Need Advice - Saint Paul,MN

I don't think it's your place. They as a family need to figure this out. I would have her call Dr. Laura she has a website drlaura.com I think. If he's gay he's gay and it's too bad the children have to go through this. It would be nice if he could not be gay until the child is 18 but I don't think he'd do that. I know you want to be a good friend but there's nothing you can do for her in my opinion. Sorry.

Here's what I did wrong when separating. It was a different situation, my husband of 13 years had been having an affair and fathered a child with his fling. FIRST get a lawyer. I thought I couldn't afford a lawyer, however the husband had no qualms about charging his attorney fees on the joint credit card, which we had to split the debt in the divorce. I guess closing the joint accounts would have been a good idea. SECOND DO NOT MOVE OUT OF THE FAMILY HOME!!!. I thought I couldn't afford the house payment, and he wouldn't leave. But after moving I found I could have immediately had child support start, and could have saved so much more of our jointly held assets by not leaving, but by forcing him to leave. As it is, I got financially shafted by doing what made me comfortable with my life rather than doing what an attorney would have advised me to do. THIRD get yourself tested for sexually transmitted diseases. I came up clean, thank the lord. I know a good attorney if you need one.

M.,
Don't say anything. So often we try to fix things and make them alright. Your friend needs a none judgemental ear to listen to her right now.
Peace,
K.

if your friend has a computer have her log on to http://troubledwith.com/. This website has some good things on it. It is non-denominational. Let me know if it helps. I found it very helpful

Try Hosanna Church in Lakeville. They have support for people with similar situations. Great church