Bed Wetting Question.

There's nothing you can do. It's not his choice. His body will be ready when it is ready.

Please don't take him out of pull-ups. He needs to know that this is completely normal and that he is doing nothing wrong.

You can not help him stay dry. FYI...there are enough 10 and 11 yo that still wet the bed that it was a topic of discussion when my daughter was going on her 5th grade sleep over field trip.

Time! Just be patient. Very common.

You can't nighttime potty train a child. No such thing.
When his body develops fully, he'll be dry. Til then, use the pull ups to make your life easier.

I echo those who have said there is nothing you can do about it. It's a developmental, growth issue and not a choice or an issue of "training". People who wake their kids up to pee are just getting exhausted, frustrated kids. We consulted a pediatric urologist, who assured us it's quite prevalent and completely normal. Use the pull-ups designed for bigger kids, and if necessary, you can put an additional incontinence pad inside it.

Our son was still having a problem at well past 7, and he was getting invited to sleepovers, so it became a social issue even though we knew it wasn't a medical issue. The urologist told us about a medication that really helps. Our son took it (one pill at night) with no side effects at all. The doc told us he had kids on it into the teen years and a few up into high school. Our son took it until about age 9, then he went off, and after a few months, the problem returned. So he went back on the meds until he took himself off around age 11, with no recurrence. I'm not a big lover of medications, but this let him have a social life and go to overnight camp. When he went to another kid's house, I just sent one pill in an unmarked bottle (so the other kids didn't see what it was for), and just let the other parents know to give it to him before bed. Worked great.

Our son was in pullups at night till he woke up dry for a solid 2 weeks in a row.
At 7 yrs old he was done with pullups.
Ask your pediatrician and he/she will tell you - many many many kids wet the bed till they are 7 or 10 or even 12 yrs old.
It has to do with their brain being mature to the point where is makes a chemical that slows down urine production at night and also bladder size and control - and there's nothing anyone can do to mature him any faster than he already is.
Sure you can take him out of pullups - but then be prepared to deal with a wet bed every morning (possibly for years) - it's frustrating for both you and him - and it's a lot of laundry and bed changing.

Kept our son in pullups until close to 7 when his body figured it out...and then we still kept what was left of the package for awhile for when he was sick.and would use then ...it took a couple of years to go thru the other half...

Pull ups are for you S.. So you don't have to wash a ton of extra laundry, so you don't have to go buy a new pillow every couple of days, so you can keep your laundry bills down to a minimum roar....lol.

They are so you keep the urine inside something and off the bed clothes and linens.

I suggest you continue using them because he's not going to be dry at night until his brain turns on the chemical his brain needs to signal his kidneys to stop producing urine while he's asleep. His kidneys need to stop making it so he won't pee all night. Until he turns that off he will be wet. No matter how much he drinks or doesn't drink, he'll make urine all night long. When the brain turns his kidney's off when he falls asleep he won't even wake up to go pee. He'll sleep all night and be dry.

It's normal. Especially for boys. We take my son to the bathroom before we go to bed.

HI!
Forgive me, I haven't read the other ladies' advice but mine is DO NOT stress about this at al. I have twin boys that just turned 8, one is dry at night, has been for a long time, the other is not. We just went to their annual well child check up and specifically discussed this with the pedi and she was on board with me in just waiting it out. There are meds you can give your child to help but I feel it is not necessary for my son. With my daughter who is almost 15, I was very h*** o* her for those night time accidents, very ashamed of myself for how I punished her. Thank goodness for a truly good friend who put me in my place and reminded me I was freaking out over something my daughter couldn't control, she wasn't doing it to be rebellious or disobedient but I was treating her like she was :'-( Anyway, this time around, I'm a calm mama, in the big scheme of things that can go wrong in life (believe me, we have experienced some BIG BIG ones), the night time wetting is a blip on the radar. To answer your question, not a whole lot you can do. It will happen naturally when your son is ready :-)

When I first potty trained my daughter at 3, I just always put pull-ups on just assuming she couldn't stay dry at night. Then I realized by putting them on, she just assumed she should use them. I switched back to undies, and only a couple accidents in the first year.

My daughter daytime trained early and quickly but wore pull-ups overnight until she was 4. At first I chalked it up to smaller bladder size because she was soaking wet EVERY morning. We finally decided to try waking her once over night to go to the bathroom, starting a few hours after bedtime and gradually getting closer to her normal wake up time. We layered her bed starting with a waterproof pad, a sheet, another pad and another sheet for quick changes at night. In a couple of weeks she was consistently dry.

We went through this with my son, too. We just took him, mostly asleep, to the bathroom before we went to bed. He just sleeps super hard. Now he reads before he goes to sleep and we leave the bathroom light on for him. He knows that when he is done reading (about 9:15 or so - he's 10 now), he is supposed to go to the bathroom and turn out the light.

Drives me nuts when people categorically say alarms don't work - NOT true!!
While it is perfectly normal for a 5 year old to wet the bed (up to age 12-13 per my pedi urologist) it can't hurt to have a doctor look at him. Many kids who wet the bed also suffer from constipation, when the constipation clears up the bedwetting stops. It makes sense, full intestine pushes on bladder and desensitizes it so child doesn't recognize 'got to go' signals. Once constipation is cleared up the body begins to slowly recover and recognize the 'urge' signal.

Alarms are effective, but the child has to want to do it or they don't work. The typical 5 year old is not mature enough for an alarm to work. We used one with my son when he was 9. It was a long (6-12 weeks) process, but it worked. He was wet every night, no exceptions. I had to sleep with him for 3-4 weeks to help him wake up to the alarm, but eventually he began waking up before the alarm. We stopped using it after he was dry 2 weeks and we've only had a few (2-3) accidents since, he's almost 11 now.

My daughter will be 7 in October.... it's developmental. Nothing you can do... just keep buying the pull ups and his body and he will be dry when he's ready. Our Dr. said some kids do have success with the alarms, but they aren't effective until the child is older and ready to use them - around 7. Hang in there :)

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Welcome to mamapedia!

it's NORMAL. Night time training is NOT like day time training. His body is NOT ready.

The pull ups are NOT harming him.

What can you do? You can decrease his fluid intake before he goes to bed - if his bed time is 8PM - then at 5PM - MINIMAL fluids. I realize this might be dinner time - but decreasing his fluid intake BEFORE he goes to bed will help - it won't stop it - but it will help.

No sodas.
No kool-aid - sugary drinks.

Water. Milk.

Make sure he goes to the bathroom before bed.

DO NOT buy an "alarm" - it won't help. DO NOT yell or get mad at him. He cannot control it. It WILL happen, when his body is ready!

Hope that helps!

we were doing pull ups and I finally stopped because I felt the same....it was essentially permitting the bed wetting to happen. We finally decided to go to regular underwear at night, reduce the beverage intake (without dehydrating our child!) as we got closer to bed time and have had more success with that.....hasn't been perfect, in fact I found myself changing sheets at 1 am 2 nights ago but overall, I saw an impovement once our child began wearing regular underwear. We also bought those pads used alot for geriatric patience who have incontinence issues. We just lay that between the mattress pad and fitted sheet where she lays and that is extra protection for the mattress.
Best of luck and hang in there!

Normal!

Boys typically have a hard time recognizing the urge at night. My oldest still wet the bed occasionally at age 7-8. He has to learn to recognize the urge.

I suggest that you look into a Malem bedwetting alarm. It attaches to his underwear and startles him awake when he's just starting to pee....which stops the flow in time for him to get to the toilet. If you use it according to the directions, it trains him to recognize the urge before he wets and to either hold it or get up and go on his own.

Best!
C. Lee