Seeking Mothers Who Had a Baby in Their 40S

I say go for it, if it's what you really want. ...and Go for it now! I know women who have had babies in their 40's, but it is true that fertility starts to decline so don't wait!
Good Luck!!! There's a website by a woman named Sandy Robertson (google her) - it's about getting pregnant over 40.

I had my first at 38 and my second at 42. The experiences were fantastic and I have had plenty of energy to "keep up" with my babies. There were all the statistics and stories about birthing after 40 - but I come from a family of late deliveries and all babies beat the odds. Something to keep in mind as we get older - we're more likely to follow the rules; not miss an ob appt; and listen to anything reasonable the doctor says. But more important we've learned to listen to ourselves. You have great older helpers for all new babies that come along. Blessings to you as you consider this new addition.

I am going to tell you from my perspective as an adult child of parents in their 40's. I don't recommend it. When I was born my brother was 11 other brother was 14 and sister was 17. I think I was more of a bother to my siblings than a welcome additon. No one has ever said that, that's just what I think. My mom always let me know I was loved and was a surprise not a mistake or anything. My mom was 41 my father my father was 45, he died of cancer when I was 13 yrs old. He was 58. My mom is still alive and 90yrs old with alzheimers. She was a good mom but seemed worn out by my previous sibblings by the time I came along. The next in line is my brother who is 10 yrs older than me (58) one brother is 60 and my sister is 63 yrs. old. My sister always seemed more like my second mother which is not really a great thing. I really never felt like I quite fit in when we were all together. They all come from one generation and I a totaly different one. I am now 48 years old. Things were very different when they were all brought up from my bringing up. We don't have a lot in common. I know one day I will probably be all alone because they will most likely die ahead of me. I could really go farther but it would get too involved. I'm sure you will here from other people that have good experiences too. I just know I would not do it. Your almost done. Do you want to star over now?
Lonie

I was 41 and 43 when I had my children. Both pregnancies were easy (the first was via IVF, the 2nd natural), I delivered both drug-free, and both were healthy!

Good for you!! I was 42 when I had my first and I was nearly 44 when I had my second. They are now 15 and 14 and wonderful kids. We homeschool as well. My kids have had some cracks over the years about me being older but they think it is stupid. I am more patient and in no need of making sure I 'have my own life'. I loved being pregnant and never had amnio as I would not have aborted for any reason (I had already lost two)...I was taken off of high risk on the first one as I was so healthy and the only reason was age...I think the main thing is that you and your hubby want another one and that should be a great reason to do so! Best of luck with the new baby!

I think you should talk with your hubby and doctor and if you are physically able to do it and you both want this than go for it...I was married 16 years before we had our first and then a year and 1/2 we got our second. I have a 5 year old and 3 year old and I'm 43..wouldn't trade it for anything. My 5 year old has cerebral palsy from being a 27 week premie but from no infections or anything..pregnancy was perfect until he decided to come early ( I was a premie, my father was a premie they all may relate in some way) my second was a couple weeks early but all was well. Still with everything.. they are true blessings and I would have another today if it wasn't for the uncertain financial burdens that come with a special needs child..but all in all the decision should come from you and hubby, good luck

i had my little one when i was 38,,, she was an easy, healthy pregnancy... I begged my husband for another one at 40....he was dead set against it... I am now going to be 43, and i can't even imagine being preggo again and starting over...I wouldn't want to put my or the babies health in danger....
His family has a history of downs syndrome so that played an important part in the pregnancy even at 38 yrs of age...
I can't answer for you mama, but i can tell you even though i yearn to be pregnant when i see bulging tummies, i know it was the right decision to stop for us...
best wishes to you and your family.

I have 2 daughters, 20 and 15 and 2 sons almost 5 and 4 1/2 months. I gave birth to my last son at 40 and turned 41 2 months later. I am much better relaxed as a mom this go around. I was concerned about having a child in my 40's but so far so good. I think the relationship you have with your doctor is key!

Good luck!

I have a 17 month old and was (well) over 40 when I had him. I don't have older kids of my own to compare to (my step son is 20 and my step daughter lives with her mother). I had a super easy pregnancy (from what I hear) and my son has been healthy. I can't compare energy levels with having kids younger - but - so far - there has been nothing I haven't been able to do with him. I feel much more aware of what a tremendous blessing he is than (I think) I would have been 15 years ago. I have more patience and perspective that I would have had earlier and it is nice to not have to be as worried about finances. Having such a young son does give me some additional pressure to take care of myself so that I am around for as much of his life as possible- that's not a bad thing. I wouldn't trade it for the world.

Hi V.:

I am 41 and just had a baby boy almost 3 months ago. Things went as normal as when I had my first at 33. Also, I had a little girl when I was 39 or 40. Go for it. :)

I had my little surprise when I was 42. I am here to tell you the energy level you had at 20 is not there at 40. I tend to appreciate my kids more at my older age but I am tired all of the time. My husband helps me but I sometime have to drink an energy drink just to have enough energy to cook, clean and have time for my husband. Also I have two other children and with with youngest I don't have anytime to workout. Luck to you!