I’m so sorry for your lose; I feel your pain first hand. Here’s my story, take from it what you like.
My husband and I got married in May 2003, we started trying right away to get pregnant, we were both eager to have a family.
Finally in June 2004 we got pregnant, this one ended in mis-carriage at 8 weeks (It was a molar pregnancy, so no actual baby was inside, it grew faster then a baby and had all the symptoms of being a baby, but it was actual grape like things growing inside, very weird). Our doctor suggested we wait for at least 3 months before we start trying again, due to more complications and higher risk of another mis-carriage if my body was not back to normal. Due to emotions running high at this point we did wait 1 month and then we never actually did anything to prevent a pregnancy.
Well, in April 2005 we started on clomid, and in May we were pregnant again, this one also ended in mis-carriage at 7 weeks, this was a normal mis-carriage (I have never went on the medication you are talking about, I lost all the tissue naturally). Our doctor once again told us to wait 3 months – we ended up getting pregnant 2 weeks after our 2nd mis-carriage and we now have a healthy 3 year old boy, born May 2006.
We again started trying right away for number 2, since it took us so long with number 1 and we did not want them that far apart in age.
In August 2007 we finally got pregnant again, to only have this one end in a normal mis-carriage at 8 weeks. We did not wait the suggested 3 months due to the 3rd one working out without waiting. Then in 2008 we went on Femera (like clomid) we got pregnant again finally in Jan. 2009 only to loose this one again. We did wait the suggested 3 months; it is now Sept. 2009 and still no luck at getting pregnant again. In the future if this happens again we will take our chances on another mis-carriage and try right away. I truly believe there is something in my body that needs that mis-carriage to get things going and to have a viable pregnancy, but that’s just in my head I’m sure because it worked out with our son I so want it to work out again.
Good luck to you and I hope it all works out for the best for you (and us). I know how hard it is and how frustrating it is, especially when everyone around you is asking when you are going to have another baby.
Sorry my advice isn't straight forward, but I believe it is truly up to you as to how long you want to wait to try again and you also have to take into account that it is much more likely you will have another mis-carriage if you get pregnant right away. You just have to weigh how much you and your body can take. I have come to the conclusion in all this that we will get the baby we are meant to have, be it next month or 10 years from now, we got our precious little boy cause he was the one meant for us, so it WILL happen again and I will take any mis-carriage god wants to throw at me because I WILL get the baby I was meant to have when I am meant to have it. (and I am not an overly religious person and but I still belveive this)