She Went Too Far This Time What Do You Think?

awe, that really was distasteful on her part. Especially if she was friends with you for so long. Its those kind of people that know exactly where to hit ya. Now she is going to be family. Distance yourself. Always be the better person in this and maybe she will leave you alone. You not wrong in your feelings and I have to do everything I can not to physically pop people in the face when they do that. My daughter has Craniosynostosis, which she has no developmental delays or problems, but her face is asymmetrical. She has a dented forehead and strabismus (Lazy) of her right eye. All is in the end process of being fixed and it will be but not for several years and several medical surgeries and procedures. I get stares at her constantly. I get the down eyed looks, the "was she in an accident" questions, and the "oh shes cute too" comments.... like they HAVE to say it. Makes me irritated on a daily basis.

I don't know anything about your past relationship or what happened to change it, but I would just like to say that I am not one for letting kids be out of their seats or playing and coloring in restaurants. I know some restaurants provide crayons, etc, but I think maybe she didn't want any goofing off. "Be careful" could have meant anything.
I think perhaps you are reading things into this.

Please don't let the fact that your son has a learning disability make you second guess yourself and/or anyone else's decisions. You don't have to assume that everything is based on that.
Don't do that to yourself and don't do that to your son.
If your relationship is strained with your sister in law, it likey has absolutely nothing to do with your son, so don't place it there.
You may be a bit overly sensitive because of your love and concern for your son and that's understandable to a point. I just wouldn't be so quick to think that anyone who seems short with you is doing it based on his learning disability.
If he's going to feel confident and strong in the world around him, it will have to start with you. He's not damaged. He's not diseased. He is a wonderful child who can overcome many things.

Believe that.

Best wishes.

What does your husband say? It is his job, in this instance and for the sake of not creating a bigger family crisis, to call his sister on her behavior. If he does not do it, then if I were you I would write her a letter and let her know what I thought about her behavior and why it was hurtful both to me and my son. If she wants to not like you, that is her right. She just doesn't have the right to hurt your child. Period.

I would be on my husband until he was on her, but then again, I wouldn't have to be. My husband would let his sister have it.

I don't know if she reacted this way bc your son has a delay or not. BUT regardless, she is something else. You did NOT over react! It was wrong of her to act like that, period. I'm sorry you are dealing with this.

I do not think your sons speech delay had anything to do with the way she
reacted. Please do not blame everything on your sons delay. I think she was just being the way she normally is; not a nice person. I hope that you
want your son treated like any other 5 year old, not as a "disabled" child.
It will not do him any good. If you do, he will start using it to get what he wants.

A.,

Your S-I-L sounds like a very negative person. I think she was keeping her niece away from your son to get at you, not because of your son's speech delay.
There is nothing wrong with your son. I also have a boy in kindergarten with a speech delay. He's also very shy. He's been in speech therapy for three years. He's come a long way, but still has some work to do. People mistake him for being rude because he doesn't talk unless he really knows people. We had an open house at school today where he got to meet his potential teachers for first grade and he would hardly answer their questions, just gave a few one word answers. I told them he's shy, but I feel like I'm saying that all the time.
Is your son in speech therapy? If not, your school district should provide it. If he is, he'll just continue to get better.
I hope you can keep your interactions with your SIL to a minimum. If it were me, she would not be welcome in my house.
Best wishes!

my son has the same issue and he is 3. he also has a skin condition. he will be starting headstart soon. i dont think you over reacted. i hate when people see him and first think something is wrong with his skin. after i explain that to them they start to ask why he doesnt talk. you can clearly see that he understand most of what people say and follows instructions great. it upsets me to no end. unless they have gone through it themselves they dont understand and so assume its all the parent or the childs fault. i dont think you over reacted. one of the things i would do though is call her up and tell her your feelings on the subject. if she doesnt care and refuses to let him hang out with her niece id bring someone else over for your child to play with. i feel sorry for the niece but there isnt much you could do about it. just make sure your son is happy and has friends that accept him.

A., you need to have it out with her once and for all. There will be crying and screaming but just do it. Invite her over when you two can be alone. Ask her what is the matter and how you can help. That you are at a loss for the way she is acting and treating you. Ask if you have done anything wrong.

Tell you you are hurt, because you are. And tell her that things either need to change or stop. Tell her she was your best friend and that you need her back.

Open it up, rip it open and see what you get.

Then you can feel like you've done all you can do.

There's not enough information in your post that's actually relevant to your question. I'm not even sure what your question is. You're assuming that your SIL was telling her niece to "be careful" in a mean way, but seriously they were in a restaurant where small children shouldn't be wandering table to table and it's easy to knock things over. There's also a chance that she was advising the girl to be careful for the sake of your son.

You don't say at all why you're not friends any more but it's very rarely one sided. Do you really mean to insinuate that when this woman is "mean" to you or your believe she's being "mean" to your son that you sit back meekly and say nothing? That's she's nasty to you and your husband and her husband say nothing? That you're completely innocent and are a doormat when she's around? That you don't actually communicate with her at all?