Wanting to Cry

Hi my name is T. and I know how you feel I went through the same thing for the first 6 months of my daughters life and its very tough being a mom and having to care for an infant 24/7 getting up late at night when they cry to change them or feed them or even rock them back to sleep... I did it all by myself for 6 months I cried and I still do cause its very hard sometimes I even wish it was all just a dream.

J., When my first child was born, I cried for six weeks and the only thing that helped was to get out. Not away from the child but just put the baby in a stroller and walk. Go to the mall, ball games, whatever and whenever. It made me feel more like a real person. When my second child was born I stopped being so selfish and thought about how tramatic childbirth must have been for the baby. Not me but the baby. How the baby can't ask for anything or do anything, and then I started being a better, more attentive mother and didn't think about me anymore. It will get better but enjoy these times because they grow so fast. Hope you feel better. :) C. G.

J.,
Having a baby is the most emotional thing a woman can do. It makes you see the world in a new way. The love you feel for your child is like no other. If you couple this with the changing chemicals in your body, anyone would feel a little emotional. I bet the music you listen to has changed as well as the shows you enjoy. Its part of adjusting to motherhood. After a while you will go back to feeling normal emotionally. Keep in mind you will never be the same.
Don't feel bad or ashamed for what is totally normal.
Your Friend,
J.

HI J.,
MY DEPRESSION ALL STARTED FROM POST PARTUM DEPRESSION AND IT GOT WORSE. MY ADVISE IS TO GET TREATMENT NOW, BEFORE IT SNOWBALLS INTO SOMETHING ELSE. BE WELL, YOUR DAUGHTER NEEDS YOU.

sounds like post partum depression see dr fast you some moms have accidently hurt their kids while depressed i have had it 2 times myself.. got any relatives that can help watch her a few hrs

Hi, It could be normal but I think you should just consult with your doctor because if they feel that you have postpartum depression then it is better for you and your daughter if you get the help you need right away. This should be a happy time for you and if its not then let a doctor help you.. Alot of women go through this and you shouldnt have to go through feeling this way by yourself. Im sorry I cant tell you for sure myself and I hope this helps and Congratulations on your daughter :) Good luck , K.

The crying and emotionalness could be due to hormones..maybe you are going to start your period (this happened to my sister-in-law) It can be a very trying time but enjoy her becuase they grow so fast..I am alone all day with mine while my husband is at work, and we listen to music, play games, read books, and go for walks (this helps me too as much as it does her..or take pictures of her. Sometimes I feel like crying or pulling my hair out, but then she smiles or giggles..she is 6 months now..It is more fun now that she is older and starting to crawl, she also amuses herself more now with stuffed animals..it does get better :)

J.,

It is normal to be emotional after childbirth, because your hormones trnaition from their pregnancy levels back to what is normal for your body chemistry. I remember I would get overcome and weepy just looking at my son, and any little tihng would set me off. I can tell you, though, I was pretty well done with that stage after 3 or 4 weeks.

If you are feeling depressed and emotional, it is best to seek help from your doctor. They can evaluate your emotional state, and make recommendations for what do to. It doesn't necessarily mean you need medication, not everyone does, but you may. Please don't ignore this, it's really a big deal. Not only is it no good for you to feel so down, but it can interfere with how you bond with your baby. Getting checked out won't hurt anything, it doesn't make you a bad parent or a bad woman, and you may find that it's just a result of being housebound, hormonal changes, and lifestyle changes that set you off kilter a bit.

Hi J., I am 24 and a single mom to my now 8mo old daugther. I went through I rough period of depression and it takes a lot to recognize it for yourself. I would recommend that you go to see someone I didnt but I quit my job and spent a month and a half home with my daugther although it was a struggle financially it paid off in the end. My depression started with a lot of emotions and crying but it just got worse. I got tired of being a mom and started to feel tied down and hated it but its better now, Madison is the joy of my life and I love her and I felt terrible that I took so many short cuts with her but you just need some much needed time and someone to talk to. Its a big change and though I loved her I felt like she was a burden and its hard to admit but it happens and now I could not imagine my life without her. As your daugther grows things become easier.

One of the first times I saw my now three-year-old daughter in the nursery at the hospital, I exploded with tears instantly. I hadn't cried that hard since I saw 'Old Yeller.' The crew of student nurses that were attending to her came running out so fast to see if I was OK, I thought they'd knock me over.

When the night nurse woke me up and handed me this tiny little person who was depending on me (me? you gotta be kidding), and the weight of what I had just taken on by having this baby, hit me like a ton of bricks. Add the hormonal changes and being with baby 24/7 and something scary is going to happen. Seeing a doctor certainly won't hurt and hey, you'll get some time by yourself. You'll also get to talk to another adult. So you'll have to pay for it: take what you can get!

Hang in there, mama bear.

Hi.
I got post partum depression a few times like it would come and go. Mostly crying like you said. And I realized it was from being so super tired. Ask for help. Get someone to take the baby so you can really rest. Rest when the baby rests, you have to forget about cleaning the house or whatever. Our bodies might think that we are fine but really we are tired!! Take a nap, or a nice hot shower, you need some you time. I was with my son 24/7 when he was born he was a bit of a hard baby. He cried a lot and it was exhausting. If getting more rest isn't helpful try and keep track of how you are feeling incase you feel like you can't or don't want to handle it on your own. Don't be afraid to ask for help! Good luck .

Hi J., Okay, first of all, I get so ticked off when people tell you you could hurt your child. All you said is that you are crying, and very emotional. Let me tell you, you are one of the lucky ones. When I had my daughter I was so excited in the hospital{ too excited} Then when I got home it started. I remember my mother went to change my daughter and her bottom was a lttle red. She started crying, well I lost it. I told my mother it was her fault and that she made her cry. I started crying and didn't stop for 6 wks. I went to my ob, and all he could say is " are you going to hurt your baby"? What an insult. Atleast thats how I felt. There is postpartum depression which is normal, and sometimes you need some meds or counciling to get through, and THEN their is post partum phycosis, which is when you go absolutely nuts and have visions and hear voices, and want to harm yourself or your baby. I dealt with so many idiot doctors that had no clue what I was going through. I was scared, overwhelmed, and filled with out of control hormones. Mine did interfere with my life, I could not eat, or get out of bed. I went and stayed with my mother and father for a few weeks. My husband was very understanding, but could not comfort me, he thought I was being selfish. My doc put me on paxil which I am now trying to get off of. So I don't rec that drug. Plus it sounds like you can function you just have crying spells. It will pass I promise. Hang in there.

HI J. I am a 23 year old mom of a 3 1/2 month year old baby boy! I went through that crying fiasco at 1 month, and yes it's post partum depression as everyone has said. I didn't go see a doctor for it because I felt that I could control it. I think your emotions tie into how happy you feel about your new baby girl! I cried just looking at him sometimes, or just with anything. But i used to walk away and go into a room where nobody was and let it out. Do you read any baby magazines, or mother magazines! Just like this forum I used those books ALOT!!

Good luck and congrats on your baby girl!!

normal? absolutely! i believe most, if not all women, experience ppd in some form or another. for some it happens very early, and for others it doesn't affect them until much later. it wasn't until my dd was about a 1.5 that i finally broke down and thought it was the end. i was so sick for about 8wks...i couldn't eat, i was STARVING, but every single bite of food made me want to die. i would eat maybe a few bites of an apple in the morning and nothing else. i would lay on my couch and cry and cry and cry. i would go to the grocery store and freak out and run out of the store without buying anything. i had anxiety attacks that scared the daylights out of me.

it was the roughest time in my life, i felt so alone. i finally went to the ER twice and got in to see my doctor. they put me on Paxil and things are better now.

the best thing you can do right now is know that you are taking care of the most precious thing in the world. you should be so proud of yourself for doing something that is so scary and uncertain. and YOU ARE NOT ALONE. it may seem like you are, in your house with a crying baby, hubby at work; but remember that there are so many moms out there who have been through this and who are going through it right now with you.

you can talk to your doctor about options like Lexapro (if you're nursing) or even just talking to a counselor or a therapist. i'm not sure where you live, but if you ever need to spend a day with somebody who's been where you are, email me. i have a pretty flexible schedule right now and i'd be glad to help you out.

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It sounds like postpartem depression. Yes it is normal to be more emotional your hormons are going crazy. ( wait till menopause ) If it is getting in the way of your everyday life and careing for baby and yourself then talk to your dr. YOU ARE NOT CRAZY. Oh congrats mommy.

YES J. THIS IS COMPLETELY NORMAL ITS CALLED POST PARDEM DEPRESSION ITS YOUR HORMONES ARE ALL WACKY ONCE THEY RETURN TO NORMAL YOU WILL BE FINE, THIS HAPPENED TO ME WHEN I HAD MY FIRST CHILD I THOUGHT I WAS CRAZY BUT IT NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT YOU'LL BE JUST FIND, CONGRADS AND GOOD LUCK WITH THE BABY!

There's lots of great advice here, already, and YES, seek help from your doc. You should treat depression as you would any other disease- wouldn't you seek treatment if you had symptoms of strep throat? Post partum depression can become post-partum psychosis, which then is a danger to both you and your baby. It's best to seek help while things are still in the no-danger zone. It could be the "baby blues", which is normal and will pass, but depression doesn't just go away. Also, it can hit any time in the first year after your baby is born.

HI J.,
POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION IS COMMON A MONTH OR TWO AFTER CHILDBIRTH. IF YOU ARE AWARE OF THESE FEELINGS TALKING TO YOUR DOCTOR IS IMPORTANT BECUASE IT COULD GET WORSE IF NOT TREATED. TRUST ME I WOULDN;T WISH THAT UPON MY WORST ENEMY. I HAD REALL BAD POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION AFTER MY 1ST SON WAS BORN. IT WAS SO BAD THAT I CRIED ALL DAY LONG DIDN;T WANT TO BE LEFT ALONE THINKING SOMETHING WAS GOING TO HAPPEN TO ME AND OR BABY. I DIDN'T WANT TO LEAVE THE HOUSE AND I DIDN;T SEEK HELP RIGHT AWAY BUT WHEN I DID THEY PUT ME ON MEDS FOR A MONTH OR SO AND I SNAPPED OUT OF IT. I AM NOT SAYING THAT YOURS WOULD COME TO THAT POINT BUT IT COULD . ARE YOU GETTING SNYTIME TO YOURSELF> IF NOT THAT IS VERY IMPORTANT THAT YOU DO EVVEN IF ITS 10-15 MINS A DAY TO TAKE A HOT SHOWER OR GO FOR A WALK W/O THE BABY. IT WILL DO YOU ALOT OF GOOD TO GET SOME TIME TO YOURSELF. I WISH THE BEST AND IF YOU NEED ANY FURTHER ADVICE E-MAIL ME AT ____@____.com

Classic Post Partum Depression! Call your ob!!! It's so very normal - I cried every day for weeks.. I considered it a good day when I only cried twice! It will eventually pass, but sometimes you need help, so call your ob and see if you need any help.. good luck and congratulations

The role of becoming a 24/7 mother is a lot even if you love it and her. Your body just went through a lot too. Ask for support from those you trust and I highly recommend the book Post Partum Depression for Dummies. It will have lots of useful info for this stage and you will get relief and great advise at your fingertips. D.

Oh sweetie, I feel for you. If it's been 2 months, your hormones are probably just readjusting themselves and it's just making you sensitive. Don't worry about it - it should pass. Give it a month and if it doesn't get better, then you might want to talk to your obgyn. Good luck!

Hello J.,
I went through what you are going through. So, from my point of view, I'd say it is normal to feel the way you do when you have babies under 3.
After a while and after reading and asking around, I figured I was emotional because I was tired. I stay at home with my boys, and when they were little I was always changing diapers, cleaning, cooking....etc. I have no family or friends around to ask them for help, it was hard.
If you have family or friends near you, ask them to help you a few hours a day. Or just ask them to pass by your place often so you can have an adult conversation, it helps. And another trick I learnt was to make sure I get outside everyday. Go out even if it is just to your backyard, porch, balcony or look outside the window for 15 - 30 minutes and soak up the sun or feel the fresh air on your face, you'll feel invigorated.
The good thing is: it is just a phase - at least it was to me. BUT if you feel like you can't master up a smile and everything is dark and sad for you, you might want to see your Dr. I heard depression creeps easily on mothers of newborns/infants/toddlers. It never knocks.
Cheer up.
ps in case you have no one to talk to or email to, feel free to send me an email.