Terrible 2'S Temper Tantrum

I really think at this age they understand what they are doing and how affective it is to you and your husband. First I would like to know who watches your child while you are at work? I'm wondering if she is allowed to act like this with them and what do they do when she bucks the system. It sounds to me that your daughter is acting out to get your attention and sometimes bad behavior gets that. Having another child would help not only you but it would make her feel like she has to show the baby how to be good. What I use to do with my children was put them on time out try this. If she tries to leave, screams, kicks, cries, etc. walk away and let her have her melt down but leave her on her time out area for 5 min maybe longer. Then talk to her by going down to her level and let her know that what she did was wrong and make her understand by asking her. Trust me she will come around I have have four boy's it will stop. I don't believe in terrible two's there terrible if we allow it to be. Good luck!

I have my 4th child going thru that right now, we ignore him alot and having gone thru this before know it will pass. The thing that quiets him the most is when we ignore him and turn the tv up loud so we can hear and it drowns him out so he just quiets down because no one is listening.

Hope this helps and remember it will pass.

I can't say enough about Hand in Hand Parenting, an organization in the Bay Area that we discovered when our daughter was born and a friend gave us their booklet series on childrens' emotions. Their philosophy seems right on to me, and I have found them hugely helpful. Check out their website at handinhandparenting.com.

Have you tried ignoring or time outs??

My 2 year old-- now 2.5 years...used to be similar to that. At the uncontrolable level-- instead of losing my temper-- I'd put him in time out. Sometimes using his old playyard as a 'safe' timeout area for him and they closing his bedroom door to elimninate the screaming. We'd check on him and ask him to "be quiet", "are you all done?", and "no more crying, okay?" If he wasn't done, we;d put him back in the playyard and repeat. I worked for us. Don't let her see what pushes your buttons, let her know that it's unacceptable behavior and threaten with a time out. Pretty soon, all you'll have to do is point to the play yard and say "do you want t time out?" and she start behaving. It worked for us-- I hope it works for you!