To Get Plastic Surgery??

No one likes how they look in pictures:) You are awesome, strong and beautiful, and so is your daughter:) I had similar issues with myself regarding pictures, but when I see my reflection in my own daughter I see how beautiful we both are and wouldn't change a thing:) I wish you well:)

Hello J. Grey anyone? I mean something had to be appealing about you to your husband or he wouldn't have been interested in you in the first place. Sure everyone has flaws that they are not happy about but it makes them unique. My husband has a big nose and I think it really makes his face if you know what I mean. Also you need to have a healthy image towards your body so your daughter won't feel anything negative about hers. I know it is hard to do but I have two daughters who are still young and I don't want them growing up seeing me be so negative about my body/looks. I always try to build up their self esteem also. You sound like you are pretty happy with the way things are now. I just think that you are letting negative people influence you. I think you should stay the way you are and I hope this helps you.

Well I remember my mom saying I married your dad because he has a small nose. My grandfather had a nose like Jimmy Durante (big). Each generation the nose has gotten smaller. I have my mother's nose, I have at times wished it was smaller. At age 50 I have accepted my nose and have noticed all the other beautiful women out there with "big" noses. I am also short 4'9" and usually if they have a comment it's about my height. I admit that in photos I often look to see if my nose looks "big". Noses are also the first thing I look at in pictures or a person (well...not as much now that I'm 50 and my neck is showing my age). My son has a nose more like mine, a bit larger than average, I do notice. The ultimate question is how would you feel with a changed nose, would it really make You feel better or are you giving in to pressure to look a certain way...

Hope this helps, in a some way...but the choice is yours because you are the one that will see you.

Best of luck,
S.

I would investigate all the medical risks first, then I would talk to a counselor about the psychological ramifications to yourself and your daughter.( you can talk with your daughters school social worker ) How old is your daughter? Then if your still interested figure out how your going to pay for it and how much it would cost. If you have that taken care of and you still want to them talk with your husband. Good luck.

You have to do what makes YOU most comfortable. I have always hated my nose too and often wanted to get a nose job. The funny thing is though your nose and your ears never stop growing so if you think your nose is too big now what will it look like in another 30-40 years? How comfortable are you with that idea?
IT'S YOUR BODY DO WITH IT WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL YOUR BEST. :-)

Don't go by what other people think of you. If you feel like you will be a more confident person by getting this done, then go for it. You sound like you are a pretty confident person anyway. By getting this done, the people who comment about your nose will still be obnoxious and comment about it after. You say your daughter has "your nose". Do you still think she is beautiful? Please never say she has a big nose, etc. And if you catch your family doing it, I would nip that right away. People can be so mean and shallow. I guess I would not point anything out to my daughter, and not let it become an issue with her. It's too bad your mom couldn't have done the same thing. May you make the best decision for yourself. and nobody else!

You need to talk to your husband for support, that's why we have them. Don't keep feelings from him, you'll feel so much better if you talked to him about this. Maybe your nose, is what he likes best about your looks!! :)

I say if you are going to get anything done do it for yourself and not for anyone else. Growing up I had a slightly larger nose but it didn't bother me that bad that I would actually seriously consider having surgery. About two years ago I had an accident which in turn ended up breaking my nose and making it much bigger and difficult for me to breath. After that happening I was very down about the way that I looked and not the mention the strain it but on my breathing, so I decided to have it fixed. I loved the way it turned out and made me feel, I do not regret my decision one bit on the surgery. That is just me and my decision though and everyone had different reasons for doing things. Good luck with whatever you decide - you will still be you in the end.

P.S.- The surgery is not bad at all-it is over before you even know anything has happened. As far as recovering- I looked back to normal in 2 wks, so much in fact that I was able to participate in family portraits -not a bruise in sight.

Get it done ....If you want to feel better about yourself do it . it's only a nose . And sorry Dad she's all grown up, get over it. What else is money for except to make us and our lives better. Good luck!!!

I have to say that is so true that no one likes how they look in pictures. I can maybe find 1-2 pics that I think I look ok. Please don't get plastic surgery because of outside pressures. You will regret it.
I have a small birthmark above my eye and so many people have commented about getting it removed. It's never bothered me and my Dad always said it gave my face extra character. My husband says it's something he loves about me- that it's a little different, it makes me unique, and he loves it. Now he has also said if there was something that ever really bothered me that I felt I HAD to change in order to feel good about myself- then he would support me.
So is this something that you feel you HAVE to get done or else you won't feel good?

Oh, those outside pressures are so hard to resist. My mom has a big nose, and so does one of my sisters. NOBODY finds either of them unattractive, or even curious to look at; in fact, they are both considered to be very pretty women. If you don't really have a strong desire to change, and are worried about the surgery, and can't really afford it, and might estrange your dad, why not just keep the nose you were born with?

I understand that an ethical cosmetic surgeon will counsel you against changing your features if she/he suspects it will not be to your benefit emotionally or professionally. Some people have a deep dislike of who they are and seek relief through surgery, diets, expensive wardrobes. But no amount of outside change really does much for who we are inside. And those problems don't even appear to plague you – how very lucky you are.

The most beautiful women in the world are the ones who like themselves, can laugh at their inevitable imperfections, and be loving toward others.

We as human beings are VERY bad at knowing what will make us "happy" and often over-estimate the effect of any change. Let it go, and reinforce your daughter's self-confidence as she grows up. Our family members comment on things like noses because it shows "you are one of us"!

I have a slight overbite, and my parents could not afford braces, wasn't even an option. As an adult, my dentist said he could still "fix" them. I said no with no hesitation. This is who I am...and all the men in my life love my mouth the way it is!

Well, in the end it is up to you. But if you change your nose, you daughter may feel that she needs to do it too. If you didn't your nose and she has the same then she may feel like you don't think shes pretty with that nose. So you really need to think about that and be prepared for it. If you keep it, you can tell her in the future that you did get teased but that is the nose you were born with and that you didn't see any reason to change your body. Never do something if it isn't what you want. You don't need to get plastic surgery to please other people. You are the only person who needs to be happy with it. If you can't show your daughter that you have pride in yourself and your looks, then how will she learn to have selfconfidence? I'm not saying I completely disagree with your thinking. I have thought about a nose job, there is a little point at the end, but all 3 of my kids have my nose. I do want a tummy tuck, but that is solely for me and for me to be happy with my looks. After 3 kids the stretch marks are horrible lol.
You are going to need to really think about this and weigh the PROS and CONS of havin the surgery. If you find that the cons outweigh the pros, then it probably isn't a good idea. Or if the Pros are all for other people instead of for yourself, then don't do it. Good Luck in your decision

hmm. what i would say is that this would be the ultimate example of loving yourself, just the way God (or whomever depending on your religious beliefs) made you.

what im thinking is that though you may not think that all those comments bothered you, they really did and they really made a lasting impression on how you view yourself. this is really unfair, but you didnt do anything wrong, its just when you hear something enough times, you start to believe it. i cannot believe that your own family would pick on you about it for your whole life. how is that supposed to make you feel good about yourself.

if you want my honest opinion, i wouldnt have the surgery. its very conflicting for you to do something, yet tell your child that they should be happy the way they are. they are going to find something to be unhappy about - teenagers are HIGHLY likely to hate some part of themselves. and you having surgery to fix something ... its letting your daughter know that you didnt like something about yourself, so you had someone fix it. if she doesnt like something about herself, she can fix it too. and she will notice; especially in pictures.

so, what i would say you do is to start stopping all those comments. you can do this in various ways; which ever you feel most comfortable with. you can say "i would prefer that you not make fun of my physical appearance, i like myself the way i am" OR "you know my whole life those comments sting, and they sting even more now knowing my daughter notices them" whatever makes you comfortable. you dont have to get mad or anything, but you should be able to say something so that the negative comments about YOUR nose stop, if only for the sake of your daughter. you sure dont want her thinking its ok to pinpoint peoples physical "flaws" and constantly berate them for it. :):)

anyway, just be happy for who you are and how you look. your nose is a part of you! you came into this world with it. its just YOURS. :) :) and thats always a good thing

besides, who would want to ruin a normal thing with a botched surgery. i mean, they happen all the time right? LOL.

good luck. though i have never met you, im one of those people who could care less about someones physical appearance; i would rather be concerned with who you are as a person, your character, your personality, how you treat others, etc. right? anyone who doesnt love you for WHO you are instead of what your nose looks like....welllll....... you shouldnt give their opinion any attention at all. :)

You sound like you have a pretty healthy attitude for life and a well-rounded happy life as well. I can relate as I, too, was teased about my nose as a child and my dad once commented that I should get a nose job when I was younger claiming he was worried about my breathing. I am fit, active, and social as well as happily married with a baby. If I really sit down to think about it then I would say my nose could look better, but I don't let it bother me. I am happy with who I am as a person and getting a nose job would not change who I am or make my life better.
In your case, it sounds like it might even add stress to your life financially and emotionally. When it comes down to it, it is really a personal decision. It might help to talk to a close friend and/or your husband about these feelings to help you get some perspective. On the subject of your child, I think you definitely set a much better example for teaching her to love herself more for who she is than for how she looks which is, sadly, so overemphasized in our society. Good luck with your decision!