I had my last child in April and we decided to start introducing potty training to my then 26 month old daughter. In July we went to grandma and grandpa's to visit down south. All the sudden the day that we left she decided to start going potty. Even with our long 6 hour drive home she would tell us she had to go potty and she would and had a dry diaper. Well that lasted for about 4 days. She was doing so well and then just lost total interest. We put her in pull-ups, which I think my have been a mistake. I have been trying again now. We have offered her special treats if she goes potty, anything to get her to go again and tell us. Nothing has worked. Every once in awhile if we go out she will tell us she has to go potty. I thought now that we are in doors now more I would start again with potty training. Also, she will tell me if she has poop in her diaper or pee. Any help would be appreciated.
Well after a day and half of only going potty 3 times on the toilet, I am giving up until next week(I wrote down we tried 20 times to put her on the potty in a day and a half). She was purposely going potty on the floor. I think she was sick of me taking her to the potty every half hour to 45 minutes. Last night was the last straw when she called to me and said,"Mommy I go pee pee like Harley (one of our dogs)", on the wall and floor basically in our dinning room. I would make her sit on the potty for 20 minutes and most of the time 5 minutes after she would pee on the carpet with her legs spread and say "Mommy I go pee pee" and think she was doing a good thing/funny. Last night my husband goes I can't take it anymore we need to stop till next week and try again she is doing this on purpose. Maybe I was doing it too much or letting her drink to much, I don't know. I will try it again next week for sure. I really would like her potty trained by the time she is 3.
Oh and I even tried putting the potty in the living room and the kitchen. She would just sit there and not do a darn thing. She peed 2 times on the regular potty and 1 time on the little one.
Hello L.. First let me say Love them to Life not death. Then as you are in more if you can find training pants use them and keep and eye on her. My granddaughter is the same way. Some days she is into going to the potty and some days she could care less. Since you are at home with her all day you can see how long after she drinks before she has to potty and you will be able to get her back on track. It takes time so be patient.
Sounds like she's ready. I would take her to the store and pick out some new underwear. Get a couple of the plastic covers for night-time and naps and put the plastic cover on her mattress. Than talk it up. Try not to pressure. Go straight to the underwear first thing in the morning the day you start. Throw the pull-ups and diapers away. If she has an accident have her get to the potty right away and finish. Don't get angry, but let her know you are a bit dissapointed. remind her to keep her underwear dry. Lots of fluids, so she has more opportunity to go. Praise when she does. We didn't use a treat every time she went, than all she cared about was the treat. We just talked about how proud of her we were. Don;t expect to go anywhere for at least the first three days. Just keep the heat up and leave her in undies and a shirt. Take her every 30 minutes to try. Cut off fluids a couple hourse before bed times. If she starts getting upset and resisting, than put her back in diapers, not pull-ups. Tell her when she is ready and wants to wear big-girl underwear again she can tell you, but if she wants to potty in her pants, than that is what diapers are for. IMO, pull-ups are a huge waste of money, that just draw out the process. There is no incentive for the child to use the toilet if they can just pee/poop in the pull-up and then mom changes it like a diaper. She won't be in diapers forever, but if she is truly ready it should take a good week in underwear and the training will be done. Or you can struggle with pull-ups for the next 6 months. Your choice.
Make the decision to do it, get rid of the pull-ups and just put her in undies. I'd then make sure you get her to the toilet on a consistent schedule of some sort. Don't rely on her to tell you she needs to go, instead, just tell her she has to go when she wakes up, before washing hands before eating, before leaving house, etc.
Get rid of the pull-ups. Kids don't distinguish the difference between them and diapers. Training underwear are available. Made of cotton, but padded in the crotch area, so that it will absorb most of the urine if she does have an accident. You won't have puddles on your floor, but she will still get that wet clothes feeling, which kids do not enjoy. I would use the "big girl" undies as incentive. Perhaps if she can go three days without wetting herself, she can then switch to the big girl ones, with no padding and characters on them!!
Leaving pants off so she can get her undies up and down herself may be very beneficial for the first week or two. And don't always ask if she wants to go, just have her go at the times you know she needs too. Praise every time she does like she just peed gold, and she'll keep wanting to make mommy happy!
Good luck!
I totally agree with the others that pull ups are a waste of time and money!!! I think they're one of the worst things put on the market for toddlers. They definitely DO draw out the potty training process. I think they're terrible at night time too though there are some that disagree with me on that. I think that the diaper industry just came up with the idea of pull ups to make more money by drawing out the potty training process...think about it, if you quit using diapers and go to underwear while potty training you're not buying diapers and they're losing money. If you use pull ups which draw out the process, they're still making money off you when in the past they wouldn't have been. The issue is, when kids are old enough to understand being wet/dirty and uncomfortable because of it pull ups take that sensation away and give them no incentive to go in the toilet. Even the ones that are supposed to give the child a cool sensation when they're wet don't change this fact. I have three kids and we tried pull ups for a short time as a "transition" tool with both older ones (my 3rd is only 11 months so still in diapers) and we found that all it does is give them an excuse NOT to use the toilet. They don't motivate them to do it no matter what the cutsie commercials try to convince you to believe. Once we got rid of the pull ups with both of our kids (not long after trying them...we tried it with both kids because every kid is different and maybe we'd have more success with them with the second) it wasn't too long before they started using the potty. Of course there were accidents and it always seems to be a bit harder to get them to poop in the toilet than pee (had more trouble with this with my son than my daughter) but having them in underwear is a must. I agree to let your child go to the store with you and pick out their own. This gives the child a feeling of "ownership" and thus causes them in most cases to want to be more careful with them and also gets them excited about wearing underwear and using the toilet. We also used a sticker chart with our son. Instead of getting a reward each time he used the potty, he collected stickers and after so many days without an accident, then we gave him a small reward. It didn't take long with this system to totally train him.
(I have to laugh that there's an ad on here right now for Easy Ups pull up pants. Personally I think if they're old enough to pull up their own pull ups then they're old enough to pull up underwear and thus old enough to be using the toilet!)
My son was also born on 2/20/2007 , he is off and on with potty training. The pull ups don't work for him.
I am going to do this cold Turkey at home because he goes in his diaper as I am right there asking him and he lies that he doesn't have to go. I am going to set a potty in the living room so it's a reminder that he has to go, maybe have him pull a Bell when he's done so everyone knows. You just gave me an idea. Let's see if that works!
My son is 3 so I am still some what going through this (at least at night). When we started potty training he would go great for a couple days and then for a couple days lose interest and we'd be back to square one. So I don't think its uncommon. What we did was only use pull ups at night and underwear all day and after a few accidents he got the hang of it. We started a sticker collage (gave him a new sticker every time he went). Now we are starting to wear underwear at night and working on that. Just whatever happens praise them for the good and comfort them through the accidents.
I agree with Anne it does sound like she is ready. Have you tried letting her pick out her own panties. I found that with my daughter that if she had on her special (paties that she picked out) panties that she never wet them.
Your thoughts on pull-ups were dead-on....just glorified diapers and a will sabatoge the best potty training efforts. Let her pick out some big girl panties and then make her wear them all the time except to nap and go to sleep. Then when she starts waking up dry put her in panties all the time. I wouldn't waste my money on pull-ups....just a ingenious marketing tactic that has ripped off millions of moms for years now.
Diapers and panties.....(buy lots of carpet cleaner for mistakes).
I used chocolate chips for rewards. one chip for pee pee and two or three for poopies.
