Potty Training at Night - New York,NY

My daughter potty trained at just about 2. She is now 4.5 and has NEVER been dry at night. She still sleeps in a pull up at night. The Dr said they are not the same. At night you need to physiologically develop a sense to wake up when you have to go. This development doesn't happen for some until age 5 or 6. There are some that go longer and they don't intervene (timers etc) until that age She said not to worry and rush it as we can't. It will come. My only advice is it's normal and stock up on pull ups!

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My daughter potty trained at just about 2. She is now 4.5 and has NEVER been dry at night. She still sleeps in a pull up at night. The Dr said they are not the same. At night you need to physiologically develop a sense to wake up when you have to go. This development doesn't happen for some until age 5 or 6. There are some that go longer and they don't intervene (timers etc) until that age She said not to worry and rush it as we can't. It will come. My only advice is it's normal and stock up on pull ups!

I've never in my life seen a child who "was trained" at night. The body itself does that as it matures. It just takes longer for some children (in rare cases, kids reach puberty) before the bladder 'learns' to hold it or the signals of a full bladder are able to get through to the sleeping mind. I've also heard that there is a hormone released at night that slows down the production of urine – haven't researched this myself yet.

At any rate, the child will stay dry at night when he/she is able. It's not a matter of will power, any more than an adult could 'decide' when to wake up at night. We do when the signals are strong enough. We hope. There are many thousands of bed-wetting children in their grade school years who wish it was simply a matter of will or training.

ADDED: One very informed mom on this site suggested giving extra water before bed. In some cases, this can strengthen the signal that the bladder is full during the lighter sleep cycles, and the child may wake enough spontaneously to use the potty. If you experiment with this, be sure to report whether it helps.

My dtrs night trained easily, but my son is about to be 7 and still is not. In the past 2 years he's only had 10 dry nights (we have a chart). We've tried without pull ups but ut didn't work. Our pedi said his bladder is just not large enough and for some kids it's not large enough until age 12. My husband brothers were bed wetters, some nieces and nephews had the same issue. The maturity or lack of in the bladder can run in families. So don't worry, and don't push. It'll happen when it's time. Believe me, my son would love to not wear pull ups, but his body is just not ready.

He will night train when his body is ready. There is little you can or should do to hurry it up.

Our son was day and night trained at two and a half. We did nothing to promote this... he just did it on his own. Our daughter is a super heavy sleeper and, at age 7, has only recently started to wake up at night if she has to go pee. Most often she pees before bed and can hold her pee until the morning, and it was at the point that she started doing this consistently that we got rid of pull-ups. I think she was about 6 or a little older.

I wouldn't worry about it. I would definitely not wake him at night to go pee. Let the baby sleep.

Night Time dryness, is not something that is BIOLOGICALLY attained, until even 7 years old and is normal.

It is completely different, from day time pottying.

It is a biological and physiological, maturity of the body's organs.

My son is 3.5 and stays dry at night. We eat dinner between 5 and 6p and he is not allowed any other liquid before bed unless it is just a sip. He goes to bed between 8 and 8:30. But, I was a bedwetter until grade school. I would go with your Dr. and say not to worry.

My son is 5 and still in the bigger kid version of pull ups (Goodnights) at night. It just takes some kids longer to mature in that respect. I knew one girl who struggled with bedwetting until she was about 12. As a camp counselor we almost always had at least 1 bedwetter and sometimes 3 or 4 in most groups of 30 elementary school age girls (and it is much more common in boys). Waking kids up at night is more for older kids--it works for some but not all kids. I wouldn't even do that or worry about it until you son is 5 or 6.

I wouldn't worry. There's still plenty of time. I've had plenty of kids that wet overnight for quite awhile. Your day care provider provides daytime care - you are in charge of night! If your dr isn't worried then I wouldn't be concerned yet!

We are having the same issue with our almost 4 year old who has been potty trained during the day for almost 2 years. The Dr. said because she is little and a very deep sleeper it may just take a while for her to be physically ready to stay dry at night. We tried underwear for a few weeks because she wanted to but she wet the bed almost every night so she wanted to go back pull ups which we did until she's ready to try again. We track her dry mornings with a sticker on the calendar and make a really big deal about the dry morning and less of a deal about the wet ones. This way we can also see her progress month to month. Good to hear from others that their kids have the same issue.

This may not help, but what we did was just take the pull ups away. We just stopped putting them on our son. you could put a plastic sheet on his bed and give that a try. Or just wait till he's 4. Som kids will stop on their own time and not our time.

My son is the same age and fully trained during the day but wears Goodnights during the night. Once in a while he wakes up, wants to use the potty and is almost dry in the morning but most of the time not. I was a bed wetter till a very late age. I can't remember the exact age. I fully expect him to take a while to stay dry at night. This is something that can't be helped. As someone suggested you can try without the diaper and see what happens. You can put a sheet saver underneath. I haven't tried this yet though.

I never understood why parents put their children in pull-ups or diapers for naps and nighttime. When we trained my son last year, we took the diapers away cold turkey. No pull-ups or anything, not even for bed. He's never had an accident or wet the bed. Maybe just try a couple nights of no diaper and see how he does? My personal feeling is that, if they have a diaper on, they will pee!
I don't know, just my 2 cents.