Todler Spiting at Others

Hi B., there is no need for whooping him, he's a child. Listen, I was having the same problem, I have a 4 yr old at the time he was 3. We had a friend and his son living with us and they would spit at each other, one day I was talking to my mom in law on the phone and she gave me the best advice.
The next time he spits, take him into the bathroom put the seat up on the toilet and make him stand there spitting into the toilet until he is tired of it and as he's doing it just keep repeating Spit, Spit, Spit, he'll eventually start crying and not want to do it any more, then ask him are you going to spit on anyone else, what do you think his response will be. " No ". ok so if he does it again take him right back to the toilet and repeat. I only had to do that once, and the spitting stopped.. Please try this without hitting him, there's no need for that.. Huggsie M.

Well, my son was pretty strong willed early on and he also went through this stage. For me I had to talk extra firm and be very dramatic and say "oh my gosh this is awful you could really harm your friend by spitting on him.......oh my gosh this is awful. I hope your friend is ok, Oh my gosh what can we do for your friend to help him".
And I mean I really had to act dramatic. Like it was a horrible situation. I think if startled him so much that it always cured the problem. You have to stay in character though and really act like it is horrible so it comes off as believable.
And to make you feel better this stage passes soon.
Good Luck.
M.

I know that all the books, and doctors, and specialists say Positive reinforcement is best for kids... but it honestly doesn't always work. My son did this (at about the same age), and the only thing that stopped him was Telling him No spitting, firmly, and putting him in time out for 2 minutes. After ward, I'd hold him and soothe him (he has a complete meltdown about time out), and try to explain that Spitting at people is not very nice and hurts feelings. I know they're not capable of reasoning and logic to that degree until about 4 or 5, but it seemed to give him some help with repetition and eventually he'd start to do it, then stop and say "no spit, hurt feeling" and do something else instead.

If he is escalating the problem then you must escalate the consequences. Start with time out, then take away his toys - if you are out at the time explain you will remove his toys when you get home then DO IT. Make sure you follow through and don't make empty threats. After 1/2 an hour, you should be able to give them back. He is testing the boundaries and you need to hold firm this is very antisocial behaviour that should not continue. Good luck and remember that you are the one in charge, you determine the consequences and how long they continue for (don't cave in if he cries or whines).

try a few drops of water on his face and ask him how it feels and explain others feel that way when he spits on them and it makes them sad.

Spit on him, that should get him to stop.

Oh my gosh! My son has this nasty habit too and it is quite embarrassing right! Although, he doesn't do it at people (except his sister!) he just does it. Being two and being a boy, I believe that the bigger deal that is made about it the more he will do it! I would try to completely ignore it a few times, as embarrassing as that is, and see if he just gives up! Good Luck!

Put a dab of tabassco sauce on his tongue. It is harsh but it will work. Ive used it on my son for bad words and he has never sworn again. of course explain what will happen the next time he does it, and if he fails calmly give him the sauce.

Put him in a naughty chair whenever he does it. If he's five years old he sits there five minutes. If he gets out you put him there time and again until he stays there 5 minutes. Then you explain to him why he broke the rule about spitting, tell him to apologize, and then hug him.

If it doesn't work, try spitting in his face for a few times to see how he likes it. It's breaking the rules, but he has to know how unpleasant it is before he breaks the habit.

when all eles fails a light swat on the bottom if you cup your hand it make noise and that what get them good luck on that one