here is what a fertility specialist can do for you:
4. He/She can see you during the mid-point of your cycle and do a sonogram and measure exactly how large your egg is. By the mid point of my period )(day 11/12), my eggs were not large enough. So, he put me on drugs (oral) which increased the size of my eggs. He tested the size of my eggs one month (first visit) and then he ordered the prescription for growing the size of my eggs. I honestly don't remember when I started those (immediately or closer to my next period). But, after I had been on the drugs, I went back to the doctor and he measured the eggs again at the mid point. He wasn't 100% happy with the size of them, so we waited two more days. Then, he gave me a shot to administer to myself which forced the ovulation. Then, I was inseminated the next day. I was pregnant again immediately.

So, tracking your ovulation is VERY key. Some of the recommendations for tracking your ovulation are - when you see the line, inseminate THAT day and ALSO the next day. Of course, that can get expensive. But, I think you will find that you will be much more comfortable about using the donor (due to expense), if you get confident about when your ovulation cycle is. I highly recommend tracking it for at least 3 months before you try.

In regards to your question about mid-cycle bleeding, I have no idea about any of that. I did not experience any of that. That is something you should definitely ask your doctor about.

Also, if your doctor is not supportive of your endeavors, get another doctor. There are plenty of VERY supportive doctors out there. My donor was cryogenically frozen and stored at my fertility doctor's office in Dallas. However, I live in Tyler and my doctor's office did not know anything about using cryogenic samples. However, they were 100% supportive of the process and doing anything my fertility doctor asked. He requested blood work and sonograms from my local office at certain times of my cycle and my local doctor's 100% supported him - fitting me in when I needed to be seen.

Good luck!!
L.

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D.D.

answers from Pittsburgh on

I found charting basal temps, etc, to be tricky. Much easier to buy some test strips to tell you when you are ovulating based on hormone levels. Especially since your periods aren't regular. They are very inexpensive.

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L.R.

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STOP, relax and forget about the science of it all (trust me I'm a scientist). Set a to 'do it' for every day/night and enjoy each other after 6 months of that if your still not pregnant then start tracking your monthly cycle :)

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