Best Natural Lice Removal Techniques

Your daughter is the one who got physical according to her own account. If your daughter wants to pick fights she should know that she may not end up the winner.

Oh if there ever was a time I wish I had a question to copy and paste! This OP posted that her daughter kicked her friend's little brother but it is okay because the sister weighed more than her daughter. Oh of course this is after her two year old husband starred down the ten year old in question. Lots of maturity here!

Edited to add: No idea what happened here. If you edited your question by accident or if there was a website glitch, that's a shame, because the original post is lost. If it's a Mamapedia technical problem, please report it to the moderators/administrators! If you did it on purpose to get rid of the question because you didn't like the responses, that's an even bigger shame because it says you don't mind wasting members' time! That's just annoying and it's going to hurt your credibility going forward. Please explain in the "So What Happened" section so we know!

My original answer to your original question about kids fighting and parents getting involved:

Lots of problems here.

1) Your husband chose to stare down the 10 year old instead of either ignoring her entirely or being Mr. Pleasant and saying, "Hi there Petunia! I see you and the other kids have some bike riding planned. Good day for it! Enjoy!" So he kind of set her off - as unreasonable as she may be, he's establishing the challenge and hoping she can read his body language. Really? She's a kid.

2) Your daughter's response to admittedly nasty spitting was to kick a 7 year old. Why is that okay? Because "he started it"??

3) Your response to the other children's shoving and spitting was to go get involved and talk to the other mom. It was not to discipline your child for playing 1/2 of the antagonist role at the top of the slide and for kicking a 7 year old. EVERY CHILD has to be grounded in this situation. It doesn't matter if the other mother doesn't follow through - because you have done nothing to your own child to get her to stop participating.

4) You are texting with a 10 year old neighbor. Kids who want to play can walk across the street and ring the bell to address an adult face-to-face and ask if the other kid can come out to play. That establishes a relationship between kids and adults, helps kids learn to work things out by asking permission, helps them learn manners, etc. They SPEAK to each other rather than having stare-down contests or waiting for a major infraction followed by sending a delegation to another parent. Stop texting and insist on a personal interaction - face to face works fine with a close neighbor and on pleasant days, the phone works for people at a distance or in bad weather (I wouldn't expect a child to run across the street and stand on my stoop in the pouring rain just to find out if my kid can go over there to play). Words and real conversations always, eye contact whenever possible.

This is not going to work out if you all keep doing things this way.

WAAAAY too much drama here. Everyone involved is acting petty, including the adults.

choice number one: your husband didn't need to hang out and 'stare shame' the girl. You say she is manipulative (in your last post), but this is exactly the same.

Choice number two: this is your mistake. If there was a kid who was possibly asking my son to join because the kid got busted for exclusion, we would be 'busy with other plans, sorry, goodbye." I would not send my child to the house of someone who had just deliberately decided they didn't want them there in the first place. That's only a recipe for disaster. I wouldn't have even offered it to my child as his choice because he's not quite mature enough to make the good choice. I'm his parent. If he gets mad because he found out later that I nixed the offer, it's okay. I'm an adult and I can handle him being mad if I have to make a good choice for him.

Not to be rude, but maybe this girl has it out for your girl because she feels like she's being forced to have a relationship she doesn't want.Or maybe this little girl is just a PITA tween and being made to feel bad for not playing your daughter is worse, so she's going to get back at the adults for forcing the issue. We've dealt with these kinds of kids. The best thing to tell your daughter is to stay the heck away from them. Teach her that finding something else to do is better than going along with people who don't treat you well. That you don't have to engage in the disagreement. Some people are jerks. That's life. You don't engage them, you just walk away whenever possible.

AND, yeah, your daughter shouldn't have kicked the kid, period. In any case, what this says to me is that the playtimes together should stop, esp if there isn't any parental supervision. It's obvious that the kids can't deal with their disagreements and you know, some kids are a bad match. Just move on!

well, this seems to be a hotbed of immaturity and nastiness no matter how you look at it, from the now-vanished original post to the utterly revised question.
looks like you're the neighbors to be avoided on a lot of levels.
khairete
S.

The kids were being kids. All should be punished for their part in this. It sounds like the other mom is doing her part by grounding them. And yes, your daughter should stay away from the 10 year old as much as she can - within reason (eg, if at the park at the same time, DD can go on swings when the other is on the slide, or whatever).

But what the heck was your DH thinking? The 10 year old isn't allowed to have friends over without inviting your daughter? Since when does your DH get to choose this girl's friends for her? IMO, he started this mess.

ETA: I personally agree with you that kids should be taught to stick up for themselves. I can't say I'd blame my kid for retaliating if someone spit on him. But I also accept that this means that my kid is part of the physical altercation, and not purely a victim. I would not frame that as "these kids got physical with my kid". I'd frame it as "they (all of them) got into a fight." And by doing so, I accept that all kids shared the blame - that is where I differ from your point of view.

ETA2: After writing a long SWH trying to say why every response was off-base, the OP apparently pulled the post.

Mayonnaise.

But to answer your original question, you really do have to let them figure these things out on their own. If this 10 year old isn't a true friend, don't encourage your daughter to play with her. Your husband interpreted this girl's actions and ascribed meaning to them. He may or may not be right. If you truly believe he is correct in his assumptions, why did you allow your daughter to go to the park with this girl?

Don't give a 10 year old girl that much power. If she's not a nice friend to your daughter, maybe your daughter shouldn't be friends with her.

This 10 year old does not have to invite your daughter to play. Period.

I'm trying to understand some of your snarky comments about the kids but yours is an angel? Nope. This is on all of them. Your daughter engaged just as much as the others. The boy spit on her so she kicked him? Both are WRONG! FYI - Siblings are going to stick up for each other. Your daughter and the 10 year old got into a verbal match. The brother came over and got involved. He spit, you DD kicked, older sister pushed your daughter. ALL are to blame. End of story.

Keep your child away from the 10 year old. You are in control of that situation.

weird - the answers do not match the question -- did someone go back and change it? (this is what it looked like at about 8:30 pm...

Best Natural Lice Removal Techniques
G. S. asks from Wake Forest, NC on December 14, 2015
5 answers

What are some best lice removal techniques or products everyone uses? We had a scare a couple weeks ago even though I do things regularly that are supposed to deter lice.

You do NOT have to use a pesticide on your children's head to get rid of head lice.

Please go to headlice.org and read up on it.

I wash the kiddo's hair in the shower with regular shampoo and then use a great conditioner. I comb the tangles out of their hair with the conditioner in it. You can often find lice in the conditioner that gets combed out. That's one less you have to worry about.

Then I leave their hair drippy wet. I get a white or light towel over my lap and I get their hair up in sections about an inch each one. Lice can't handle the water well and it makes them groggy. They are sluggish and can't move hardly at all.

I use a small tooth rat tail comb and go through each one inch section. I look for bugs all the way from the scalp to the end of the hair. As I find groggy bugs I pull them off and put them into a cup of water, they're like us and breathe air so they drown if they can't get out of the water, problem solved. As the hair starts to dry you need to get it drippy wet again.

When you go through her whole head you'll also see nits. If it's solid white it's empty and of no consequence. If it has a black center it has a baby in it and it must come out. Pull gently but constantly down the hair shaft until it slides off the end. That egg also needs to go into that cup of water.

Once you go through her hair that way you need to do it again the next day and the next day and the next...until there are no new bugs and you don't see any new nits then you can go to doing this weekly.

If a child is in school they will get lice. If a child goes to child care they will get lice. Lice are everywhere. They are on the fabric chairs in doctors offices, they are in the seats of the neighbors van when they take your child to school or to an activity, they are in the hats at the store that kids grab and try on, etc....it's better to be aware of where they like to live and where they can crawl onto your child's head.

So go to the site and learn all about head lice and how to prevent and manage them better.

One thing you can do is go to Walmart and buy a small, 8 ounces or less, spray bottle and put some Tea Tree Oil in it then add some water. The water isn't pure, the air in the bottle isn't pure, the bottle isn't sterile. SO if you leave the fluid in the bottle more than a few days it will sour. So the less you make up the less you have to throw out in a few days.

Spritz the child's hair each morning before you brush out their tangles and style their hair. The Tea Tree Oil stinks to lice. They will not like the host and will crawl off. Using products with Tea Tree Oil in them will also help repel the lice.