Allowance - Bethlehem,PA

Updated on April 09, 2010
L.R. asks from Bethlehem, PA
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What is a reasonable allowance for a 14 girl who only lives with us half the week and does no chores?

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answers from Honolulu on

Allowance... is not an obligatory thing.
Nor should the child "expect" it.
Have her do things around the house or get a job or something.
Or helping you around the house, which can be her "job."
She has to learn about helping "family".... not helping herself get money. Doing chores to a certain extent, should not just equate to it being money for the child. They should help because they are a part of a family... not just revolving around for themselves and getting money.

My daughter does chores, because that is what it is to be a member of a family and we ALL help each other. I don't "pay" her for that. But, I do give her money here and there for things that are outstanding or that she did outside of her perfunctory chores.

all the best,

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answers from Chicago on

our kids get allowance. It is not tied in any real way to chores. they get $1 for each year they are in school. So a 1st grader got $1 9th grader $9 etc. but what was tied into chores was privileges. video game time, rides to places like skating rink etc. cell phone and those kinds of things. those are all privileges not given rights. And the money they got was also dependent on whether we could afford it. they all understood when money was tight.

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answers from San Diego on

I personally like the method of figuring out how much is usually spent on a child and working them up to where they are responsible for earning and allocating all of it. For my 7yo kiddo... if we included classes and clothes and school supplies and lunches that would be about 250.

So what we do right NOW is make him responsible for everything that's NOT classes & clothes & school supplies. AKA via doing all of his chores (and we include daily playtime and schoolwork in that list) he can earn up to $45 a month/ at $10 a week. He can save it, or spend it on lunches/ toys/ movies/ outings. For big ticket items, Dad & I go half with him. (Ex: right now he's saving for his laptop, he's saved abot $300 and needs to save about $200 more... previously he saved for 1/2 the cost of our puppy including 6mo of food/ vet bills/ crate/ etc... which ran him $400). Over the next few years we'll increase his spending money until he's responsible for paying for all of what WE currently pay for (sports/ clothes/ school schtuff/ etc.) . Technically he earns a dollar a day for his entire list of responsibilities being checked off, and at the end of the week he gets a $3 bonus for having a good attitude about it. His current list of responsibilities:

- Breakfast
- Dishes
- Shower/ Teeth
- Make Bed
- Pick up all toys except for up to 2 ongoing things can be left out
- School
- Play
- Help w/ projects
- Help cook dinner

- Wash his sheets
- Wash and put away his clothes
- Clean his room
- Pick a Chore x1

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answers from Chicago on

NOTHING.....check out dave ramsey's book about children & allowance, very good info

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answers from Charlotte on

ZERO! A 14 year old is capable of doing a lot around the house. Cooking, cleaning, laundry. In the real world you don't get paid for doing nothing, so she shouldn't either. This is a great time to teach her responsibility and domestics she'll use later in life. If she just wants to lounge around the house, she sure shouldn't get paid for it. Just my opinion

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answers from Des Moines on

i started doing chores when i was 5 years old. and i got paid to do so (farm chores and house chores) she should have things that she is required to do to get the allowance at the end of the week. no work no money. my son doesnt get an allowance he is only 2 but he has"chores" to do. picking up toys switching laundry from washer to dryer removing plates from table after dinner and feeding the dogs. once he is old enough to understand real chores he will be able to earn his money on other things as what he does now i consider to be part of being in a family



answers from Augusta on

I agree nothing.
she either does chores and gets an allowance or she dosen't and gets nothing.



answers from Dallas on

I agree. She should work for the money. Teaches her responsibility. Dave Ramsey has great ideas- you should get plugged into a class of his, or even check out his websites & CD's!



answers from Orlando on

I have to agree with most posters and say if she does no chores she gets no allowance. When I was that age, I got all of my spending money from babysitting the kids in the neighborhood. Also I even cut a few yards! lol I remember sometimes if I was going to the mall or movies and I was low on money my parents would give me a few bucks. But nothing on a regular basis just because.



answers from Allentown on

I do agree with everyone else. She should be pitching in in some way to earn an allowance. 3 out of 4 of my children are old enough to do chores and get an allowance, 10, 9, and 6 years old. They do anything from vacuuming to bathrooms. It is a huge help for me and teaches them responsibility. They are a little more aware about cleaning up after themselves. They each earn half of their age in allowance, ex. 10 year old earns $5 a week and the 9 year old earns $4.50. But that is if they do all their daily and weekly chores well and on time without giving a problem.

Giving them an allowance has completely stopped them from bugging me for toys and junk. They know that they have the money and they have to use it for extras. Some of my kids turned into cheapskates once they have to spend their money. LOL! Oh, and chores are not optional. If they don't do it, they get punished as well as not getting money. The money is just an extra.

Hope this helps!


answers from Los Angeles on

In my opinion, allowance is given when chores are done. I know some argue that you shouldn't give kids an allowance for doing chores, that they should realize that everyone has to contribute to helping the household run smoothly and not be paid for it. While I do see the logic in that, I was raised on an allowance, and believe me, I was made to work for it. I vacuumed each week, cleaned the bathrooms each week, emptied the dishwasher on a daily basis, set the table, dusted, etc. (My brother and I joke around that when we moved out of our parents house, that's when they hired a maid and gardener. I'm not kidding!! :)



answers from San Francisco on

ZERO - If this child is a part of the household, she needs to have some responsibilities. She needs to understand about earning money.




answers from Dallas on

Seriously? None. I hear the opinion about not paying for chores either, because it's part of being a family. Yeah, but part of being a mom is to prepare my children for life. Part of "life" is working, getting compensation, knowing what to do once you've received money (for us, that's 10% tithes, 10% -at least- to savings, the rest is spending now, though we will teach about budgeting and goal setting when he's older....there's also the charitable facet, and no I don't think my son even thinks "I will do these chores for my money" but he does things with us because we do things together.....and then he's rewarded because we appreciate him). That's just my opinion and answer to the "part of the family" argument against allowance. But I don't think allowances are things you just get for no reason!!!
My 3 year old son is on a daily system because weekly is too far out for him....he's just a wee boy but he straightens his room (roughly), puts his blanket back on his bed, empties all the little bedroom/bathroom wastebaskets into the trashcan in the kitchen, feeds the cat with a scoop, swiffers the floors, throws his dirty laundry in the correct spots (and helps with the baby's laundry) by putting them in the color-coded bags (colors in the colored bag, whites in the white bag, reds in the red bag), empties the dryer into the laundry basket and pushes it to the living room for me to fold, he folds washcloths and his own underwear while I'm doing the bigger stuff. He "washes furniture" (dusts) with a swiffer cloth. He picks up ALL his toys in the yard and puts them in the "outside toybox" every day before coming in the house. He helps me out when I'm going from room to room gathering things that aren't put away and sometimes will run something from the basket to the room it belongs in (for me to put away when I get to that room). He's a big helper. Obviously he doesn't do some of the jobs (swiffering, dusting, folding clothes) perfectly, but we brag on him, encourage him, love on him, and reward him. He has his own puppy dog calendar by his bed. When the day is over and we're tucking him in, we talk about the day, what was his favorite part, etc....he knows his "job" is to help me with whatever I need help with, to be a good big brother, to eat without having a fight, and have fun. He doesn't do ALL those chores everyday. He does the daily stuff (toys away, laundry away, straighten his room) every day and does the swiffer, laundry, dusting as needed, when I ask. If he does his "job" that day, he gets to put a star sticker on that day's space on the calendar. At the end of the week, we count the stars and he gets a quarter for every star. There are some days he gets an "X" (not a good day, and no pay). Other days he goes above and beyond, is super good, or does a chore that is not normal (this weekend while we weeded and trimmed hedges, he had work gloves on and picked up clippings and threw them in the lawn bag, then "mowed" the lawn with his bubble mower): that got 2 stars because we don't trim hedges very often. This teaches him to work and earn money (so he respects it), he learns good and bad consequences to his actions, and he gets to practice counting. We also call out what color the stars are, so he's practicing colors, too. It helps his self esteem. We also give him everything he needs, and give him gifts sometimes for no reason. We take him out on an adventure every week, sometimes a couple times a week (something more than the normal trip to the park or whatever). HOWEVER, if he finds something at the store (a toy horse, a Toy Story sleeping bag, a Spiderman fishing pole), he knows he gets to work and then buy it with his own money. He is SO proud of that! He also has a 3-way bank. 1 bank, divided into 3 compartments: savings, tithes, and spending. We divide that up on "pay day" as we're handing out the money for him to put in the bank with us. He's only 3! A 14 year old girl should be ok with doing a few things around the house so she can have some movie money or whatever. It's good for her. I wouldn't give allowance for nothing, period. But I WOULD definately provide opportunities for her to earn money, sure. Give her some basic chores for a certain amount of money (daily life? $2-3 a day??) and if she does extra chores or helps with spring cleaning or something, give her more for that day. If there's something she's wanting or saving for specifically, give her opportunities to work for it and if she's working hard and every week, I'd probably kick in money too as a bonus.


answers from New York on

Allowance? None! But if you want to bless her with some money it's different. Maybe you can give her $3 to $5 a week. I would have her do something in order to earn allowance. Like take out the trash, or gather all the laundry together, clean the windows, do dishes, dust, etc.; that way she can earn the money and you might be able to increase the amount depending on the chores she does.


answers from Allentown on

Hi, L.:

Why do you want to give her an allowance?

What does she do for it?

Has she asked for it?

Just want to know.


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