7 Year Old Still Wetting at Night and Accidents During Day

My daughter is 9 and still wets at night....we use Good Nights for that. They come in all sizes and they even have them now that look like a pair of shorts. I checked with her doctor and he said there is nothing physically wrong with her...however she is a very tiny person...she's about the size of a 5 year old.

At that age my son also wet and his doctor put him on a medication called DDAVP. http://www.drugs.com/mtm/ddavp.html

Our doctor offered to put our daughter on it too, but we declined. He said she will out grow it, it might take some time. And for now, the Good Nights work for her. I just hate to put her on meds if we don't need to.

You should have her parents check with her doctor about it, if it's a big issue. But, until they get home, I would suggest getting the Good Nights..... it's better than wet sheets everyday, and the embarrassment that goes with it.

Also, make it very clear to the kids that they need not ask to go to the bathroom, they can just go when they need to.... let them know that they can feel at home at your house and can use the bathroom at any time.

Is she a sound sleeper. As an ex bed wetter myself, I remember sleeping very soundly and knowing that I had to go. The thing was I saw myself get up out of bed and go to the bathroom. The problem was I dreamed it all. I wet the bed until about age 12. Try waking her up before you go to bed for the night yourself and making her go. But it's like her brain needs to be programmed into knowing to get out of bed to go.

Kids are so in-tune with everything that is happening around them - it makes me wonder if the bedwetting is related to the emotional stress. Have you considered having her speak with a counselor? Sometimes sharing fears and talking about it can help heal open wounds.

Other than that, I don't have any advice for you. It sounds like you have done everything you can to welcome her into your home. I think someone already suggested a night light in her room and the bathroom so she can easily find it in the night, pull ups for older kids, and restricting fluids before bedtime. You are such a loving aunt to watch over these three girls in their time of need.

My best to you.

Sounds like you're doing everything right, and since it still happens, I would just not make a big deal out of it. I am sure she feels bad already.I hope it all works out.

hi there,

my oldest child is 12 and occasionall still wets the bed,

however i have found that putting him to bed earlier actually helped the best. bed time IS at 830-9pm
usually 30 minutes of tv before bed.

the earlier to bed the lighter they sleep.so if she was a heavy sleeper this really would help.

make sure you put out some night lights for her

NO CAFFIENE before bed or at dinner time. this makes everything worse.

I don't limit fluids, but i usually only give MILK after dinner. a little bit ( LITTLE) chocolate powder or ovaltine if they asked.

Also no excessive sugars, ( ice cream is ok but not ice cream and then cake and then cookies)

Last little bit that never hurts,make sure no scarey movies because this can make them affraid to go pee, and while tucking her in and giving her a kiss good night say I love you and DON"T PEE the BED, my son loved this because he felt that if i said not to pee he didn't and oddly enough if i forgot to say it for some reason he ended up having an accident, finally at about 11pm before you hit the bed, wake her up pull her out of bed if you have to so she can pee in the potty.

And on the morning she wakes with a dry bed, turn on the radio and dance around the room to the music, squeeze her and hug her saying how happy you are and how proud you are of her accomplishment.Announce it to everyone in the house.

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NOTE: you can also line her bed with garbage bags, or even purchase a plastic bed cover for the bed to protect it,
these are very inexpensive.and well worth it.

I also use the hospital bed covers which makes the mess much easier to clean.

Good luck

M

They have disposable under wear for bigger kids. You could limit their drinks or just two hour before she goes to sleep. And last make sure they take a bathroom run before they go to bed. You could also put night lite up just so if they need to go they won't be afraid to go. Good luck. It's also very nice of you to take them in.

God bless you! Kids are like that sometimes she may still be having the problem of being shy/afraid to go to the bathroom at night. I would say don't let her drink after a certain time and wake her up in the middle of the night to take her to the bathroom. Odds are at her age she may wake up everynight to go on her own but is too afraid and lays there and pees in the bed.

So I would say make the effort to take her and see if that will stop the night time bed wetting.

Good Luck.

I know that even children who have been potty trained for years, if there is a trauma in their life (divorce,moving,etc) they can revert to having accidents. For us we had to start again with our son. I gently told him it was time to go to the bathroom during the day. Start with every two hours and work up. If he told me he didn't have to go I would say "there is always a little". I made sure he always had pants with elastic so it was easy for him to go on his own or in a hurry. I also pointed out the bathroom everywhere we went and gave him permission to just go with out asking.I always made sure that the last thing we did right before bed was go to the bathroom. This is a start if nothing deeper is going on (fear of the toilet if someone told her something or something happened associated with the potty).Good luck.

Wow!!! Thank God your nieces have a wonderful Aunt to take them in. I wish you all peace.

My son is 6 years old and my daughter is 4. They both are completely potty-trained during the day. They are both very heavy sleepers. They stop drinking at 7pm, go potty before they go to bed(8:30-9pm) and before I go to bed at 11:30pm I carry them one at a time to the potty, and then I carry them back to bed. They don't even remember going. I've had dry sheets for 3 weeks now....(knocking on wood).

Peace