My Son Has 7 Years Old and Does Poop on His Pants

Updated on February 16, 2011
M.C. asks from Los Angeles, CA
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My son has 7 years old and does poop on his pants. He has been like this for one year and half. I took him to his clinic but his doctor said that he didn't have nothing. From School they have called me that to go change him or even sometimes to bring him home to take him a shower. I ask for help in his school and they told me that to put him in a diet. The diet was that to even him only a spoon of food and a piece of bread. I have put him diaper but he still does it. I don't know what to do no more I even have to clean my room two times or four times a day. I really need advice please help me.

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S.H.

answers from Honolulu on

See a Specialist.

Also, there is something called "Encopresis" which is an involuntary leaking of poop.
Look it up online.

But really, I would see a Pediatric Gastroenterologist.

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M.R.

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See another doctor. if you have to go back to the same doctor, sit in his/her office untill the refer you to a specialist, probably a gastrointerolgist, and get the speicalists opinion that nothing is wrong. If you do, seek out a Developmental Pediatrician. A child who had a skill, and lost a skill, if in fact, he was ever capable of using the bathroom, is in need of an evaluation. Skill loss is a very serious issue. For this one particular thing though, there are many phsical causes, rule them all out first.

M.

@Julie, Purhaps sitting on the toilet is not a skill that you have thought much about in many many years, but I wonder why we call it "potty training" if there is no skill to learn, and frankly, there is no need to "dicipline" if there is not a skill invloved. You are just suggesting that this Mom never bothered to make her son use the toilet, and that it is her fault.

Toileting is a skill that is being taught in classrooms all over the country to children who have developmental delays and low incidence disablities that effect their ablities to use their bodies and who have cognative deficits. Ask their parents, teachers and aides if this is a skill, and then ask them how concerned they would be if a child learned it, and then could not manage to do it any more.

Either this poor child has a Medical problem, a Developmental problem or an Emotional problem and Mom just wanted some help. Gather some compasion and put yourself in the shoes of someone who needs help with a problem you must not have never had any experience with, unless you want to say that your children did not need to learn to use the toilet and that you were not sucessful at using dicipline to teach them how...you must have found a way to be a sucess, but other Moms need help. MR

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M.J.

answers from Sacramento on

There was a similar post about a 10 year old on this same thing yesterday. See if you can track it down.

Your son probably has encopresis. Do a Google search for more information and if this sounds like your son's situation, tell the doctor this is what you suspect he has. Pediatricians can come up with a game plan for solving it. It's not an easy one to overcome, but you can with persistence and medical guidance.

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C.S.

answers from Las Vegas on

Are there any family changes that are affecting him emotionally? I am not sure about a discipline diet? It sounds like punishment and he may have a medical or emotional problem.

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M.M.

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@ Julie L. He's seven years old, do you think he WANTS to be shamed by his peers, teachers and parents?? Do you think that that will really solve this problem? It will just make him feel bad, further erode his self-esteem and make the problem worse. I try not to offend people on this board but you need to take a parenting class!!!!!!!
Ok, now that I got that off of my chest I can answer the question calmly. M., I think this may be an emotional issue (which is all the more reason not to "discipline" him). You have taken him to his regular doctor and they have found no problem, you can try a specialist but once you have gone to every medical doctor, you probably want to find a pediatric therapist to help him sort through his emotions. Remember, the only behaviors parents can't control in their children are eating, sleeping and peeing/pooping, so when they are having emotional issues that's where they may come up. I hope this helps and that your son gets this solved soon. My heart goes out to him.

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A.S.

answers from Chicago on

I agree....see a specialist! Especially, since it seems like he fine before. The diet, in my opinion, is not a good idea!

I hope he gets better!
Good luck!

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B.B.

answers from Los Angeles on

There was a Dr. Phil show on this, you may be able to find it on his site. My daughter did it for a couple of years while and finally got it under control.After endless doctor visits we realized she was constipated and holding it until it could hold no more, she had trained her self to ignore the signals her body was sending. We started with prune juice,stool softener (not laxatives), wheetabix cereal (fiber), yogurts, non iron vitamins and Vitamin E and cod liver capsules . Then I had to start to watch her close and send her to sit on toilet when I would notice her body move in a particular way. Some times for up to 20 mins she would sit ( i gave her a foot stool so she could get better leverage), we would take turns rubbing her back while she sat, warm wash cloths on lower back...nothing, until slowly she started to have to let it out when she was on toilet and the for there it just took time and no tolerance policy. We would not go to events so she could sit on toilet, I had to tell her it was unacceptable and a health risk and she had to do her part to help her self get past this obstacle so she could have a normal life with fun and games. Took about 6 months... I still have to ask her every day if she has used the rest room and if not I keep my eyes open for signs she is holding it in... Good luck.. you can do it...

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A.H.

answers from San Diego on

If it's just a little he could be lactose intolerant. This happen to my daughter. She was costantly having little accidents. I bought Lactaid milk for myself and then it occured to me she may have the same problem as me (i wasnt messin my self) I had her try it and hasn't had problems since and if she wants any other dairy she takes a lactaid pill. Good luck

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M.R.

answers from Cleveland on

Well first off, is it a lil' poop or like a sh*t load in his pants??? Not tryin to be insensitive.. but what are we dealing with here? If it's a lil' like a leak prob I would take him to a specialist to find out why. If he just flat out poopin like playdoh consistency.. then I would make him clean it!! I know it's rough but honestly this prob started only a year and a half ago, correct? So did you not potty train him till he was 6?? I would think he'd have learned to use the potty sometime. I made my 6 year old clean his undies.. After i told him you need to wipe better.. blah blah blah.. and then he was doing it more often, sometimes out of pure laziness b/c he didnt want to stop what he was doing.. well neither did I.. He bout died when i told him it was his mess to clean up.. Needless to say it hasn't happened since.. Good Luck :)

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J.L.

answers from San Diego on

Hi M., if the doctor said there is nothing wrong with him, try discipline. It's not the schools job to potty train your son, I don't see where there is much they can do. He may do it cause he can and there are no consequences for it. Does he only do this at school? or at home as well. Moms are telling you to see a specialist, you can, anyone can go sit on the toilet when they feel the urge to poop, loss of skills in this area really makes no sense to me, sitting on the toilet does not take skill. J.

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R.P.

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My friend's son had potty problems too. They found that he does much better without milk and milk products... Def. re-talk to the doctor and get him tested for food allergies and even go to a specialist...
Good luck
R.

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