Ok forgive me this may be a long one. I have two children, one is in Kindergarden and one is 3 and in In-Home childcare. They both had gone to the same Childcare provider since birth until just this past October. We had absolutley no problems with the OLD provider until this year. She was wonderfull with our older child but for some reason she just didn't get along with our younger child. We found out in October that her way of disaplining the younger child was by not feeding him, at all. Our younger child is NOT a problem, he was 2 at the time and you know how two year old boys can be sometimes. He by no means did anything to deserve not being fed. Of course when we found this out we took them both out of there and have since found a wonderful place for them both to go. The problem is my older child, misses the original provider. So bad that she cries often and asks to go see her a lot. Our older child LOVED the original provider like a second mom and the original provider had always said that our older child was her favorite and treated her like so. Obviously, we didn't leave the original provider on good terms. What should I do? I don't know what to say to my older child. All I told her is that the original provider doesn't watch kids anymore. What do you suggest?
Oh, my!! What kind of a person would do that?? I hope that you turned her in!!
I also think that you should tell your daughter the truth. She needs to know and understand that this lady was not a nice lady. This will also help her to be more aware of her surroundings and be able to tell you if anything else did happen or if it were to happen in the future!
Good luck, what a horrible thing
You need to tell your daughter the truth! Please do not send her back there!!! If she would not feed your two year old, who knows what she will do to your daughter if she decides that she doesn't "like" her anymore.
I am actually in shock that someone would do that to a two year old! I know my 2 year old son is at his worst when he is hungry. What was she thinking?!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I hope you notified the proper authorities about her! She shouldn't be allowed to watch children.
This can be hard. You child missing someone that you can't not let her see. You may want to have her draw pictures or write a letter. You don't have to give it to the person but the act of your daughter telling her good-bys and expressing her feeling on paper may help. When she gets sad just have draw a picture about what she is feeling. That may help her feel better and be heard. She won't know if you send it or not. You can also let her know that she was loved by the original provider. And you did the right thing by saying "she doesn't watch kids anymore." but maybe explain that it was a job. And and that she can't go and see her. Don't lie but you don't need to go in to detail about what happend. That is your choice. Lossing a loved one is very hard for kids and with time she will get use to not seeing her. She will probably always remember her and the things she did to make your daughter feel special. But I could not even begin to know how it must of felt to find out about your son. You did the right thing and time will heal your daughters heart.
Best wishes.
It may take some time but the oldest one will eventually stop missing her provider. I remember my favorite babysitter and I'm well, forty. yah, yah. I'm the old woman. LOL. Your daughter will be starting school and she'll have a favorite teacher before long. Since the parting wasn't on good terms, I wouldn't go back. Don't tell your daughter why, she doesn't need an explaination as to why. Just carefully tell her that she isn't really someone you hang out with, that she was a sitter and not really a friend. Don't lie to her. I remember being lied to and when you get older, it can cause hard feelings. Just don't mention that place, either to your friends or spouse and she'll forget to ask to go there. Good luck.
