I sent invitations to my 8 year old Daughter's birthday party. I found out that another girl sent invitations for her party on the same day. There are a handful of girls who will be invited to both. I know the mother, but our daughters are not friends. Should I talk to her to see if we can adjust the parties to make everyone happy?
Or should I just change my party from Saturday to Sunday?
Do they both share the same friends? Cause if not I would say keep it on the same day or maybe change the time so they could come to both.
I would definitely contact the other mother before making your change. Just in case she has the same plan to change hers from Saturday to Sunday. Otherwise, you would be back in the same predicament.
Let it go. Hopefully the parties are not both at the same time?? That way the girls have an opportunity to attend both for a short time if they want. Was your daughter invited to this person's party? If not, it is none of your business :) I certainly wouldn't appreciate some mom telling me "oh can't you please change your date???"
In the future send out invites early. My daughter has a popular birthday date and I sent invites well in advance so in case anyone else was planning something on the same day..my invite got there first.
I wouldnt call anyone and ask them to change their party. I would just go with your party, or change yours.
God, this just brought back a whole slew of memories for me :) Change the date of your party. There are already so many problems with popularity and cliques at that age, make it easy on her and all the other kids by changing the date, then nobody has to choose which party to attend and both birthday girls get to have their "day". Good luck!
I would not call the other mother b/c it's a strange request considering the fact that the girls aren't friends.
If it involves several girls, then change your event to Sunday. If it's 1 or 2 then leave it.
This is a tough one. The same thing happened with my 9 year old's birthday this year. 2 girls who were invited to my daughter's party could not attend because they were attending the other classmate's party. Personally, I wouldn't go and try changing your party date around, the invitations have already been sent. I'd just let the chips fall where they may, and also I would think since the 2 girls are not friends, their invite lists won't be exactly the same, so each girl will likely have a little bit smaller of a party, that's OK. If your guest turns out be significantly less that planned, you can always add something extra special to the party for just a small group. Your daughter will still have fun. Do you have neighbor friends, cousins, and friends outside of school you can make sure to invite to your daughter's party?
Same thing happened to us. It is what it is. I would talk to the mom and verify what time her party is. Its possible that there is some wiggle room although if you send out 2nd invites now you might end up with guests on Sat. and Sun.
M.
I would let it be and if you have a few extras you want to invite, invite them otherwise just have her party. Asking someone else to change their event is not a good idea as the ripples will be felt for a long time to come. If she calls and asks you, you can either simply decline or work it so the party times compliment each other. I however wouldn't be the one to make the call. If you end up with a smaller party it will be more intimate and you will end up with kids who actually like your child over just a group of people showing.
Hi B.
I would talk to the Mum and see if you both can come up with some solution.
Good on you for being so proactive.
Being an 8yr old girl is a very sensitive age. You two Mums sorting something out will decrease the chances of it turning into a popularity contest between the two girls.
Good luck
B.
I would just change the date if your daughter wants all the girls she invited to attend.
I think that would be a good idea. Even though the girls are not really friends, I'm sure they know each other, because they have some of the same friends. Maybe this would be a way that they will become friends. I would ask every one to see what they think. Maybe the girls would not mind at all.
I dont think if they children are friends that you should ask her to change her party. If you think it would be convenient for the children to go to both then I would change mine or maybe change the time of your party so they can have the choice to attend both.
