Health and Medical Advice I Can't Find in a Book

C., Mom's group means we ask about anything that impacts us, the moms. And having your husband injured and in a funk definately impacts you and your whole family.

I've had lots of experience with accidents, illness and hospitals. These incidents give us an opportunity to address other issues such as depression and weight gain while dealing with the accident. He is already seeing the doctor because of the accident and you can get theother issues worked into the treatment.

While he's in the hospital, might be a good time to get him started on an anti-depressant. Talk with his nurse and his doctor. There are several ways of getting help. The nurse can be the one to let the dr know your husband is depressed and/or you can. If someone else presents the idea of an anti-depressant to him he may be more willing to try it. And they have experience working with a patient who is negative about taking medication.

The hospital social worker could be a good resource for you. Talk with her about your concerns and she can make referrals and give you ideas based on her knowledge of you and your husband in the hospital setting.

His doctor will also have recommendations about weight loss and other health issues. Hopefully you have a family doctor who will be following up with your husband after he leaves the hospital. What is important is letting the doctor(s)know your concerns and your desire to help in any way that you can.

If he's left the hospital you still have his doctor as a resource. Go with him to an appointment or make an appointment to go by yourself.

And I think one of the most important things for you to do is to start counseling for yourself if you haven't already. We can only effectively take care of someone else in such a stressful place if we first take care of ourself. A counselor will help you deal with the stress this causes you as well as give you ideas and support for helping your husband.

I'm glad you asked the question and wish you success as you find a way to make life better for all of you. If you have more questions about what I've said please write again. M.

Hi C.,
First you are doing the right thing by reaching out for help. Please get yourself in therapy! Keep talking to your husband about getting into therapy before it's to late. Have his doctor talk to him, have his best friend or family member talk to him, have somebody he trusts talk to him. He will fight it but it has to be done! Do not ignore it! Don't stop until he listens!!
Men think that depression is a weakness and that giving into it or getting help for it is admit that you have it and that they're weak. That is why men have a higher suicide rate than women. I know this all to well because I personaly lost an uncle and a friend to suicide because of depression. And last year my family was stunned to hear that a family friend had taken his life because he was battling deperession. It's scary and it has to be taken seriously.
I suffer from depression myself and I am in therapy and on medication.
I feel for you during these hard times just know that there are others who know how it feels. Please feel free to contact me if you need any help or advise. Even if you just want to chat or vent I know sometimes it just make you feel better to let you out, I am here.

Steph

If you're the cook start cooking,red, purple and green things. They make u happy and when your happy u start to make better decisions. I had a friend in massage therapy school who was addicted to her antidepressants. She had tried to slow quit taking them a number of times and became more depressed because she was dependant on them. She started eating as much of these colors as she could and in a month was able to live without them. She got told the whole class about her situation to hopfully help other people. I called my bestfriend who was on the meds for like 10 yrs. she was off them in about 2 mnths. It took her a while to be deciplined. As soon as she was she had relief. Weird, I know. But u gotta try it. If he's the cook tell him u want to eat these things if you're the cook simple. Also once he's used to that change his diet more. I went on this diet to help my exzema and my boyfriend ate what I ate. We both lost about 2 lbs. a week until we were at an ideal weight. The diet is no processed foods. I know that sounds hard but not with the right flavors. The catch is u have to stick to the diet 100% then he'll have nothing to do but comply. that is if u eat together. I read that eating healthy is more important then exersice. For example a big man has alot of muscles to just carry himself around. Eating a cucumber a day will keep that muscle even if he looses weight. If u want some great recipies e me. Oh, by the way my excema cleared up. A problem I've had my whole life. I'd gone to Dr. after Dr. trying to cure it. It only got worse, until I changed my diet.

Hi C.,
I am sorry to hear that you are going through this tough time. Do you think your husband would be interested in an inch loss plan? My husband and I both did it and thought it was super easy and tasted great. I lost 8.5 inches from my waist and hips in 6 weeks. Here is the website if he wants to check it out: www.cinchplan.com/build I am guessing it might work better if you can make it his idea somehow. Any ideas how to do that? Also is he under a lot of stress? Hang in there! K. ###-###-#### cell

Hello C.,
Very good advice listed to start some counceling for yourself. Being around depressed people can bring you and the kids down as well. It is important to have the outside support to help you understand what he is going through and keep you from going through it yourself. I have 2 sisters who are ill with depression and it can cause tension amoungst the other family members if we let it (we don't even live together). Keep your chin up and don't give up.

By going on an anti depressant that may aid in the weigh loss, when you are balanced your body will also go back to a normal size. In regards to his health, I can understand wanting him to be safe and healthier. I think it is imperative that he be on an antidepressant, and I am speaking from experience, I have been on an antidepressant and it has been the best thing for me and my kids. I am a terrible depressed and easily irritated person when I am not balanced, so when I am, the children are much happier, my husband is much happier, we live a much happier life! If you have any other questions do not hesitate to ask, I am more than happy to help out in other ways too, I use to be a claims adjuster as well, dealt with Bodily Injury claims! He will want to slowly get back into exercise as soft tissue is a lot longer to heal than that of broken bones!

Hi C., I am a distributor for a health drink called MonaVie. Its all natural. Its made up of 19 different health promoting fruits. The main fruit is called Acai Berry, which comes from the Amazon rain forest. Studies are showing that the Acai Berry makes our body do what it is naturally supposed to do. Its helping people with depression, back/joint pain, speeds up your metabolism, gives you energy, helps you sleep, high cholesterol, blood pressure, diabetes, you name I have heard from people it helps. there is so much. I am sure he will be willing to take 1-2oz morning and night. Thats a serving and that equals out to 5-7 servings of fruit and vegis. I became a distributor after taking MonaVie and it helping me and I wanted to help as many people I could. If you want more information let me know. I would love to help, I think it could. Take Care, T. Q