Why Is It So Hard to Concieve After Miscarriage

My sympathies. I've suffered several miscarriages myself and completely understand the feeling of loss. After my last one, I chose to wait nearly a year before trying to get pregnant again. I needed time to grieve and become mentally and physically healthy again.

25-28 days isn't so irregular...but you need to give your body time to heal and regulate. Try not to TRY so hard...if you relax, it will happen.

Take a month or two to REALLY know your body. Can you identify when you are ovulating? Use an ovulation kit or track your basal body temperature. Make sure you are taking your prenatal vitamins. Get some moderate exercise. Drink plenty of water and eat a healthy, varied diet.

first of all, please accept my sympathy for the loss of your baby. I know how broken your heart is over this.
It takes a while for hormone levels and such to get back onto an even keel after a miscarriage. I understand that most Doctors suggest you wait at least 6 months after miscarriage before attempting to start another pregnancy.
As hard as it sounds....try and put relax, as far as getting pregnant, in my experience, I always managed to get pregnant when I wasn't trying so hard!!!

This also happened to me after a miscarriage. My body just never got back to ovulating normally. My doctor ended up giving me Clomid to regulate my ovulation and it worked on the first try! I'm not sure if this would work for you, but if you're having trouble now, then it's worth mentioning it to your doctor. You might have to wait it out a little bit, but if it's been several months, then your doctor may be able to help. I wish you the best. I now have two healthy children, so there is hope!

How often are you having intercourse and what, if anything, are you doing to figure out when you are ovulating? I always conceived easily, but we had sex every day that we were trying. You can chart your temperature and cervical mucous, you can use an ovulation predictor kit, there are things out there that can help you to know the best time to try to conceived.
I am sorry for your loss and I hope that your baby dreams will come true soon!

I've had 4 miscarriages. Each one I chose to let my body miscarry naturally so I didn't have to worry about scarring with a D&C. First miscarriage baby's heart stopped beating at 6 1/2 weeks, I miscarried at 12 1/2 weeks (December 2003). Second one I miscarried at 5 1/2 weeks. Third one I miscarried at 6 1/2 weeks. (Then we went totally organic and made a lot of lifestyle changes and conceived our son 6 months later -on the first month trying-.) And the last one (May of 2009) the baby's heart stopped at 9 1/2 weeks and I miscarried at 11 weeks.

After our first miscarriage it took us 6 months to get pregnant with our daughter.

After our very last one, it took us 8 months. (I am currently 23 weeks pregnant.)

With BOTH of those, we finally got pregnant when we went on a small "vacation." Just got away from the stress for a couple days. Not even necessarily "trying" at the time. Just needed a break from everything. It was heartbreaking to me every month when I would get my period. As hard as it is to "not think it's time to try right now", that's the best thing. I've heard this from many people and it has proven to be true for us as well.

I would also HIGHLY recommend the book and tape by Jackie Mize. It's called "Supernatural Childbirth." The title is a bit deceiving. It also addresses the promises we have in CONCEIVING and CARRYING a baby to term in it!

I had two miscarriages before finally being able to have a baby.. I have NEVER had a regular period. My doctor told me that getting on birthcontrol until your cycle regulates then stop your birthcontrol that you have a good chance of getting pregnant.. and it worked for me! 3rd times a charm!... that might be something you could try....

Hi! It took me almost a full year to get pregnant again after my miscarriage last year, but I'm now 15 weeks. I know it's frustrating, but please try to be patient.

I'm VERY irregular - my cycles can go anywhere from 28 - 47 days! We'd have sex every night for 2 weeks around the time I thought I would be ovulating. It was extremely stressful, and not much fun at all for either of us. Finally, I told my husband I needed a month off. I listened to my body, saw when I got that eggy discharge, and had a fun night with my man, without saying a word to him about baby making. 6 weeks later, my at-home preg test came back positive.

Take a break and watch your body's signs. I'm telling you, it will happen.

Good luck!!
J.

P. - I'm so sorry for your loss, it is hard... but as I'm sure you're finding out there are a lot of women who have experienced the same thing and are available to support you. I too had a miscarriage, and it took me 4 years and the help of a fertility doctor to conceive afterward; and every period I would think, "it's never going to happen." But looking back though I think part of the reason I didn't conceive was stress over trying to get pregnant, and I think God had other plans for me just then. I am now the proud mother of 3 beautiful girls (6, 4, 2 months)! Best of luck to you, you'll be in my prayers.

Everything that everyone said here so far is great. I would add checking out FertilityFriend if you have not already done so. They have a lot of information and some great tools for free. Good for those who are trying to concieve or trying to learn about their bodies, or trying not to concieve ;)

My sincere appologies for your loss. Try to find some peace. Try to relax. Keep healthy. Find something happy or that you enjoy and focus on it for awhile. Hang in there!

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I just recently suffered a miscarriage too, and I found this website immensely helpful: http://pregnancyloss.info

One thing I learned from this website is that after every pregnancy (whether full term or miscarriage) your body resets itself. Therefore, if you are thinking a 25-28 day cycle is irregular because it is not what you are used to, do not worry. It is actually a very healthy cycle.

Good luck!

So sorry about your loss! When we were ttc Kiddo No. 1 there was a support group called Resolve for people dealing with infertility and miscarriages. They helped me . I think they are now called "Resolve Through Sharing".

25-28 days sounds pretty regular to me, although if that is a drastic change from what you used to be, mention it to your doc. I think irregular is more along the lines of one cycle 21 days, next one 32, next one 25, etc (just an example).

I think there are books about dealing with the loss of a baby, one title that sticks in my mind is "Empty Cradle, Broken Heart" (but I could have remembered it wrong).

I remember reading a book called "Your Fertility Signals" which tells you how to tell when you are ovulating etc. so you maximize the chances of getting pregnant (or avoiding pregnancy, if that 's what you want to do).

You might also benefit from seeing a counselor,because this is a grief situation.

Remember to take good care of yourself!

Good luck!

K. Z.

Hi there. If your period is irregular and you're not sure when you're ovulating, you'll have to make love more often...:o) Seriously, don't get discouraged. I had a miscarriage back in June of 2007, and got pregnant end of August 2007 (3 months after) and now have a beautiful healthy 2 yr old. A lot of women have miscarriages, it's actually more common than you may imagine (you probably just don't hear about it) and it doesn't mean that you'll have problems getting pregnant after that. I have no doubt you will get pregnant very soon. Best of luck to you and please, for your sake, stay positive. I was depressed like you after my miscarriage, so I understand how you feel, but it was all for nothing. Now, grab your better half and get busy...hehe.