Daddy and Sugar

Would it be possible to not buy junk like juice, cookies, ice cream and other sugar-laden products? Ideally he wouldn't be pumping your daughter full of food items that lead to obesity and other health issues and ideally he'd want to be on the same page with you when it comes to parenting, but it sounds like he's not willing to do that. Do you do the grocery shopping? If you do, quit buying the stuff - you really don't need those items anyway. If it isn't in the house then he can't give it to her.

I agree - don't stock it in the house, only have fruits to satisfy the sweet tooth. You could turn the tables, get them high on suger before he takes over and let him deal with the crash. 2 cranky kids may stop him!

My husband was also giving our child all sorts of sugary sweets and saw nothing wrong with it. I just decided not to keep sugary sweets in the house. I do the grocery shopping anyway, so this was easy to do. I also took him along to one of my daughter's appts. Being "scolded" by my daughter's pediatrician seemed to have an impact as well!

If your hubby wont cooperate you may have to hide the products or avoid buying them.
My son was sugar sensitive and we were a sugar free household for several years.

Not to be harsh, but if the junk isn't in the house, he can't feed it to her. (Unless of course he is one of the unusual husbands who does the grocery shopping). Seriously though - remind him of the statistics on childhood obesity and how that will effect your children later in life. I wouldn't be as concerned about the "sugar rush" as the long term health impact of a poor diet.

I would also wonder what activities are stimulating her so that she is so would up. Maybe you can create an evening activity schedule that starts to dial it down a couple hours before bedtime (coloring instead of TV, reading, anything that is a bit calmer...). Good luck!

Don't buy it & he won't have the choice.

Honestly, if you do the shopping, I'd stop buying the stuff. You can't control what he does when you're not there, but, if you control the food that comes in the house, I'd start there. I buy Honest Kids juice from Whole Foods - the sugar content (and, accordingly, the actual juice content) is lower than your average juice. If you have to have cookies in your house, how about switching to fig newtons, or something similar (I think they are lower in sugar). Or bake your own with applesauce instead of sugar for sweetener. I WOH, too, so, I know doing that may be hard, but the impact on your LO's body with the sugar rush dad is giving her is probably worth the time to bake. It really doesn't take too long. Good luck!

Who does the grocery shopping? If you do, then just don't buy anything with sugar. That should solve the problem. Only buy whole grain snacks without sugar, yogurt... And if he's going to give juice, certainly he should be watering it down. Otherwise maybe stop buying that, too. It's unfortunate that he's unwilling to see that these are unhealthy options on many levels ; ) Good luck.

Wow, that is really bad. Not only that your husband thinks it's funny, but his disregard for you, when you've asked him to stop. Seriously, if it was me, I would be very angry with him about this.

Obviously he thinks you are just 'overreacting' or being too picky. So I would call in reinforcements. Have you spoken with your mom about this? How about HIS mom? I don't know any grandmas that would think it was ok for him to sugar the kids up like that, especially before bedtime. Men are creatures of habit and what he doesn't want to hear from you, he may take more seriously from his own mom or all of you.

Also, schedule an appointment with your family doctor. Make your husband go with you. Call the doctor ahead of time and explain the situation with him and let THEM explain to your husband that what he is doing is REALLY bad for his kids!

It's too bad he doesn't take you or what you are telling him seriously. He ought to, and honestly, if it were me, I would bring that issue up with him as well. It sounds like he really does not respect your opinion or the time that you have to spend bringing the kids 'down'.

I don't think you should feel bad AT ALL about ganging up on him about this in any way you can. He brought the situation on himself by acting ignorant and ( sorry!) plain old, bad, inconsiderate behavior! If he had been reasonable in the first place, you wouldn't have had to ask for help with this!

Although it is true that if there are no 'sugary' snacks in the house, he can't serve them, I don't know that you should have to NEVER allow a treat in the house, just because your husband cannot stop himself from giving them to the kids! Who is the adult here, for Pete's sake??

Providing healthy snacks for your kids is great and you should do that anyway, but the issue here is your husband's blatant disregard for his own children's health and his disrespect for what you've asked him to do!

Good luck- stick to your guns here and don't back down! This could become a serious health issue for your kids later, even if your husband just thinks its funny now. I am sure he loves his kids- he just needs to learn that flooding them with sugar all the time is not a good way to show it.